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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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koi_pond Scared about the near future. How do I cope?
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Trigger warning - unaliving thoughts I recently graduated university and struggled hard to cope on my own getting through it on top of disabilities. But I made it, albeit I'm in massive HECS debt and I can't cope with the thought of it all. I wanted ... View more

Trigger warning - unaliving thoughts I recently graduated university and struggled hard to cope on my own getting through it on top of disabilities. But I made it, albeit I'm in massive HECS debt and I can't cope with the thought of it all. I wanted so badly to recover from my burn out, but a cancer diagnosis upon graduation, I was advised to put off work applications. Now that I've had surgery and am struggling with health complications one after another, I feel so alone and fight to get through most days. Some days I have to choose between chores, a medical appointment or taking a shower and making dinner. I'm never not in pain and exhausted. I'm taking each day a step at a time and trying extremely hard not to catastrophise the near future. I want so badly to support myself and get ahead but for every step forward I'm knocked back 5. I don't have family to rely on and with the cost of living crisis and no where to go if I'm struggling. I'm scared. I've had a long history of trauma and struggles in life but I've always made it through some how. But now it's all adding up and effecting my body in so many ways. I've contemplated ending my life. But I'm going to do my best not to give into those thoughts. I'm doing my best all the time and it scares me how close I am some days, with all the pain, all the time. The pain killers and nerve blocker only does so much for so long. I'm scared. I'm thinking to volunteer soon to help try building up my skills whilst applying for jobs. I'm trying extremely hard to be a productive member of society, it's always been my goal to learn as much as I possibly can in order to help others. I feel so frustrated and angry at my body that I can't do more. Every time I push just too far I end up in hospital and I don't want that. So many other people need that medical attention and I'm sick of being a burden! Every time I try my best to focus on recovery all my brain does is send me down an anxiety spiral of both shame and fear. I don't know what else I'm supposed to do.

Bec98 Weight gain… will I fail again.
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When I was around 21 (2019) I went on a new medication which had a side effect of weight gain. Last year I joined a gym and tried to loose the weight. I lost about 10kg… then in June I went through a bad break up, august I was bullied at work and had... View more

When I was around 21 (2019) I went on a new medication which had a side effect of weight gain. Last year I joined a gym and tried to loose the weight. I lost about 10kg… then in June I went through a bad break up, august I was bullied at work and had to leave my job. No job, no money, no gym. Since then my mental health has been down, down and downer. I self harmed and had an attempt… I’m on workcover because of that situation, i go to psychology every week, doc every few weeks. I have changed medications that many times trying to stabilise my mood and one of them had a weight gain side effect (as well as increased appetite). Today I was weighed and all the work I did last year is gone. I feel so deflated. I am literally not doing anything (other than general farm duties) and I just don’t have the energy. I’m looking at joining a gym again now that I am on work cover and have some money coming in (not living on savings like before). But I am terrified that I will fail again. That I will make some progress then some curveball will hit and I will end up where I am or worse. I don’t have a support system really, just my psychologist. I am really terrified that I won’t be able to shift the weight or I’ll end up back here. I will try but I am just so scared I’ll fail again.

Guest_48546029 My pain
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It’s not always an uphill battle. Sometimes I’m in a valley. The land is flat and easy to navigate. The grass is soft beneath my feet. And sometimes I’m in the sky, floating on cotton balls in the baby blue. It’s not always bad. Most of the time, I’m... View more

It’s not always an uphill battle. Sometimes I’m in a valley. The land is flat and easy to navigate. The grass is soft beneath my feet. And sometimes I’m in the sky, floating on cotton balls in the baby blue. It’s not always bad. Most of the time, I’m happy. But sometimes the clouds sink and the valleys end. Storms begin, and I’m climbing mountains. These are the times I’m left in thickets and thorn bushes, bruised and broken, scraped and scarred. My mind is noisy but my heart is empty. But I’m not. No matter how much I try, no matter how long it’s been, the gears get stuck and don’t work properly. I wonder why I’m so tired. I don’t do much, so why do I feel burned out And then it’s the lack of desire and motivation, to see anyone or do anything anymore and am fine with that to. And then I realize it. It’s back. Then the anger starts. The thoughts rumble. My mind is a mess, I prefer being away from the world cause i prefer being alone I can’t control it, even when I try. I can't be in social places for some reason I don’t write much. I just think. It’s been a while since I’ve written a journal or a book . It makes me feel unproductive, like I’m failing. It makes me question my abilities and my future. I think a lot, but at the same time, I feel numb. But the reality of it is, i am so down but i’ve dealt with it before so am good

