Anxiety forever alone. Single girl depression

[Mazp]

Feeling down and undesired,unattractive,unworthy ,useless and a failure. Age 32 never married no kids

[uncut_gems]

Hi Mazp,

I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling this way– they're feelings that all of us deal with at one point or another, but in your case it sounds like you're having a really rough go of it. I think the term "forever alone" can be somewhat comforting when we are faced with consistent frustrations in our romantic and social lives– it's a kind of identity all its own that serves to explain away present and future rejection. But I truly don't think it accurately describes you, or anyone else for that matter.

You may not feel it right now, but 32 is really quite a young age these days. Many people don't develop their passions, hobbies, careers, and interpersonal relationships until much later. I would love to hear a bit more about what's going on in your life if you'd like to share. Feeling undesired, unattractive, and unloved is one of the loneliest feelings in the world and no one should have to deal with it themselves.

Warmly,

Gems

[CalmCat]

Hi Mazp's,

That's sad to hear. But please don't be down, uncut_gems is right, 32 is a young age - so many more great journeys to come.

There are so many great things in life; like discovering your strengths or finding a passion to keep.

There is a great COVID-19 forum via the Staying Well Channel on... Give it a read there are some great tits on how to keep active in these uncertain times.

I'd really love to know how you going, please share an update.

Regards,

Doz

[Emmen]

Hello Mazp,

The societal expectation to get married and have children to have a fulfilling life, as far as I can see, has no basis in facts. Being single and childless certainly does not mean you can't have a happy life. Google this article from Psychology Today titled "Does Marriage Make You Happier in the Long Term?", I found it really eye-opening.

Find your passions, your hobbies and interests. I'm sure you'll find that life can be fulfilling in other ways 🙂

Take care,
Emmen

[quirkywords]

Mazp

Welcome to the forum and well done for starting this thread. It can be hard reaching out.

I am a lot older but I have used many of those words but the one word I refuse to use on my self or others is failure/ It is so destructive. You can I say I am disappointed I am not married, I have trouble with being tidy, that's me. If you can reframe your words and how you see yourself.

From your sentence I can see you can write, you are in touch with your feelings and by posting here you have courage to reach out to strangers.

Can you think of positives about yourself.

here is a long thread Do you like yourself and it is worth browsing.

Gems and Doz have given helpful advice.

[mocha delight]

Hi mazp I completely understand where you are coming from as I feel the same way and I’m 31