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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Amanda2000 depression - my coping tool
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Just thought some of you may find this helpful to beat the Monday blues! I've recently noticed the pattern of my depression at various times of the day - worst in the morning and struggling to get out of bed, but then improves as the day progresses, ... View more

Just thought some of you may find this helpful to beat the Monday blues! I've recently noticed the pattern of my depression at various times of the day - worst in the morning and struggling to get out of bed, but then improves as the day progresses, low again in the evening when I need to attend to household-chores. What I've started practising is to look past the unpleasant moment and focus on the next good moment. For example, if I get out of bed, I get to eat my favourite breakfast-cereal. Basically try to focus on the next small thing that I can look forward to. Similarly, if you're feeling low today, try to focus on how great you'll feel on Friday as you step out of work into the weekend. The same can be applied to absolutely anything that you dread having to do. Whilst this does not cure my depression & anxiety, it certainly has been a big help for me to get through everyday.

z0z so so lonely :( any advice
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i’ve never felt more alone in my life. i feel like i’ve become super distant from all my friends and family. I’m so scared of the idea of completely losing the ability to connect with people. I feel like i’ve spent so long trying to find “my people” ... View more

i’ve never felt more alone in my life. i feel like i’ve become super distant from all my friends and family. I’m so scared of the idea of completely losing the ability to connect with people. I feel like i’ve spent so long trying to find “my people” but i just haven’t found many yet. I’m a super social person and talking to people and connecting with people is one of my favourite things but now it is so hard to do. does it get better? have you guys found your people? or even some people? i know that most people don’t find “their people” in high school but it seems like everyone around me has friends and support and i’m so isolated and alone. Can anyone tell me it gets better? thanks to everyone i hope you’re all well

Kaelin Life is hard sometimes
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My mental health is getting worse and my coping mechanisms aren't working much anymore.I struggle with anxiety, depression, self harm, trauma and some other things. I feel really guilty for how it's affecting my mother, especially since my recent inc... View more

My mental health is getting worse and my coping mechanisms aren't working much anymore.I struggle with anxiety, depression, self harm, trauma and some other things. I feel really guilty for how it's affecting my mother, especially since my recent incident. I really just want everything to be okay, but I haven't been okay in almost a decade now, and i dont think i ever will be okay. Every time i finally get comfortable with my mental health team they have to leave, or they get transferred or i have to leave, so I can't actually get anywhere in therapy. My trauma reactions started getting worse since my incident about a week ago, im having meltdowns and anxiety attacks basically daily and its really hard to regulate when i dont even know the triggers, especially because the people triggering me care about me so i feel guilty about getting mad at them, which just means i turn my anger onto myself. I guess i dont really have a point here besides venting that life is hard and coping is even harder.

heyguys need help & guidance
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hey guys !! need help have tried physcologist who was hopeless i always did the talking & repeat my story every visit ! no success on medications don’t work , had very traumatic childhood was physically abused as a kid till a teen then bullied severe... View more

hey guys !! need help have tried physcologist who was hopeless i always did the talking & repeat my story every visit ! no success on medications don’t work , had very traumatic childhood was physically abused as a kid till a teen then bullied severely at school & other very bad events happened to me glad to be alive but don’t feel alive haven’t for about 12 years ! very stressed & depressed struggle to sleep or relax. constantly fighting my own thoughts & mind that doesn’t stop im so over it , i just want to be happy , currently not working due to injury can’t do much i think im at the worse point of my life considering i’ve been abused by family members used by others for help & money etc .. lost most of my friends as they are not true friends , i suffer from ptsd depression & anxiety im struggling to hang in their and think sometimes the world would be better off without me !all i want to do is help & feed homeless animals & humans and i think they are the only reason im still here ,im all alone i’ve got my dog but he can’t talk back , his my best mate .

