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My Name is Colin, I've been reading a lot about people's experiences about depression. Trying to figure out what is wrong with me.
My Story.
Around 5 weeks ago something happened to me that utterly destroyed my confidence (I won't bore you but talked to my GP and friends about it). I felt absolutely worthless, like I didn't exist and like a piece of crap.
After a week or so later I thought I was ok but the tiniest little thing annoyed me, I started taking things far to seriously (Still do but I am trying my best on positive thoughts). Slowly things got worse, some days were ok but most of them were not. I would get extremely lonely, cry and question myself a lot.
About two weeks ago I broke down, not acting myself and my family reached out to me but being a man I said I was ok. Few days later I googled for signs/syptoms of what I was going through, thought I can handle this, I'm a man we are tough!
No, when I got home from work last Monday I was ok but during the evening I broke down again and said some stupid things to the nicest people on this planet. I had so many negative thoughts running through my mind, again questioning myself, am I good enough, am I even appreciated you name it I questioned it. This time it was bad, worse then before but I eventually realised that I need proper help.
On top of that I have been barely eating, hardly sleeping barely 4 to 5 hours a day if that. Even on my so called good days I was still self doubting myelf.
I took that first step and reached out to here via email, explained everything and suggested I go to a GP asap. I also took the K10 quiz and rated 32.
Today I went to see a GP, I was extremely nervous and at the point of being sick before I went, even thought of skipping it I was that bad.
But glad I didn't, she made me feel so comfortable, went through the K10 test (was very high) sent me off for a blood test for my thyroid and I booked myself into see a psychologist. She was absolutely amazing and extremely helpful.
Before this I was a very happy, energetic and positive person. I even had my gallbladder taken out and had so much pain prior to that the surgery was a breeze even recovery, but this.. this scares me, scares me a lot.
The hardest thing I had to do was take that first step, it was hard! But I am glad I did so I can get help, I'm by no means 100% but I am determined to fight this and get better!.
Thank you for listening ❤❤❤
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Hello ColinN,
Welcome to Beyond Blue forums..
Im sorry that you have been struggling so much with your mental health....
Well done in seeking out help and going to see your gp and get a referral to a psychologist....I don’t believe myself personally that men have to be strong and not cry, crying is a natural emotion in both men and women and I feel a must to heal our emotional self...
I so much agree that the hardest thing to do is to reach out and you have been able to do that and I commend you highly for doing so.. Well done..
I love your last statement you have said..””I am determined to fight this and get better “”..With great thoughts like those...I also believe ColinN that you start healing and get better....
I have learnt that a lot of emphasis is on sleeping at least 7-8 hours per night and eating healthy meals..I am in hospital atm and these two things are being talked about constantly as a huge part to our journey to wellness..
This is your thread to say as much or as little as you feel your able to...Looking forward to be able to try to support you as much as I’m able to if I can...
Kind thoughts
Grandy...
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Hi Colin, welcome to BB.
Men think they are too strong to conceal their depression of any type to anyone, fortunately, this is changing, we are no different than anybody else and need just as much help as we need.
I have no qualms in telling people I've had depression, people need to know so we can educate those from any
Colin, I'm so sorry you had to suffer this and I know how awful you must have felt.
Your GP has made you feel welcome, that's great because it's your first point of contact if things aren't going well and if you don't have anyone else to talk to.
If you want to write down how you are feeling on a piece of paper, photocopy it if possible, so you can give a copy to the psychologist if she recommends this, it only makes it easier so when they ask you, 'how can I help you', you aren't stuck for words.
It also helps you write down those deep deep concerns you have that nobody knows about and could be too afraid to mention them.
We often have triggers points or situations that set us off and our emotions are triggered, so you need to notice when you get triggered and your emotions are kicking in, there will be signs such, deep breathing thinking about what to do, or in the actual situation.
We want to help you get better and there are many different people with different experiences who can suggest, advise and point out other alternatives.
Hope to hear back from you.
Geoff.
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Thank you all for a warm welcome, it means a lot to me.
I shared a little of my story on my Facebook, people judged me and suspected I was on drugs. That hurt me more then anything as I don't do drugs.
Made me feel like crap.
One person reached out a RN. She knew exactly what was going on with me, we talked and calmed me down. That's a true friend!
I had to leave FB. I want support and not be judged. She saved my life as I just wanted to kill myself.
What hurts is I never, ever judge people, when people are down I try an pick them up. Yet when I have fallen so far I get accused of being high on drugs, I was that mad I told this person off.
I will get better! My journey! Positive mind positive thoughts.
Grand. I barely sleep as it is but hope you get better ❤
Geoff, I started a diary.
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Hi All,
I got my blood test back, everything is very well but not my oxygen levels. I am a smoker and since my last one, my doctor noticed.
I told her that I have been smoking cigarettes a lot more then usual and it is showing.
She gave me medication.
My doctor done up a healthcare plan for me to get better. See a physiologist with a referral.
I still suffer from lack of sleep, but my doctor said in time everything will even out.
One day at a time. Positive thoughts!
Again thank you all for listening. I have a long road ahead of me but hope this inspires someone out there.
There is always help ❤
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