Dear BetD~
Welcome back, I've read your other posts bout your son with the gambling habit and you husband, both of which I suspect have a bad effect on your mental state. You have been having a very hard time, and coming here may give you ideas of how to cope and where others are simply wrong.
While I can understand your unblocking your son to hear his voice you have found it comes at the price of being badgered or blackmailed into giving more money - somethng you have very wisely decided not to do.
A gambling habit is destructive and drains all around and only gets worse. As an adult he is the only one who can decide he wants to stop, and it is only then professional help will assist.
Your husband does not sound in the least supportive, he used phrases which I always hate -like toughen up and clinical help will not work. He also is thinking of himself, not you by saying he's had enough. All of which makes a person isolated and feel not understood.The one person you should be able to rely upon in bad times is basically washing his hands of the matter.
I can't say I'm exactly overwhemed by your psychiatrist for talking of 'moving on', a silly thing to say as if you had a choice.. As for if you should go to a psych ward, that needs to be something to be discussed between the two of you, not given as a threat. You are an adult and are capable of making a mature judgment when informed of the circumstances.
I will say a psych ward has helped me in the past with suicidal thoughts and depression, but it is not that pleasant an experience and may not work for everyone. Still it might be worth a try as a voluntary patient.
If you would like ot I'd like to know how you get on.
Croix