Collin_G Struggling to cope without therapy
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Sorry that this is long but please bear with me. This is the only place I have to turn to. I’m currently on a waiting list for therapy that could last anywhere between 3 or 8 months. I have no access to medication or help. My last therapist dumped me... View more

Sorry that this is long but please bear with me. This is the only place I have to turn to. I’m currently on a waiting list for therapy that could last anywhere between 3 or 8 months. I have no access to medication or help. My last therapist dumped me after only 3 sessions so I don’t have high hopes for the next therapist I get. I have been depressed for years. So far no medication has helped at all. I am 25, live with my dad and work for less than minimum wage. My social anxiety and depression is so bad that I can’t work up the courage to go outside. I’m ugly, fat and awkward. I have no friends at all. I’ve given up on life. I’m too much of a coward to end it so I just wallow in self-pity and drink (my dad basically pays be with booze now). As of right now my grandma has terminal cancer. My grandad is abusing both her and my mum. To top it all off my cat that I’ve had since I was 9 is dying too. Lost another friend of the family to cancer only a month before all of this. But I have to stay strong and help my mum since her husband is too drunk to care. It’s killing me. She’s against me getting therapy and lashes out at me, no matter how much I try to support her. I know that she’s scared, overworked and grieving so I put up with the abuse. Even my older brother (40 years old) abuses and threatens me too. My dad just mocks me. I have no one to talk to. My extended family refuses to talk to me at all since I came out as gay. I’m really struggling to cope. Any advice and self-help techniques would be greatly appreciated. I’m trying to hold on until I get that appointment but I’m honestly terrified of being dumped again with all of this going on. I don’t know what to do anymore.

Baileysmells Used to frequent here a few months ago, I was moving upwards but the depression is seeping back in.
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I started the year off with multiple ambulance and police visits. I was hopeless, bitter and defeated. I’ve started university since then, found a combination of meds that seem to work. But damn the feeling of loneliness is now my biggest enemy. I’ve... View more

I started the year off with multiple ambulance and police visits. I was hopeless, bitter and defeated. I’ve started university since then, found a combination of meds that seem to work. But damn the feeling of loneliness is now my biggest enemy. I’ve been on a bunch of dates since moving to my new town and I always end up getting ghosted after a few meet ups. Despite it seemingly going so well over the phone. I’m talking weeks of calls and whatnot. One of whom was the closest to my personality I’ve ever seen, I kinda got my hopes up about that and now it’s a source of sadness for me. Anyway my point is I feel lonely, around my sister and family. Around my one friend I made up here. In general. It’s like I don’t feel happy or hopeful unless I’m talking to someone who I can share my life with, and when I have that and it gets taken from me- the crash is so unbelievably hard. I notice my life is boring as hell, my hobbies don’t interest me anymore. My town requires a car for everything and I’m just working on my 100 Learner hours now. I just feel like there is no substance to my life. It’s enough to make me continue back into my old habits when I was really bad. Being an introvert with mad anxiety too is proving very difficult with the uni environment. Group work makes me so awkward, if someone doesn’t show signs of liking me right away I assume they hate me. People are starting to ease into their groups and I’m in class working by myself when discussion topics come up. I passed on a toga party because I didn’t want to be left behind by my friend because I’d be like a lost puppy then. And I feel terrible about that too. Damn I’m rambling, I guess I have nowhere else dump this, I’m just struggling to be as social as I want to be and dealing with being alone. Thank you for reading, the new layout is looking good so far

AlanZ Spouse with depression or anxiety lashing out at children
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Seriously concerned about my wife (40) of 14 years. Over the last year she had gone through a few major personality changes that are noticeable to me. She is often angry, sad, doesn't engage in conversation, spends most of her days on the couch and o... View more

Seriously concerned about my wife (40) of 14 years. Over the last year she had gone through a few major personality changes that are noticeable to me. She is often angry, sad, doesn't engage in conversation, spends most of her days on the couch and often lashes out especially to our children, especially in the mornings. This is of most concern to me. The children are often terrified and feel like they no longer have a connection with her. I try to be there for everyone but this is just not enough. I step out for 5 minutes and she immediately starts a fight with someone. She still goes to work but afterwards or on the weekend mostly is glued to her phone or is doing some obsessive actions like reorganising the pantry for 3 hrs. She sleeps over 8hrs a night but still looks tired and frustrated all the time. With regards to her mental state, I have broached the subject with her on many occasions but she seems to always explain it as something temporary ("I am dealing with it", "I'll be better as long I do less housework or something else", "I've had this before"). In her culture (she is Chinese) mental illness is seen as weakness or some kind of insult (to call someone mental). I feel like she needs to get some help before things get worse or before the kids develop some issues. I come from a family where my mother had anger and paranoia issues for years. My dad never had the guts to get her some help and she never accepted her problems. She had a very negative impact on my brother and my sister too. I would be a complete failure as a father if I let the exact same thing happen to my own kids. But I really don't know what to do to get her to treat this problem. Talked to her mother and she doesn't seem to understand that this is a health issue. Also, she doesn't have a lot of influence over her.

