i feel alone

Zombie_s3r3nity

Everybody thinks I'm lazy and useless I hate myself. I hate that I can't do the simple task of going to school for a full week. everyone just doesn't get me they would only care if I was dead. I'm really struggling but no one seems to actually care I'm only 14 and I know I shouldn't be feeling this way, but I don't know what to do. Every time I'm slightly upset people say ' I'm not allowed to be upset because everyone else in the world has bigger problems than me' they say I can talk to them, but they don't actually care they are just going to keep living their lives regardless of what I say they don't actually care no one does and I'm so tired. I just want someone who gets me someone who I can talk to that would actually care. I don't want to feel alone anymore.

therising

Hi Zombie_s3r3nity

My heart goes out to so much. It's such a horrible thing when no one seems to be feeling with us or for us in the ways we really need them to. When no one's feeling with us or for us, technically we're the only one feeling and that equals 'feeling alone'.

My favourite people in this world are 'sensitives' or 'feelers'. These are the kinds of people who can sense/feel our upset, sense/feel the way forward for us and sense/feel exactly what we need, amongst other things. When there's a sensitive around, you know you're not going to be doing all the feeling on your own.

Personally, I'm not a fan of dismissive remarks like 'You shouldn't be upset, as there are others with bigger problems than you'. You can sense/feel the dismissiveness. I'm not a fan of degrading remarks, such as 'You're too sensitive, you need to toughen up'. Btw, in response to that one I'd say 'Hell yeah, I'm sensitive. How else do you think I can sense a degrading remark when I feel it'😁. Also not a fan of 'You just need to get on with things'. Personally, I can't sense or feel any constructive plan in that for moving forward.

To put a whole different spin on things, often there's nothing wrong with how someone feels or how they sense things. The biggest problem can involve them being the only one who has that ability. Whether they're called 'the black sheep of the family' or 'the odd one out', the truth can come down to them being the one who has an ability that no one else in the family has to that same degree. Also a problem is when that person is led to suppress that ability, as opposed to being led to master it in ways that are incredible.

What are you sensing or feeling that's leading you to not want to go to school? I imagine there's a perfectly good reason.🙂

Psychdiaries2

Hi there,

A warm welcome to the forums, I'm sure you'll get many perspectives on here.

Going to school everyday when you're struggling internally with so much heaviness is not an easy thing to do. I understand why it's been hard to go to school for you. Sometimes when we hear these insensitive comments people make about our emotions, it can make us feel so alone. But I promise you, you aren't alone. There are so many people out there going through the same thing. You are allowed to feel your emotions and express them, it doesn't mean you need to 'toughen up'. Your feelings are just as valid as everyone else's and so are your struggles. Do you wish to provide a bit more info as to why you're not going to school?

If you would like to speak to someone one-on-one, I would recommend KidsHelpline which are a really great service for young people- 1800 55 1800 or the webchat https://kidshelpline.com.au/get-help/webchat-counselling

Please know that we care for you and hear what you're going through. You are more than welcome to reply anytime you'd like.

Hope things get a little easier today,

PsychDiaries