Hi jackjack101
'How to manage being alone at home?' may seem like a pretty straight forward question but there is a heck of a lot to it in some cases
- Do we get along really well with certain aspects or facets of ourself that lead us to thrive when we're on our own? Looking at Tony's list, do we love the puzzle solver in us, the gamer in us or the part of us that thrives on the occasional Netflix binge?
- Is the environment we live in a bit bland or is it full of colour and inspirational stuff? Can our environment be lacking something?
- Are we someone who loves to feel sound? When friends go home and things are suddenly quiet, what sounds are there to feel? Any upbeat music or calming sound?
- Are we someone who seriously struggles with depressing inner dialogue when we're home alone? Does our inner critic fully come to life or the pessimist in us?
I could go on but it's a long list of things to wonder about.
I'm a gal who's a serious emotional eater and a bit of a caffeine addict as well. Basically, anything that gives me plenty of hits of dopamine I'm a fan of. With talk of chemistry aside (dopamine, serotonin, endorphins and all that kinda stuff), I think the question can come down to 'Who am I naturally, beyond chemistry?'. Are you naturally someone who thrives on highs and needs to feel highs so as not to feel what down feels like? It sounds like you're someone who thrives on leading others to feel joy and to feel what they're happiest feeling. You're someone who gets a high out of that, I imagine. Personally, I am too. Who are we if we're not leading others to feel happiness or relief or a sense of peace or excitement etc? Who are we in that break time (from doing that kind of stuff)? We're not suddenly worth less, which means we gotta be something else. The question is 'What?'.
I've found it's more a challenge that a question, 'Who or what am I?'. The challenge involves figuring it out. Definitely not easy to do at certain times in life.
