Dear User4002~
I'd like to welcome you here to the Forum, I'm glad you came as looking at how other people have faced similar difficulties can be very helpful.
Anger is a very destructive thing, often driving away important people we wish would stay, it prevents one from explaining clearly what is wrong and can leave one kicking oneself for not being more in control.
It also get to be a habit.
I'm not sure even though it is the main thing in your post, that just dealing with the anger that spills out is the most imortant thing. Have you considered it may simply be a reaction to how you feel in side and that feeling is brought about for a reason?
When I read the sorts of things you get angry about they seem to be with people like your boyfriend with whom you have a close relationships and the things that anger you tend to be ones where you may be misinterpreting their actions -or overrating to them -when you guess it something bad about you they are responding to.
In your post you list lots of reasons where you might fall short, everything from annoying to ugly. Do you think if you were not to take these actions personally, not as a reflection on you, but just the normal give and take of relationships you might feel better?
For may years I blamed myself for things not going right, and had other reactions and did not show anger, however it was basically because my self esteem was too low, I had an anxiety condition.
Now I'm not trying ot suggest you are the same as me except perhaps in one respect, I could not make myself get better and had an unhappy life until I sought competent medical assistance, and I'd suggest yo do as I have, see you doctor in an extended consutaiton, and explain what has been happening. See how oyu go form htere
Do you think this might be a sensible thing to try?
Croix