b_nderz Kinda feel i'm done
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Hey, A tired issue, just tonight it's hitting me kinda hard.Screwed by my mother.Screwed by my partners.Lost everything I worked for.Left to struggle in life now, struggling to understand why I should continue, can't see a reason

Hey, A tired issue, just tonight it's hitting me kinda hard.Screwed by my mother.Screwed by my partners.Lost everything I worked for.Left to struggle in life now, struggling to understand why I should continue, can't see a reason

Giuseppe1954 Is it possible to have a side effect from prolonged use of antidepressants?
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I have been using antidepressants continuously for 50 years.. For about 5 years all of a sudden I've had a heat in my head, especially after eating, which lasts all day. I do take meds that make it go away for me or even a long nap. Is it possible th... View more

I have been using antidepressants continuously for 50 years.. For about 5 years all of a sudden I've had a heat in my head, especially after eating, which lasts all day. I do take meds that make it go away for me or even a long nap. Is it possible that this is due to prolonged use of my meds? Thank you

Novaley Really need advice - studying abroad....
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I've had depression and anxiety since I was a kid, and I'm currently a 24 year old female university student. I made plans with my best friend to study abroad this semester, at the time I was very anxious about it but thought it would be good for me ... View more

I've had depression and anxiety since I was a kid, and I'm currently a 24 year old female university student. I made plans with my best friend to study abroad this semester, at the time I was very anxious about it but thought it would be good for me to step outside of my comfort zone. However, it's been so much harder than anticipated. My best friend always needs me to handle everything for her and this has been no exception, I've had to organise and plan everything for us with little help from her. Instead of providing us accommodation like I expected, the school abandoned us to deal with it on our own and I had to book 4 different airbnbs for us, all no where near our school, and all in incredibly tiny studio apartments where I'd have to share a sofabed with her. Then, I booked all our accommodation around a mid semester break where I planned to visit and stay with a different friend in another part of England, and the school suddenly and without warning got rid of this break and I cannot extend our accommodation to stay during those 2 weeks because we can't afford it. On top of all this I still don't even have my class timetable. I don't know what to do, having to handle all these problems by myself has left me at a depression low I haven't seen since I was in high school. I've had multiple breakdowns and cried more in the last few weeks than I have the whole rest of this year. I really just want to cancel this whole thing and stay home, I feel like it would be a relief and I owe it to my mental health. But on the other hand, because my friend has left me to do everything myself, all of her travel plans have been organized by me so I can't cancel this without completely abandoning her and throwing her under the bus. AKA she'd have to find all new accommodation on her own. On top of that, my Father organized to come with us for the first 2 weeks so he's gonna be really upset too. I don't know what to do, we leave for Europe in a month and this week is really the last week I can cancel these plans without losing lots of money/leaving myself time to enrol in classes in my home university. If I cancel now I think we could get full refunds for everything, but I don't want to ruin my relationship with my best friend and my Father....

LostPigeon407 I don't like the world since 2012
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I don't like my generation, not only with modern music, but because I am religious and too rare to relate with their modern secular differences. I also don't like the economy today and the expense of living or with education. I prefer 2000's and 1990... View more

I don't like my generation, not only with modern music, but because I am religious and too rare to relate with their modern secular differences. I also don't like the economy today and the expense of living or with education. I prefer 2000's and 1990's clothing and that is not what they make today. Despite knowing Australia's alright, I prefer the cultural attitude of a collectivist society and I hate the individualist approach for numerous reasons. I definitely don't like how modern people don't have any humility and can't take accountability for when their in the wrong, people are too shallow and socially superficial and the look others down with stigma. I also wish people were more light hearted and that actions were still seen as louder than words, rather than controversial because you said something that should be forgotten about by tomorrow.

