My heart goes out to you so much as you face such an enormous set of challenges in your life right now. I'm so glad you've come here for added support. ❤️
Being a parent myself (a mum to a 20yo son and 23yo daughter), I can say 2 of the greatest challenges a parent can face involves altering belief systems and changing habits. With your parents' religious belief system involving one challenge you face, the habit of them having to know your every move sounds like another significant challenge. Facing the possibility that they may never want to change their ways would mean that your ways have to change so as to begin serving you, otherwise you'll continue to suffer under their ways.
As adults, we may give our parents the courtesy of knowing where we're going and some general info as to when we'll be back, so that they will not worry. It's the same courtesy we'd show to anyone we live with (our child, our spouse etc), before we walk out the door. As an adult, we don't seek permission, we simply offer that courtesy because we care. It sounds like your parents are still about you seeking permission or approval. Getting out of the habit of asking 'Is it okay if I go out with friends?' could mean changing that to 'I'm leaving to go out with friends and should be back around...'. The fact that your parents are tracking your every move without your permission is something one could consider as being an invasion of privacy. It would be different if it was a mutually agreed upon deal. While parents may track their kids out of concern or care, there comes a time when kids become adults and can care for themselves to a large degree.
If what you're facing at home is a potentially anxiety inducing and depressing level of mental and emotional abuse, chances are the ongoing abuse may lead to anxiety and depression. If you can't see it stopping any time soon, Tony's plan B sounds like a way to go. Offering to rent out a spare room at a friend's house for an affordable fee could end up helping you and that friend's parents. With the cost of living being so expensive these days (something you mention), people are looking for borders.
While I was raised in the Catholic faith when I was young, I found over time that mainstream spirituality was more my cup of tea (anything that serves the soul). While I received a lot of amazing and beautiful teachings out of the Catholic faith, I began to question a number of the soul destroying elements. I struggled a lot with whether to raise my kids in the Catholic tradition, with there being quite a bit of guilt involved before letting go. With a belief system that's so deeply ingrained for generations, it can be so hard (if not impossible) for some people to let go of aspects of that belief system. While your parents may continue to maintain faith in their belief systems, you must maintain faith in yourself and develop your own belief systems, especially ones that serve a soulful sense of growth.❤️
