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[Ellesabu]

Hi to all, I am having trouble with the Black dog again. I have been trying to cope and get out of it but it is not happening.
I have been isolated since beginning of March and I am not coping very well. I have lost all interest in everything.
I am on medication but it is not helping.
I joined here to talk to people who understand, my Husband tries to help but he does not understand.

[Matchy69]

Hi Ellesabu and welcome to the forums.I understand completely how you are feeling.This isolation is effecting so many people in different ways with not knowing when it will end.I have been forcing my self to do things around my place when i really just want to stay in bed and just let world go by.I have painted my lounge room and started making a new garden bed.I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for years as well as having Autism.I dont make many friends and struggle to keep them when i do.This is a great site to talk to people with a lot of nice caring people.

Take care,

Mark.

[Rumples]

Hi there Ellesabu and welcome to the community.

First of all, thank you so much for having the courage to reach out to us. It's a very positive step in the right direction.

Depression is a dreadful thing. I speak from many years of living with it, so you're not alone in your fight.

Have you spoken to your GP about your meds no longer working? That's the first person you need to sit down with and have a good talk. Quite often they're the person who'll get you back on track again.

As for your husband not understanding, my partner tried their best but you really have to be walking in our shoes to really get a grasp of the peculiar world we live in. All they can do is watch for the signs and give you a little nudge to say "hey babe, you're talking negatively again, just be aware". I found that little nudge every now and then helped me focus on not being all the time.

Do you feel like something has triggered this episode? Maybe something's happened in your life?

Come back to me with your thoughts and we'll see if we can't work this out together.

Rumples xo

[Ellesabu]

Thanks for your reply. I am trying to do things but I just can't seem to get motivated to do them.
I just can't seem to see any light at the end of the tunnel.
I know there are lots of people in the same situation but it doesn't help knowing that at this time.
Thanks for caring.
I will take what you said on board and try a little harder to get out of this big hole I am in.

[Ellesabu]

Hi Rumples's.
It is just the isolation that has triggered it I think, I was going omay before then.
I have been losing weight and doing well with that till isolation.
I was also looking forward to starting my Charity knitting group I go to which was starting early April for our 6 month stint.
I was going to a Weight loss group weekly as well.
I also am missing my children and grandchildren some of which we looked after weekly.
I know ther are other people in my situation but I just feel like I have had everything taken away from me.
I am in isolation due to Medical conditions and are feeling like a caged animal at present.
I have spoken to my Doctor and he said to increase my medication by 1 daily.
I am trying very hard to get out of this hole.

[Rumples]

Hi again Ellesabu and thank you so much for coming back 🙂

It's a very positive thing that you are aware what's triggering the depression. You're half way back home as that's often the hardest part of the journey, working out the driving factors. So draw some comfort in that my friend.

Yes, I can imagine how difficult it must be having all external family and social interactions suddenly taken away. Yes, there's a LOT of people just like you right now around the country, trying their best to cope with the situation.

But, you've got US! 🙂 And there's an entire online community of wonderful people here. Me personally, I could talk your ears off...hahaha I look forward to having some wonderful chats with you.

Do you use "Facetime" to see and talk with your family? It's a wonderful thing to keep in touch. If not, ask your kids to show you how. It'll change your world.

How about we start off with how many children and grand children you have? That's if you'd like to disclose that information if it's not too personal.

Looking forward to hearing back from you

Your friend - Rumples xo

[Matchy69]

Hi Ellesabu yes i can understand not being able to your grandchildren,i have a granddaughter i cant see and a grandson due next sunday but wont be able to see or hold him to i dont know when.I am finding that the not knowing when this will end and how will things be after all this isolation.I find people dont really understand my depression and anxiety as well.

Take care,

Mark.

[Ellesabu]

Hi Rumples's.

I have 2 children, 1 daughter and 1 son.
5 Grandchildren, 4 grandsons and 1 granddaughter ranging from 7 to 13 months old.

The 1st thing I will do when I am allowed out of the isolation is catch up with them and have huge cuddles.

[Ellesabu]

I know where you are coming from, I am finding the hardest part of isolation is not being able to see my kids or grandkids.

I could handle things easier if I still had that interaction.

I am not allowed to go to the shops even as I am isollated due to Medical issues.

[Rumples]

Wow! Quite the mob you've got there Ellesabu 🙂

Nothing like grand kids to fill you full of life. I don't think I saw your answer re Facetime. I talk to my children and grand children regularly on it. It's wonderful.

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