regretting ever seeking help

Sparkles183
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

A few months ago I could see myself slipping back into depression, so I went to the GP to get a mental health plan. Now I am regretting ever seeking help as everything I have tried does not seem to work which frustrates me and makes me angry inside.

 I see both a psychologist and my GP every few weeks but in reality I don’t know why I bother they both must think I am a drama queen and wasting their time it is not like they listen to me anyway. And my psychologist even told me that I am choosing to walk in depression (which annoyed me because I know that it is not true)

I tried meds a few weeks ago but had a bad reaction to them and I am not allowed to try anything else until 4 to 5 weeks after my last dose.

 This is the first time I ever reached out to get medical attention for my depression and follow through with the treatment plan, but now I am regretting it as I feel it has triggered my anxiety more than anything. I faced an 18 month battle of depression on and off and won once before without any help. Even though this depressive episode has only been for the last few months some reason it feels different and kind of worse as I can no longer cry anymore but really feel like I need to cry

 I know I need help to get through this depressive episode but when I do reach out for help no one listens to me. And they say I am choosing to walk in depression. I faced this battle once before and won without any help and I know I can do it again.

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Substituder
Community Member

Hey Sparkles183,

Hang in there! Remember to take things slowly, and please give yourself some time to breathe and give patience. This is a tough tough thing, and you are not wasting anybody's time.

In all honesty, and speaking from experience, not all GPs or Psychologists are right. If they are saying things that make you uncomfortable or question/doubt yourself, then they are probably not right for you. Do you have the ability to find another Psychologist that might be better suited to you? Your GP should be able to change your health plan to which ever service you choose.

I know you feel lost and that you can't find help anywhere at the moment. It is important that you take some deep breaths and find a way to get out that excess energy. Maybe getting some fresh air or listen to some music, watch TV just to take your mind off things briefly? Take it slowly on yourself. I know it feels like you might be ignoring the problem, but you are not. You just need to be in a different head space to tackle those issues.

I hope this helps.

Amelbourneboy
Community Member

Hi Sparkles, ( cute name, made me smile)

I have the same doubts when i go to the GP. Its takes about 3 days of hell to finally make the appointment, then when i have made the appointment i start wondering if i actually need it? Will the GP just think im over reacting or ive completly lost my marbles?

I have had 2 different psycologist, they have treated me in completly different ways. I hope you wont let this stop you from finding the right doctor for you.

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

dear Sparkles, I see that you have posted before, and please excuse me for not remembering if they were for yourself or to offer support to others, but now you are posting about the lack of professional assistance given to you, and I can't understand why a psychologist would want to say to you ' choosing to walk in depression', because that's a real turn-off for their client or patient such as you.

It does offer no or little support and only puts you one step behind which is where you are now, but please don't fall any deeper, as this will happen if you can't get the help you need.

What I would do with the next psychologist, which I will discuss a bit later, is to be up front straight away and tell them what happened last time, don't worry I have always done this although it's only been a couple of times, plus I have asked them if they have ever had depression themselves, and if they haven't I only see them once, sure they know what the text book says but that's no comparison than actually having had to deal with it.

I know that times have changed now because it's much harder to book an appointment within a couple of weeks.

Basically you have to click with the psychologist, and if this doesn't happen the first or even second time, it's still a must.

I understand that you have overcome this before, but please you have to realise that the second time or even more it does become a stronger feeling of depression, as it just builds up from the left overs from last time.

I would click under 'get support' at the top of this page where there will be a list of doctors who are aligned with BB and have experience with depression, so this means that you will have to start again, but this time you will be in the safe hands from the people who know best.

I am not sure whether or not you are working but you can let us know, and please don't leave this site because we want to help, so if you can reply then that would be great. Geoff.

Hi Substituder

Thankyou you have a been a great help, I never knew I could change psychologist under the mental health plan as I would of done that after the first session.  unfortunately I have already used 7/10 sessions under Medicare and  I don’t see the point of seeing a new psychologist for only 3 sessions. But I am not going to book another session with him. I do try to watch TV  to distract myself  unfortunately I have a attention  span the size of a jelly bean at the moment so I can’t even sit through a half hour program without getting distracted and my mind racing. But one thing that has helped to take my mind of things is catching up with my friend for coffee twice a week.

Thanks heaps for your help

 Sparkles

Thankyou Amelbourneboy

WOW I thought I was the only one in the world that finds it so hard to make an appointment with a GP it feels like I am reading my own story, it is good to know I am not alone. My GP is ok and I will stay with her until I move. I just won’t go back to my psychologist I may get the courage to find a new psychologist next year but I have just lost faith in any psychologist at the moment.

Thanks heaps

Sparkles

Sparkles183
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

HI Geoff 

Thank you for your reply

 I am not working at the moment as I am trying to complete my studies.

Unfortunately I have had bad luck with professional help a bad psychologist who I should not have gone back , after the way I felt after the first session. But I was so desperate for help I went back hoping things would get better. I already used 7/10 sessions so I decided to not to make any more appointments with him and maybe find a new psychologist when I get faith back in the system next year. The other piece of bad luck is I had a bad reaction to the first antidepressant I ever tried. my GP was good she made me stop the med Stat and now she put I have an allergy to that drug on my record. so I think she would be a good doctor to monitor my side effects for my meds.

 You are right I do feel like I have fallen one step behind

my psychologist also told me I should not run to the doctors every time I feel depressed to get antidepressants as well as a few other things . that did not help as I found hard to even think about taking them in the first place.

 What makes things worse is I found it so hard to get professional help in the first place because of my faith and a lot of people in the church (not me) don’t believe in Christian’s getting professional help for depression. 

  So with my bad luck so far it has made me Question why I went against a lot people’s beliefs and got professional help. I know I do need help to get through this.

 I did look under get professional help and beyond blue has only got 2 recommended psychologist and no recommend GPs in my area.

Thanks heaps for your help

Sparkles

sinfulbynature
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

hang in there. i believe in you and beliee things can get better for you. i am currently battling my depression and have spent years going to counsellors and gps and all that but it didnt change causei wasnt really ready for it hang in there. keep talking about things and it soon enough start to get easier. just stick with it it takes time. 

xx

hi Cocobochow

 welcome you to beyond blue.

Thank you for believing in me I need that positive attitude right now. I just have a Question for you. You said that you spent years going to counsellors and GPs. Did you find it easy to connect to your counsellors?

 I know I need to take one day at a time right now, but I think my biggest problem at the moment, is I wish I could get 100% better within the next 24 hours, and that the depression will never return again. ( but I am sure we all have that dream)

 Thanks once again for believing in me.

Sparkles

iv had a couple different counsellors and what not some i didnt get on with and couldnt talk to but now i have an amazing counsellor and gp who i can talk to and be open with u have to look around and find theperson who is best for u and who u r able to talk to best. 

wishing u all the best here if u need anything