ShresthaR Eternal
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Who am I? What am I? Where am I? I Don't know. I just don't know what my life has come to. I feel so lonely. I don't have any friends nor do I have any enemies. Feel like I'm drowning and I am struggling to breathe but yet I'm still breathing and I'm... View more

Who am I? What am I? Where am I? I Don't know. I just don't know what my life has come to. I feel so lonely. I don't have any friends nor do I have any enemies. Feel like I'm drowning and I am struggling to breathe but yet I'm still breathing and I'm still living. My mother died when I was 22 months old. An only child. Never knew her my whole life. She gave birth to me and suddenly died. My school years were the worst moments of my life. I got bullied regularly. Kids used to use me as a punching bag. When I joined hostel, bullying become so frequent and unbearable. the teachers even didn't listen to me. I thought once high school was over I would be free but once college started even then it didn't stopped. I even stayed hostel in college as well. but after I finished college life became lonely. I was happy in a way. Solitude was in a sense peaceful. But sometimes loneliness can be too much to handle and your parents start telling you: Do this, Do That, Don't do this, Don't do that. I'm sick and tired of everything that is happening in my life. Work and study is giving all kind of stress and anxiety I don't want. I just don't what I should do anymore.

saffy1703 Lost
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I am posting this because I am stuck and lost on what to do. This past week I haven't been able to stop crying. I haven't gone one day with out balling my eyes out. I am 18 and live on my own moving countries for study at the start of the year. These... View more

I am posting this because I am stuck and lost on what to do. This past week I haven't been able to stop crying. I haven't gone one day with out balling my eyes out. I am 18 and live on my own moving countries for study at the start of the year. These past holidays I went overseas to see my extended family I haven't seen in years due to covid. Unfortunately I have still had to miss a wedding and other family events as I couldn't stay longer. I got back early Monday morning and went straight to course. I had a full on week of assessments and stress. I also stopped taking my pill 3 weeks ago because I didn't have enough for my extended week on holiday. I feel sad and down like I'm alone, I feel like I have no close friends, I have no energy or will do do anything I haven't even unpacked or cleaned my room, I'm seconding guessing my career option feeling like I'm not good enough, I just want a hug. I hope this feeling will pass but and the moment I just can't see that happening. Has anyone else been in a situation similar and has advice on what I should do. How to pick myself back up?

Stressed Guy My life feels like it's over
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I feel like a complete and utter loser in life. I don't have a job, have never had a girlfriend or even been on a date. I'm so pissed off with how everything is progressing. I feel useless, hopeless and helpless to change my circumstances. It's like ... View more

I feel like a complete and utter loser in life. I don't have a job, have never had a girlfriend or even been on a date. I'm so pissed off with how everything is progressing. I feel useless, hopeless and helpless to change my circumstances. It's like I'm a mouse struggling to have that tiny, bit of cheese. I have to claw and scrap for every shred of happiness. I'm arguing with my parents recently and I'm just so over life. I have no one to talk to and feel so alone in this world. It would be better if I wasn't here anymore. Recently my mum and I have had arguments with my brothers and their partners and most of them have cut off contact with us. I don't believe life gets any better and if this is as good as it gets then I don't know what to do. My life is going nowhere, in fact it's like I'm constantly stuck in reverse. I've got uni online to look forward to in a few months and enjoy reading and writing. I can't exercise due to muscle problems. I could potentially have an autoimmune disease called myositis which can affect the muscles and organs but I'm not sure yet. I have recently stopped my meds as I went from 91.8 kilos to 109 kilos and am trying to lose weight. If I have this autoimmune disease then I would have to go on steroids which you guessed it, cause weight gain. I can't catch a break with anything, again I'm just so frustrated with everything. I'll be 29 in a few months and haven't lived up to my potential. I feel like a failure as a man and as a person. I never expected this back when I was a teenager. I've let myself down and everyone else around me. Also, I spend way too much money on claw machines as I'm addicted to them. I like winning from them as it's one of the few things I can do well. But when I lose I get frustrated. I don't have much of a life and honestly no one except for my parents would miss me if I'm gone. Sorry if this rant has gone on for too long. I needed to get this off my chest as there's no one I can confide in about any of this. Just over everything really. Also I know it's joy a smart idea to stop my meds but I want to lose weight and the psychiatrist who prescribed the tablets said "these have the least weight gain." This is a complete and utter lie as I've gained over 16 kilos since September when I first saw him. That's about it, thanks for reading.