My partner is picking up on my depression and tells me he feels sad and pushed out

[Abc1238]

Hi I'm 25 years old, I have suffered from depression and mild ptsd. I am on medication and I'm going to cbt therapy. I live with my partner who is very supportive however I keep having dips, sometimes I'll be buzzing and be in an amazing mood and the next day I'll just dip. I feel empty and low, I don't speak and don't feel like I have anything to say anyway. My partner is picking up on this and tells me he feels sad and pushed out and asks if I still love him, I love him more then anything but I think in the back of my mind I'm doing it on purpose as I believe he can be so much happier with someone else rather then having to deal with me. I don't show him any affection and we haven't had sext in months which is down to me as I just can't deal with that at the moment. Any advice would be appreciated, I feel like everything is getting worse and I am struggling to cope! Thankyou

[music_my-life]

hey alphabetic numerals

I also have ptsd and I can say it is no friend to me either. maybe if you are honest with him about what u r going through he may understand about all this. I find it hard to orally explain things like this so I write it out and it still often gets the message across.

maybe asking advice from the professional you r seeing may help but otherwise I realy don't have anything else I can suggest.

tc

[Fairywings]

Hey sweety glad of you to join us we r all here for you to help you through ur darkest hrs. Im a little older than you say by about 10 yrs. Ur story reminds me of my story when i was ur age and my hubby whom i recconected with after about 8 years.  In am going to give you some inspiration here ok and tell u things will get better with time u just have to make it happen for yourself ur beautiful and amazing partner will be with you every step of the way believe me when i say this bc the guy who i met in my teens being high school sweethearts left me after 8mths of dating 8 yrs later we recconected now we r married and have a beautiful baby boy together so i hope what i am about to tell you will give u something to look forward too. I was ur age at my peak of dealing with depression anxiety and a mood disorder so i hear exactly where you are coming from.  Being up and down all the time not knowing if your coming or going pushing people away ive been there in the same place where u now. Its not an easy place to be in but you are very lucky u have such a wonderful partner these guys r very hard to come by and that fact that he is very supportive of you and what ur going through this is what's going to make u beat this and become a much happier inside bc everybody deserves happiness in their lives. I was also very insecure about myself coming from a very dark past i had major trust issues but my man was with me every step of the way he showed me that there was so much more to life and if he was in it then i would be ok. He is with me as my hubby now days i do what makes me happy in life and by doing these beautiful things in ir life u will notice it change for the better. Get out and do what u love to do in life embrace ur partner he is there for you no matter what he loves you alot i can sense this just by the way u have spoken about him push urself to think positive in life bc beautiful things can and will happen and never loose hope. Write eachother little love notes this was some advice i was given back in my days and let me tell u it worked it helped us to recconectc as a couple and embrace eachother again.  Stay strong sweety you can do this all the very best xx ☺☺

[Paul]

Hey Abc1238,

Welcome!

It sounds like the dips and swings are affecting both of you. It's horrible and tiring and I understand the pain. There's some information on the site here that is written to help your partner understand how to care for you when things are low. I think this will reassure him that it's not that you don't love him, it's that your emotions are just a jumble of fog and it's difficult to know what will feel good, if anything at all. It's so hard to describe to someone who hasn't experienced it in a way they understand, but that's not their fault.

Perhaps you could both read through the material together.

In the menu at the top of the page "Supporting someone" then "supporting someone with depression or anxiety"

We'd love to know how you go with the info and also how you're feeling. Stay in touch, we're here to help!

Paul x

[Abc1238]

Thankyou very much for your support and advice 🙂 

[Abc1238]

Wow Thankyou so much! I really appreciate this. So good to know that people do get through this and I'm so glad it's worked out for you. I will start with the love notes I really like that idea xx

[Abc1238]

Thankyou for your advice! Really appreciated xx

[Fairywings]

Im so glad you have found this helpful happy to help anytime and thank you so much for your kind words hunny 😊😍 take care pls keep in touch id luv to know the outcome there is nothing more i want to see for you but to see you both happy again xxoo