Hi That_Boy_Needs_Therapy
I believe a sense of loneliness to be one of the top reasons for feeling a depression. For some, it is a perfectly valid reason for upset and definitely something well worth opening our minds and hearts up for discussion about.
It's not always easy to sense what the loneliness is truly about at times. To be physically alone in a room or to feel alone in a room full of 100 other people, we can feel loneliness either way. While the reasons can be many, I find the following to be relatable
- To feel alone with intensely challenging inner dialogue. While we could be out socialising with a number of people, none of those people around us can hear us alone with the abuser in our head. Our harsh and brutal inner critic can be one of the worst facets of ourself to be alone with
- To feel alone with a sense of wonder. Wondering 'What's wrong with me?' or 'Why do I struggle so much when others don't?' or 'Why can't I get out of this depression or make sense of these emotions?' can be just part of a long list of things we can sometimes be led to wonder about. To find people to wonder with and ask the questions with us means we're not alone in our sense of wonder, in search of answers or revelations
- To feel alone with no sense of direction or vision on our path in life. With a solid guide or set of guides we're never alone, while they can help us develop much needed sense of direction and vision/s
- To be alone in our feelings without others being able to relate to them. When no one can fully relate, we can also feel alone in trying to make greater sense of them
As I say, so many different reasons to be feeling a sense of loneliness.
Perhaps the greatest sense of loneliness can come from no one seemingly being able to relate to our nature. If it's in our nature to be a deep thinker or philosopher of sorts, when no one else around us is it can be tough. If it's in our nature to be a deep feeler yet no one feels as easily or as intensely as us, again it can be tough. If it's in our nature to open our minds to wonder but everyone else seems to have their mind closed to so much of what we're inclined to wonder about, it can not only be tough but frustrating too.
One of the best pieces of advice I was ever given in life was 'Find your circle, a circle of people who are going to raise you, support you and help you develop'. I've found the questions then become about 'How do I want or need to be raised?', 'How would I like to be supported through that sense of graduation?' and 'What kind of development am I actually looking for?'. I'm a gal who's come to question over the years whether the raising and support involves mental development, physical development and/or developing a soulful or natural sense of self and life. Sometimes it can even be about finding a circle that involves all three areas combined. Of course, our circles will change over time as we move from one to the next, while graduating to next level areas of development. We gotta start somewhere though, picking our first circle. Perhaps your first conscious pick could involve coming here, with a circle of people who gather to support you. There are some truly amazing people on the forums here.
