Little miss lonely

[Guest_98280030]

Hi, I don’t usually do things like this as I’m naturally a very introverted person who doesn’t like talking about her feelings, but I’ve reached a point where I can’t cope with my feelings very well. 
I am 18, and I’ve just finished school and all my friends pretty much ghosted me. I find it really hard to make friends, and even harder to be close enough to people to go out with them often. I do have my boyfriend, but even he makes me feel like he doesn’t want to be around me. 

My dilemma ultimately is that I’m really sad and depressed, feeling like I’ve hit a dead end. And yes, I’ve brought up my feelings with my boyfriend and he just doesn’t get it. It’s really playing a toll on my mental health because I have problems and I just want to have other people to lean on, and be able to talk to, but I’m so scared to make friends because they always seem to turn, after I put so much trust in them. Any advice as to what to do? I don’t know how much longer I can feel this way. 
thank you x

[crabbycat]

Hello! I can sympathise with what you are feeling :(. I am in uni and it has been hard for me to make friends. Im an international student so all my friends are a thousands of kms away. I live alone and am also introverted. Its hard. But making friends takes time, effort and sometimes luck. Often, if you are willing to open up first people will be more comfortable to open up to you too! Start by googling some questions you can ask to make small talk! Take an interest in the person you're talking to, ask them questions about themself. Most times if you ask people will answer. If its hard to find people in person, find online communities with people you have something in common with! Interest, hobbies etc...Do your best! You will be okay it will just take some time 🙂

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear Guest,

A very warm welcome to our forums…

I feel sad that you’re struggling with being sad and depressed, loneliness can make a person feel that way….

Way back in 1971 when I left school the same happened to me, my friends stopped coming around, (no Internet back then)…a few times I went to their homes only to find that they were out somewhere with friends from my friends circle…I felt sad, lonely and depressed..

I got a job and after a couple of months made some new friends with my work colleagues…After a couple of years when I left, those friends also seemed to disappear…its a strange cycle, even though I stilled cared enough for these friends to try to keep in contact, they didn’t care enough about me to do the same…it hurts..I think this is the norm…out of sight, out of mind kind of thing…sad isn’t it…

When someone hasn’t experienced feeling depressed they just don’t get it…it’s hard for them to understand the pain of feeling that way, can you talk to your parents or a family member about how your feeling?..so you have someone you can lean on…

Now I’m elderly, I found out that true friends are really hard to find…You know, the friends that support you and are there for you through your hard times as well as your good times…people/friends come and go throughout our lives…we grow and learn from them…...they move on and even though we still hold them in our heart, we must also move on…as hard as that is to do…always remember that true friends never leave us…

I volunteered at a local charity shop and yes found plenty of friends while I was there…. But only one of those friends stayed with me after I left….she is my rock and I am her rock to lean on when needed…you might not think it now but I know that eventually you will  find a friend, a friend that you both connect towards each other…a lifetime friend that you can be yourself around…it might take a while and you will find lots of people who you will befriend throughout your life, enjoy them when that happens…That one true friend could possibly be one of those friends….it takes time to trust someone..and time for someone to trust you enough to make that deep caring connection…I know you will find that connection with someone eventually…never give up hope…

Talk here anytime sweetheart….we are all here for you when we can be..

My kind thoughts and care Dear Guest….🤗🦋🦜…

Grandy..