My wife’s family (mother and younger sister) decided to follow us and move interstate and they wanted to crash with myself, my wife and our two children. They were originally meant to stay with us until they could find work and a house of their own. That was just over a year ago.
At first, it was nice having them to help with kids, but their habits and toxic dependence has eventually outweighed everything. My MIL has no motivation to find work, she doesn’t have a car license (expired) and we just discovered she lost her birth certificate so she can’t get her own house or do anything for herself. This just makes the light at the end of the tunnel fade to nothing. I can’t see any way that she will get it together and start acting more responsibly.
Now we have had to move to a bigger house, my wife decided it was a good idea to INCLUDE them on the lease agreement for our house which I don’t know how the real estate let her without a birth certificate. Now I’m stuck with them living with us for the unforeseeable future. They live messy, the sister is law has no respect or boundaries for myself and the kids. She leaves her mess everywhere. I have talked to her over and over but no change in behaviour. She invites friends around with out asking or letting anyone know. Just last night she had a friend over and they were making heaps of noise which woke me as I was just falling asleep. She also rouses on the kids and is constantly having a go at them for small nit picky things.
Every time I mention something or talk to my wife I get played off like I’m acting way too anal about things (different up bringings). I feel like I can’t say things and that I have no support in this house.
Compounding this, I have just had a major hip operation and getting another knee surgery in a months time, I can’t do anything I love, I’m stuck at home with them all time, I can’t get away for the day and I can’t work at the moment. I’m always in pain and can’t/having lots of trouble sleeping. I have to leave the house for my surgeries and check-ups and everything I come back to the house it’s in a mess.
I don’t know what to do? I’m feeling soo depressed and I can’t see things getting any better. I can feel my anger levels rising. So much in fact that I left the house last night and just sat in the car by myself for two hours before coming home. It’s been a year and I’m nearly at breaking point.
Please help!
