need help

Long_neck_19 · ‎22-09-2015

I need help, I know I need help, but I cant make myself get it. I cant go through the breakdowns around someone else and trying to make sense of my thoughts enough to tell someone what im actually trying to say or am feeling. I just cant do it. I don't know how to make myself. I cant get my partner to understand so how am I supposed to talk to someone else about it all???

JessF · ‎22-09-2015

hello Long Neck, it may seem counter intuitive, but sometimes it is actually easier to talk to a complete stranger like a therapist about our deepest feelings. We place a lot of expectations and preconceptions around our closest relationships, and professional help can be a bridge to improving our relationships with loved ones. Perhaps you and your partner could go and see someone together?

Neil_1 · ‎23-09-2015

Hi there long neck

Another option also might be along the lines of what you’ve done here – and that is to type or write down your feelings and how you are; your issues, your troubles – and go beserk with it, if you really want. Just let your fingers hit the keyboard and away your go – unload on a page; then if you wished too, you could go back to it, and then tidy it up a bit, and put it into dot points, or some kind of remote order.

You could then possibly use this as either something to give to a therapist or to simply have it on you, if you do get to see someone professional, so you have it as a back up – just in case.

Again, just a possible suggestion for you.

Neil

Doolhof · ‎23-09-2015

Hi there Long Neck,

You have received a couple of good ideas here. I would also like to suggest that you use the web chat here at this site. You will be connected to a support staff member. It is like someone answering your post straight away.

They don't know you and you don't get to know them. They may be able to help you sort a few things out.

I hope you are able to go and see a Dr to seek help and assistance. You could always write down how you are feeling and just pass it to the Dr. I have done that before.

Hope some of this helps. Like Neil mentioned, just writing stuff out can be a big help!

Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools

saturnzoon · ‎27-09-2015

Long neck 19

I know how you feel as I have the same thing happens to me the last couple of weeks I've been sad and crying and then angry and shouting at my kids and get angry with myself for being like it but no matter how hard I try and I use my DBT therapy it just doesn't help and when I try to ring ACIS or the other life lines I just don't know how to put it so they understand or when I can it just comes out wrong and that just makes me worst and not get proper help as my communication skills are no good, I do keep a diary on my phone of what goes on during the day, but nothing helps with my moods and that's when I just want to give up

Doolhof · ‎28-09-2015

Hi Saturnzoon,

It is really hard isn't it when you don't know how to describe how you are feeling and when you know you need help but don't know who to reach out to.

I find that sharing how I am feeling here on the forum has helped me so much. People here are understanding and non judgemental.

Is it possible for you to organise time to do fun things with your children on the weekends? That might make you feel a little bit better about yourself as a Mum. I'm not saying that you are a bad Mum in any way, it just sounds like you find things over whelming at times. Which is well understood.

Do you have a supportive Dr? Can he or she help you find a counsellor to chat with? I sometimes write down how I feel before I see my Dr and then he knows exactly what is going on.

I have also looked up sites on the web that describe how depression can show itself and have filled that in and given that to the Dr.

When you are feeling really stressed out and depressed, a few deep breaths can make all of the difference. I know I don't always think to do it myself but it does help.

Hope you have a reasonable kind of day and you can do something nice for yourself and your children.

Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools

BigJ · ‎01-10-2015

Hi Longneck,

It's good that you have identified your issue the truth is a lot people have it, but nobody is brave enough to say it. I would say to you think positive, focus on what really matters. e.g friends, family. Focus on what makes you happy anything you can think of, e.g sports, hobbies, TV shows, beach. Don't be afraid to be judged because we are all humans and we all make mistakes we all have feelings, the next time you want say something take a few deep breaths and say "I am the meaning in life". I promise you no one will judge you.