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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Thisgirl92 Feeling lost
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Hello, This year has been nothing short of a life change.. both good and bad. I seem to be losing more and more of my friends, not able to trust family members and a bit at war with myself. I just need to chat to someone who isn’t judgemental and hel... View more

Hello, This year has been nothing short of a life change.. both good and bad. I seem to be losing more and more of my friends, not able to trust family members and a bit at war with myself. I just need to chat to someone who isn’t judgemental and help me find ways to push through

MJD Anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts
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Come here to talk about anything, even self harm. Everything is confidential. Even if you say something about self harm...

Come here to talk about anything, even self harm. Everything is confidential. Even if you say something about self harm...

ReverseInertia Feeling lost, hopeless and not sure how to change
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I'm 34m, I live alone and haven't really got any friends to speak of. I've never been 'popular' but I did have friends growing up and never really had any issues talking to anyone and making new friends. Unfortunately even back then, my lovelife was ... View more

I'm 34m, I live alone and haven't really got any friends to speak of. I've never been 'popular' but I did have friends growing up and never really had any issues talking to anyone and making new friends. Unfortunately even back then, my lovelife was non-existent. I've never been in a relationship, had anyone show any interest and several times in my youth that I did try to ask someone out, I wasn't just rejected but I laughed at and/publicly humiliated. Eventually, that lead me to re-evaluate a lot of things in my life and cut-off ties with my previous friends (a number of long stories but basically I realised I was just being used and laughed at, they were directly responsible for the humiliation mentioned above for example, I'd just grown to accept it because I wanted friends). Since then though, I've found it increasingly difficult to even start conversations with people. I don't feel anxiety about it as such, it's just like I don't even know what to do or say anymore, my mind goes completely blank after "Hi, how are you?" It's made me feel more and more lonely over the years and really hit hard just recently; I went to a social event that I'd been looking forward to and ended up spending the entire night basically walking backwards and forwards through the room and occasionally getting another drink as I struggled (and failed) to even find an opening to talk to anyone. Similarly I just started a new course, almost no one knows each other and I thought it would be a good opportunity, after several days though, friend groups are forming together and I'm once again on my own already.. I don't blame anyone else and know it's something I need to do but at this point, I don't even know what to do. I admittedly pulled myself out of an unhealthy situation due to my hopes of a more personal, romantic connection and instead I've just ended up further away than I was before - while the constant rejections used to hurt, now I don't even know how to get as far as asking. I've tried dating apps on-and-off over the years too but, I'm not exactly a model and haven't had any luck. I'm sorry if this all ends up a bit long and messy, and I know that many might think romantic relationships and/or friendships aren't that important, but after feeling like there's an an emptiness inside for so long, one that seems to disappear in the brief moments of friendly conversation with people, those things are all I can really think about.

Guest_29167713 Like a bomb
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Hi I’ve had depression for many yrs and find that certain areas will trigger it . Which why I’ve moved a number of times but since this rental crisis. I had a server breakdown and hit my head on a wall which I had no control over and couldn’t stop . ... View more

Hi I’ve had depression for many yrs and find that certain areas will trigger it . Which why I’ve moved a number of times but since this rental crisis. I had a server breakdown and hit my head on a wall which I had no control over and couldn’t stop . Between being overwhelmed and worried about being homeless to my young child refusing to go to school due to ongoing bullying she had . To then moving in with my son and his fiancé . Since then we have dealt with a lot that’s triggered my depression and my anxiety to extreme due to emotional abuse /mental . No matter what I do it’s not enough it seems or good enough. We need our own place but I cannot get help as I have no car and isolated . My son fiance has been rude towards us and for two days pulling my grandson away from me mostly . She did it tonight again when my son got home from work and he said nothing . I don’t have anyone to vent all and get support from and I’m so angry at the same time . Not just about how I’m or we are treated but due to my youngest diagnosis and lack of support for her and she had health issues. I cannot fix one thing or fill my cup up . My son puts pressure on me despite conversation and explaining how things are etc . We need help

Guest_36180740 I’m not okay
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I’m not okay, I don’t know what to do, I feel like everyone hates me and I don’t know how to tell my parents, I’m only young so I don’t know why I feel this way and I’m an overthinker with vulnerable parents because my mother has asthma and smokes so... View more

I’m not okay, I don’t know what to do, I feel like everyone hates me and I don’t know how to tell my parents, I’m only young so I don’t know why I feel this way and I’m an overthinker with vulnerable parents because my mother has asthma and smokes so it’s hard and my father has diabetes and eye problems, I’m scared and don’t know how to handle this. I also get bullied for autism.

purpleg Work colleague argument
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I have had an argument with a colleague. I am female, they are male. I work in a school environment. They turned on me after I called out to them to close a door and not to let students inside at lunchtime (as per procedures) . They raised their voic... View more

I have had an argument with a colleague. I am female, they are male. I work in a school environment. They turned on me after I called out to them to close a door and not to let students inside at lunchtime (as per procedures) . They raised their voice and said they don't like the way I talk to them, are sick of getting emails from me (I think I have sent two). I felt it was really nasty and unprofessional; also it felt one-sided (I don't recall saying much).They are a teacher, I am not. At the end of the tirade they said they were taking this to the Principal. Other colleagues heard the argument and have been supportive. I am not ok, won't be going to work tomorrow and not sure I want to go back.Would love some positive comments, I am feeling at an all time low.

