IV been diagnosed with heart failure, it getting me down I can't do the this I use to do. I was very

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I was very happy independent person now I feel like I'm a burden to everyone

white knight

Hi, welcome

No matter what your illness/disability is, there comes a time in everyones life when it all comes crashing down.

I'm 70yo and have a mate thats 76yo. Unlike me he led a healthy life, no illnesses, never been hospitalised. By last year he was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and it has devastating to him. No matter what I say to motivate him eg there is a saying "I felt sorry for having no shoes until I saw a man with no feet" it makes no difference and I believe its because he hasnt had to carry out the ritual I have in leaping over those health hurdles.

So the secret as you will is acceptance. Easier said than accomplished but a beginning is good.

Here is a post on the topic-

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/acceptance-is-this-our-biggest-challenge/td-p/14769...

The second technique to make life smoother is distraction. It's an amazing tool when you realise its power. A simple walk around the block can be inspiring. Look out for bees, birds, clouds... old ladies needing a chat etc. Every walk I do it's different.

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/depression-distraction-and-variety/td-p/275790

I dont know your gender but the mens club can be helpful, even for a cuppa.

Recently with knee and DVT troubles I gravitated to using a cane. I feel so old lol, But I can walk. Remaining positive will assist you in a mental sense.

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/30-minutes-can-change-your-life/td-p/154525

You are most welcome to reply as we didnt get all of your post.

TonyWK

DesertSchmezert

Everyone returns to being dependant one day, never feel shame for when this day comes. Maybe for you the circumstance feels different, maybe a bit too early, maybe not in the way you expected it to come. But we live in community for a reason sir/madame, there will always be someone willing and wanting to help you. The best way to not feel like a burden to be happy whilst everything is going on. How can one feel down when they are consistently greeted with a smile. I know its easier said than done, and perhaps this is your main challenge in life now. But I know when it comes time to take care of my dad, as long as he is happy to see me, I will be happy to see him, regardless of whatever state he is in. You got this and I believe in you.

Bon Courage,
C