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Struggling to remember the good stuff

Santana
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Hi,

I've suffered from both generalised anxiety and depression for a number of years.  At present I feel I'm slipping into depression again, feeling disconnected and sad.  One of my on going challenges is to remember the good stuff.  When I think back in time, it's the negative experiences that I remember most, and I find myself beating myself up over stuff that happened long ago. Anyone else out there experiencing something similar?  What do you find helpful? I've read about mindfulness but I find it quite difficult to put into practice.

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Thank you so much for your comments, it really is comforting to know we are not alone in this.  Sometimes it can feel that way, particularly when the people closest to us are 'too busy', not interested or for whatever reason we find ourselves disconnected.  I have teenage children and I was telling a friend today how I can be so hard on myself, at times I literally cannot remember anything good I have done for them yet I clearly remember precise moments when I felt I fell short. I know that can be right, but depression affects our thinking in such a way that we only see the negative stuff.  She doesn't suffer from depression but could identify with 'mother guilt' and how bad it can feel. She said 'that's when you bring put the photo album, and remind yourself of all the great things you did together'. I think my photo albums are about to get a good work out! Hope you also stay connected and keep on keeping on!