No feelings

[Lach69]

Hi everyone just wondering if anyone else out there has been living life but not being able to enjoy it. Like do everything you used to enjoy just doesn’t make you happy anymore and not being able to love people anymore especially family members. Waking up everyday doing the same thing hoping it will get better but it just doesn’t change and just not living life to the fullest it really make me sad 

[mreolsaantioe]

Yep! Had to get mental health plan renewed by GP today and had to tell them about my mental health and I was like: I’m tired all the time. Always overwhelmed. Can’t be bothered doing anything. Would never describe any weekend activity as great. Just want a break from everything 

[David35]

Yep. Sometimes I think it's because I'm getting older. Other times I think it's because life's worries get on top of me (sickness in the family, relationship breakdowns, etc.). Yet other times I feel like life is passing me by if I start comparing myself to others my age. Sometimes the fear of trying something new can get in the way. We tend to be fearless when we're younger, not worrying about the consequences. As we get older, we tend to be more measured about the things we do. I'm not sure that's a good thing.

[therising]

Hi Lach69

It's a horrible feeling, the one you describe, and one that can begin to feel really soul destroying, especially the longer it goes on. Like David, I've found there can be a variety of reasons for that feeling. The challenge becomes about figuring out the reason or reasons behind it.

Being a gal who's a major detective when it comes to detecting/investigating how and why I'm feeling disconnections from life at times, I simply have to know what will lead me to not go into long term depression. Having faced long term depression earlier in my life, I never want to go back there again if I can help it...

Over time, I've found there can be physical/chemical reasons that can relate to chemical energy needed from good quality sleep, food, hydration, generating energy (exercising it) etc etc. Then there's the lack of chemistry, such as dopamine, oxytocin etc from a lack of the right kind of highs in life or a lack of the right kind of love. Btw, the right kind of love (you can really feel) may be the kind where people lead you to fully feel alive. Whether they're loving us by taking us on a sky diving expedition or loving us by giving us a soulful gift that just screams 'I know exactly who you are and what you need', there are times where you can feel the love/oxytocin and times where you can't. Then there's the lack of ability to feel pretty much anything when you're trying to feel your way through pure exhaustion. Just not do-able, feeling any high end emotions when you're so exhausted you barely feel alive to begin with. Next to no energy for me has involved struggling through undiagnosed sleep apnea, a depressing B12 deficiency and pure exhaustion through trying to manage way too many challenges and not putting enough chemical energy in or generating enough of it.

Then there's the mind altering stuff such as low end negative inner dialogue or outdated, depressing, self limiting belief systems that've gotta go (ones that bring us down) or no mental goals to look forward to meeting or a lack of mental skills when it comes to how to live under the circumstances so that circumstances begin to change etc etc.

Then there's the more soulful kind of stuff. We're designed to evolve and we can definitely feel when there's a depressing lack of evolution/growth happening in life. A lack of people putting their hand up to raise us through challenges that can feel impossible to manage on our own can be another factor. A depressing lack of what we had as kids may be another, such as a heightened sense of wonder, adventure, curiosity, imagination etc . With a continuing list of possible reasons, feelings become so important. I've found 'What is this feeling I'm sensing?' becomes a key question. While I've been able to identify a lot of key feelings over the years, one of the seriously challenging ones would have to be 'Feeling a serious or depressing lack of vision'. While I can often see through my mind's eye the best way forward, when I 'go blind' and just can't see it. I feel what it means to be completely lost in the dark. Having just got out of a 6 month dark period, it was my brother who came to see the way forward for me, raising me to see it for myself. So important to find a seer/guide at times.