Phoenix99 Nothing is interesting
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For the past 4 years I have been in bed doing nothing and staring at the wall. I am not even interested in going on my phone or watching tv. Everything in life is boring. I am completely uninterested in everything in life. I only get out of bed if i ... View more

For the past 4 years I have been in bed doing nothing and staring at the wall. I am not even interested in going on my phone or watching tv. Everything in life is boring. I am completely uninterested in everything in life. I only get out of bed if i have to go somewhere such as work or an appointment. Then I go straight back to staring at the ceiling for the rest of the night. I am becoming suicidal. I used to take an antidepressant but it made it even worse so I stopped. Now I also have apathy since starting and stopping the antidepressant that has not gone away. Every time I go to do something I don't get anything out of what I am doing. No response in my brain. What is the point in doing it then? All I feel is bored no matter what I do.

Bula97 Depression & mental health
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Hi everyoneSo from years on I've been experiencing depression and anxiety it's been going for a long time had treatments done but still wasn't enough I'm still struggling everyday in life and I feel lost alone coming past on here seeing post of other... View more

Hi everyoneSo from years on I've been experiencing depression and anxiety it's been going for a long time had treatments done but still wasn't enough I'm still struggling everyday in life and I feel lost alone coming past on here seeing post of other people and there experiences in there life's I just wanted to share mine I've gotta get new strategies in place and just really help my mental health to be better again and I know we can do all that too.

lil1205 Feeling buried
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Sorry if this is a long post, but I feel like expressing this will at least do me some good mentally.(Put it out in the universe and all that) Since I was a teenager, I have felt like I struggle with my mental health. I lost half of my immediate fami... View more

Sorry if this is a long post, but I feel like expressing this will at least do me some good mentally.(Put it out in the universe and all that) Since I was a teenager, I have felt like I struggle with my mental health. I lost half of my immediate family members before my first birthday and puberty hit me hard hormonally, to the point that my mother had considered having me tested for Bipolar Disorder. As a teenager, I was not kind to myself mentally or physically but I got through it and grew. Upon pregnancy, my anxiety grew worse and did not ease very much after.I have always been prone to being irritable, over reacting, shutting myself off and putting myself last.Now as an adult in my 30's, I have a family of my own but each day is feeling like more of a struggle. I have family history of depression, so I am aware that genetically this is a possibility for me as well. At present, I feel like my brain is always going and I struggle to switch off unless I am distracted by something engaging like games. When I do switch off outside of this, I sometimes feel like the world is too much. (For example, If i have a slow day at work.)My life consists of full time work, a mortgage, family and the struggles of other close family members. I have had my anxiety grow and the feeling of hopelessness expand since my teens though. I know that I should be seeking the mental health sessions that we are lucky enough to have access to through medicare, but my worry is that it will cost money that i do not have or that i will be required to take time off work to attend, which i cannot do. My brain reminds me that I have felt this way for 2 decades (With therapy as a teen experienced) and that therapy is not really seeming like a realistic resolution long term. I know my life is not bad or harder than others and that more than likely, I have some chemical imbalance in my brain. Mentally, i feel like i handle things just fine but then body betrays that with things such as my eye twitching or feeling anxious at random or the desire to just cry and I feel like I'm 10 steps back. I personally feel that therapy long term may not resolve this. It was reinforced more so as I was prescribed an old antidepressant for my jaw clenching (New mouth guard had made it worse) and while it was only for 2 weeks, my brain felt lifted. I know I need to seek help and that most will agree that a long term solution is not medication. I worry that I will try to get help and just be told to come see them every fortnight indefinitely, to which all I can repeat is I had a random anxiety or depressive moment and that everything is fine but I don't feel it. I think in my mind, I just want a mental break from my brain and to just feel free and at peace for a bit. Thank you for letting me express myself on here.

SleepyRain Trouble sleeping
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Hello everyone, It's nearly 3am as I'm posting this. I'm finding it hard to go back to sleep as I was woken up. In general I find it hard to sleep these days at night. I can sometimes nap during the day to catch up but yeh issues at night. The usual ... View more

Hello everyone, It's nearly 3am as I'm posting this. I'm finding it hard to go back to sleep as I was woken up. In general I find it hard to sleep these days at night. I can sometimes nap during the day to catch up but yeh issues at night. The usual too much on my mind, sometime I'm aware I'm thinking and sometimes I'm not. I just want all my problems to disappear or for myself to disappear. I know it's impossible. I've tried calming/relaxation exercises and staying away from 'screen' before heading off but nothing seems to work. Anyone got any ideas? I'm just tired of being tired and everything else I guess. Thanks,SleepyRain