Maddie-7 Dealing with heavy depression
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I have a mental illness called Schizo affective disorder and at the moment I am trying to help myself cope with bad depression. I don't have much support but I write down the things I need and want to do for the next day. I have a doctor but my medic... View more

I have a mental illness called Schizo affective disorder and at the moment I am trying to help myself cope with bad depression. I don't have much support but I write down the things I need and want to do for the next day. I have a doctor but my medications don’t seem to be working. Does anyone have any more advice for me?

Wreckitralph How long can i take this?
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Ive had depression since about 2004. I'm just tired. I have a daughter and shes amazing, but im just done. I don't feel of any value. I feel utterly worthless and any wrong doings that come my way i think i just deserve them. I stopped my medication.... View more

Ive had depression since about 2004. I'm just tired. I have a daughter and shes amazing, but im just done. I don't feel of any value. I feel utterly worthless and any wrong doings that come my way i think i just deserve them. I stopped my medication. it doesnt matter.

randomxx Life, depression , depressing life !
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Hi to all who may pass bye.l have another similar thread but it wound up full of break up details mainly and l just need to escape that a bit of late and talk about the new now.But yeah, earlier a divorce after 22yrs, 5yrs later somebody new that sad... View more

Hi to all who may pass bye.l have another similar thread but it wound up full of break up details mainly and l just need to escape that a bit of late and talk about the new now.But yeah, earlier a divorce after 22yrs, 5yrs later somebody new that sadly 5yrs later again now and it hasn't worked out.but unfortunately isn't only part of things but has changed everything and l just feel all over the shop and very down, v down with life down, plans and with that not working out to.The relationship was looking touch and go quiet awhile earlier and so l've kind of been living with two plans in life last couple of yrs for the future. One with us and one without.So here l am , to the one without bc l need to leave this property later this yr, it's just something l've known l've needed to do a long time now and if l don't do it soon l might never will. l need to start somewhere else fresh.If that relationship worked out we might have even stayed, as couple it's quite nice here. But as a single, without getting into it, there's just not much future and l've always thought once my d was grown up which she is now, l'd move on. l don't want another place or to bother with more property anytime soon atm though , so one idea is to grab a caravan and go for a wander and just live in that for awhile. l so much need to just minimise right right down for a bit, for a rest , for a to hell with it all for awhile.l'm later 50s now and l'd be able to survive without work for while living cheaply. Thing is well the break up first up all, so disappointed it hasn't worked out especially at this stage and we'd both put soooo much into it and hoped it'd be our last and our future. Not to mention all the other emotions.So there's that but then my new plans now, and just life.l just don't know how or what to think or feel about anything future right now.No friends here, not one in 8yrs here, one of the big reasons it's just best now to move on , but so no one to talk anything over with. Brother was 20mins over but he's moved down to his gf's place. My d comes and goes and that's beautiful of cause but l can't lay all this on her although she does know everything been goin on.She'll be moving to herself v soon to. l'm still working a bit atm and also getting out and about plus getting plenty of kayaking in my go to for all but nonehteless, things just feel all messed up and confusing , daunting. So many moves through life, one reason l don't want more property right now. Came here to be close to my d till she grew up and if l liked it l'd stay later if not move on. ln many ways l'm tired of all though and in ways just wish l could just stop life right here and do no more, just live.Funny though, talked a little about my plan to my brothers , just the once, l won't see either of those 2 again yrs now likely but they're full of envy both would love to be that free again so l suppose l should be grateful. But ldk, l feel confused and v v low plus another on top of all, loll is due and hitting right now. Mine comes every 4 or 5mths unfortunately and it's arrived once again. l don't take anything l just try to keep moving so to speak just gentler than usual. Feel like l don't know anything any more.rx