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Is it always going to be this hard??
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Thank you kelskels82s. I do accept that I have this depression for life & sometimes I even can ride out a downer. But this time really does seem worse.
Just before Christmas I drove my husband & myself from central west NSW to Adelaide to spend about 10 days with our daughter & her family. My husband doesn't drive & it was super hot for the whole time. We spent 4.5 days just driving there & back. When we got home I was exhausted. I always find that when I get really tired I'm apt to slip into depression. Well it's nearly the end of March now & I still haven't picked up.
The thing I haven't learnt to do is blame the black dog. I do think it's my own weakness or fault as a person. I get "stuck" in the lounge room chair & can't get out. I do know that there's nothing physically wrong with me- it's my mind that keeps me here.
Then our unit gets dirty & everything's a mess - & I feel so overwhelmed I feel more stuck!!!!!!
Anyway enough of the cheery thoughts. I hope you all enjoy Sunday. Bye for now, Lyn.
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Morning Lyn.
I see that you have updated your profile picture. Is this your little Abby?
It does sound as though your trip South for Christmas has knocked the stuffing out of you. And you have had a fair bit to contend with since then especially with your husbands health issues. And little Abby's as well, as that cant be dismissed as a contributing factor. So please dont be too hard on yourself. Yeah sure, the unit gets dirty and untidy, but so what? It will still be there tomorrow (unfortunately). But what I'm saying is that it really doesnt matter. When you are feeling more up to it, then it can all be put right very quickly. So in the meantime, try not to stress.
Your husbands upcoming hip replacement must be a constant worry for you both as well. Diabetes is such an incidious disease, and makes everything else more of a risk than otherwise. My husband has had a full knee replacement about 10 years ago. Although painful for a few weeks, its now fantastic, and he's never looked back. His only problem now is that whenever going through airport security he gets held up because of the metal in his knee. So he sometimes has to strip down to socks and jocks to satisfy the security people. My Dad had a hip replacement almost 2 years ago (he is 83 now) after his badly arthritic hip just caved in on him on day. Now he is getting around pain free for the first time in about 20 years. So the good news is that hip replacements are very commonplace these days, and are extremely successful. The specialists know what they are dealing with regarding his diabetes and will take all the necessary precautions. I have every confidence that your hubby will be just fine.
Are you getting out somewhere today for your morning cuppa? Are you able to take Abby with you sometimes?
I hope you have a good Sunday. I am off now to take Holly for a good long walk. Maybe catch you later.
Sherie xx
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Hi Sherie, I hope you & Holly enjoyed your walk. I'm afraid "walk" is a dirty word in our place! Abby doesn't travel well so the only place she goes is to the vet. And she definitely doesn't like going there. The photo is Abby but for the life of me I couldn't get it to turn around. I'll have another go eventually.
I have been worried about the hip operation but not as much lately. I know I'll be really unsettled during the op so I suppose I should have a plan in place- not sure what though. Michael wants me to stay at the hospital
We didn't go out today. Michaels hip has meant we're homebodies most of the time. I did bake a cake though. A friend called around unexpectedly so we were able to have coffee and cake.
What does everyone have planned for Easter? Only one of our daughters lives in town so she will come around with the 4 kids for dinner on Easter Sunday. Three of the kids are in high school & the older two are boys - you should see them eat!!!! We are buying a leg of lamb each to cook & it usually takes 2 frypans to do all the baked veggies!! It will be fun though - noisy, messy but fun. I wouldn't have it any other way.
Wishing you all a happy week, regards Lyn.
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Hi Lyn 🙂
I thought I would say hello and see how you are traveling. What a wonderful easter you have planned!! Leg of lamb and baked veggies....and your family too!
Geoff is right with the doctors and paying up front....most of the time. I have just seen my GP and he knows that I have been recently made redundant so they have switched me to bulk billing. Some surgeries still have this available if you wish to ask them.
Great to see you on here Lyn
Kind Thoughts
Paul
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Hi Lyn!
I really don't want to overstep any lines here, especially since I don't know your story. I just want to help if I can. Since you mentioned you have had these problems for such a long time (and even went through ECT!), I just wanted to put it out there (I don't know if that is your case). It is very common to stay with your own "trusted" GP, and many don't realize that some GPs don't really follow and adapt to new discoveries. So if you still have the same GP and the same treatments since many years, maybe it would be worth going to another to try a newer treatment? As I said I have no idea if this is your case and I mean no offense, I just know it is quite common to stay with the same person even if that person doesn't keep up to date with science.
I wish you all the best.
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Hi aviendha, thanks for your reply. There is definitely merit in your suggestion. However mental illness is my GP's special area of interest & he has put in heaps of study over the years updating his knowledge & skills. My husband & I often think of moving away from where we live but we have such good medical services here. Thanks for taking the time & effort to reply. Cheers, Lyn.
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Hello Lyn,
thought I'd say hello as a fellow sufferer of depression finally turning the corner . My 3 time weekly ECT treatments are now reduce to 1x weekly and yeah it's knocks you around a bit but makes a difference. I had my hip resurfaced 2 years ago the operation was a success but suffered from blood clots post op. Just starting to excercise again cycling and long walks with my mini foxy 2 year old male who is always up for a walk. Hope you had a wonderful Easter cheers Len
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Hi Len, thanks for writing to me. I'm really pleased ECT is working for you. It did for me too but it ruined my memory which is a bit sad - wait a minute - it's a LOT sad!!
I love the pic of your mini foxie. I so wanted a floppy eared foxie & ours has the most enormous ears!!! But I see your little man is the same. Abby is 15 later this year & has aged markedly in the past 6 months. We know we are on borrowed time. We love her so much & will always remember & appreciate all the love she has shared with us.
Have you been on BB for long? I've only been here about 2 weeks but there are some great people here. I've been having a bit of a rough time & it has helped so much to come to these forums.
I hope things continue to go well for you, take care, Lyn.
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Hi Lyn
Been here since July last year. On the mend but to be perfectly honest I don't know whether I will be my old self again. The ECT treatment is working but it erases so much or jumbles things around. I fractured my wrist years ago and find the treatment aggravates it somewhat. Not a good day today struggled somewhat and hoping for a better day tomorow. Also suffering frightful headaches post treatment as well. Pets provide so much company.Monty is still a kid. I hope I can keep up with him in years to come and also am around to enjoy his company.Hope things improve
cheers Len
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Hi Len,
Im sorry today hasn't been so good. I don't remember having any physical symptoms from ECT but it's a long time ago now. I was often sleepy for the rest of the day. I've raged inwardly re losing so many memories of our family life but I'm used to it now. It's actually a nice surprise if I DO remember something!!!! As much as I didn't like having it, it did save my life & take away that awful pain that feels so physical even though it's in my mind.
I hope tomorrow will be a better day. Take care, Lyn.

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