If you are not your own best friend ...who are you to yourself ?

[IsaJett]

I recently had a revelation ..maybe it’s been an overdone thing ...I’m not sure but I feel the need to highlight it to people who have depression and also to serve as a gentle reminder to myself .

I have cut out a few friends and choosing to have no friends ...rather than having friends that are ..not quite there for me .

So now ..I am my own best friend ,,,really ...sometimes it doesn’t always turn out that way though ..hahah because I am sometimes unkind to myself . I say stuff like that ..omg u so useless etc but u all know that negative voice in our head ,

why cant we just be consistently kind to ourselves ? Why do we fall back into the enemy’s hands time and again ?

[Croix]

Dear IsaJett~

I can see waht you are saying, and it's sad that your friends did not support you, and are thus just acquaintances.

So yes that does emphasize you are thrown more on your own thoughts and resources, which in my case is not always that good a thing. I need more balance and perspective than I'm capable of at times.

You asked why the mind comes up wiht things like "omg u so useless etc" which as you say are negative and not helpful. I am guessing but think it is one of the aspects of mental illness, that a productive and necessary facet of one's character, -the ability to judge one's actions - gets out of wack.

Instead of having a balance with satisfaction for doing things well holding the balance, the negative things do, and this is by a lot of the negative things being trivial or undeserved.

I suppose to be your best friend you need a kinder view of yourself. As I mentioned in my case I'm lucky, I do have a friend/partner to supply that positive side.

Would be nice if we could adjust things correctly for ourselves

Croix