Thoughts on Depression: don't give up hope

Dennis38 · ‎27-02-2015

Hello brothers and sisters, and yes we are all brothers and sisters in this fight. First off I am not nor would I want to be any kind of professional head shrink, I am just a redneck (yabo lol) that has and still is fighting this demon we call depression. First off a lot of you and a lot of other people have asked. "Do we ever get better?" The answer is yes with help, either through medication or simply talking through it, but and as always there is a flip side to this coin, I honeslty think that once you go through a major depression and you come out on the other side we are still in danger of back sliding.

I feel that its kind of like a recovering drug/booze/gambler in that once you go through this beast we tend to start to over think things when we feel ourselves backsliding..we start to remember all the negative things that we went through and we can accidently amplify them. Depression is a true demon simply because it takes so much from us and leaves just a shell. This shell can smile and even laugh..and the outside world only sees this so called tough shell that this demon has left behind, yet this shell of a person that we use to be is brittle and one simple poke and we crumble to pieces.

This demon takes everything that we once were. Sounds kind of strange but the truth of the matter is that depression takes our logic from us first. You see my brothers and sisters depression runs on a lot of emotions, even the good ones feeling happy down to being sad and crying all the time. We stop thinking and let the emotions run our lives and its very hard to think straight when your emotions are all over the place. And yes you can be to happy or to energetic because you will crash and that crash is a hard one.

But do not give up hope, do not go looking for hope for we tend to miss a lot of things that are in front of us, but never give up on hope, let it find you. The best advice I can give to you all is simply be. Let go of the past (easer said then done I know) do not worry about the future, and live in this day, this moment. Take care of today and let the future take care of itself. Oh and let yourself be depressed, do not be shamed of it. Everyone. yes everyone gets depressed from time to time, some of us just get it a bit worse then others.

So keep your heads up, talk to your doctors and do not be ashamed of asking for help. We ALL need help from time to time and this forum is one of many places to seek help!

Be well my family!

Dennis38 · ‎30-04-2015

Hello Mrs Parto,

Sorry it took a couple of days to respond, been busy dealing with two 40 yearolds that seem to think they are 4 year olds and are entitled to anything they want. Ok so the quick answer is no this is not the way the rest of your life will be.

Now for the long answer. Again do please remember that I am just a redneck and not a professional quake..er head shrink...Resilients is a real pain in the rump to get a hold of even harder to keep. But you can get it, you will find as you work through your problems that you wont feel the need to cry every day. Now do keep in mind, like most of us, you will have a few days that you might back slide just a touch and that is ok. Do not beat yourself up over it but do not dwell on it either. Simply nod your head and say, ok I slipped no big deal I can and WILL pick myself up tomorrow and keep moving forward.

As for the breaking the leg or go to work, work would be a bit less painless one would think...and mind you I have had the same thoughts before and found out that you have to be a bit more specific with your wishes. As I use to say "Oh please let something happen so I do not have to go to work" well the universe does listen to us..and does have a sick sense of humor as it threw a car at me to make me stop asking for that particular favour...and being run over by a car suckkkkkkkkkkks!!!!

The best thing I can tell you is to pick one personal problem that you have, and you know the ones you have better than anyone else, turn and face it..look at it from all angles and think about it logically not emotionally and then tackle that problem head on with a counciler. As it does help to talk with someone that A: is not a friend or realitive and who you honestly do not have to care what that person thinks and B: its good to have another person's view on a problem as they may be able to shed some light on a problem that you had not thought of.

Just remember take each day as it comes, for now live today let the future worry about itself. Face the problems you have and you will learn how to deal with these and be able to put the tissue box aside for a while.

guest140 · ‎05-05-2015

Thanks. Just sitting at the GP now. Was really overwhelmed Sunday night and Monday morning. Tuesday has been better. Just trying to get through one day at a time.