Frustration and anger

Raven666 · ‎03-09-2015

Why do people keep insisting that I'm faking it? Do they realize how damaging that is to someone with depression and anxiety!!!?? No I don't show any outward signs of symptoms but that do t mean squat. I've been told I'm of the rare percentage of people who don't follow the book. That instead of fight or flight I freeze. Just because I don't show outward symptoms doesn't mean I'm faking it. You can't fake having depression or anxiety.

Spinifex · ‎03-09-2015

Hi Raven,

I have left this site a few weeks back and although I personally found opening up was frustrating indeed, I did however found the over all help was here and kind words of encouragement. I feel also that I am being perceived as non genuine as I explain away about the side effects of some medications to my doctor today who is half my age and the look on her face when I questioned her, was like the joker from batman movie or something. Anyhow," Don't give up" Sometimes I feel I am alone in my world, until I come here and see how many like minded people reaching out for help and answers that are here and if you freeze on the inside, don't stress you are who you are. I was trying to stay off medications and did not want to see the psychologists again.

I came out of the doctors surgery with referral, and a hand full of scripts and knowing full well that the side effects for middle age men can make them impotent which leads to depression and so on and so on.

Life goes on today and I hope for all you fellow strugglers you look forward till tomorrow. I was just thinking if half the people on this forum managed to achieve some qualifications in counselling or social worker or even better a psychologist degree.. Imagine your life experience and the real help you can give to people because you have walked in their shoes in dealing with that dreaded black dog? ( depression) and I noticed that other fellow posters here have found the local GPs seem to not really understand you at all some times, partly because they are not experienced themselves in actual depression. Crazy hey!! Any how You take care, Spring has sprung, see if you can tap into that natural raw earth energy and take a nice long deep breath!

Till next time!!

Raven666 · ‎03-09-2015

Hey Ringo 1, thanks for the reply. I try to verbalize what's it like but I can't quite get it right. I have a brain to mouth problem kinda thing. I can think it up but can't say it or get the point across. I also speak better in metaphorical terms (probably cos of the amount of books I read) I can't quite verbalize to someone that I feel like I'm at the bottom of a deep dark abyss that I keep trying to crawl out of. That this abyss feels like an estrangement from humanity and the screwed up society.

loveisblue · ‎04-09-2015

Hi Raven,

Things can get very frustrating with depression and sometimes you just want to explode because others wouldn't understand and 'advise' you the wrong way. Just remember that in the end only you can save yourself from negative thoughts and feelings. Don't take people's words and attitude on board if you feel that they only make you feel worse. Focus on what you yourself can do to make you feel better and if possible seek help from a non-judgmental person e.g psychologist.

People say when we are depressed we may shut ourselves away from others and that's bad. But sometimes it's good to stay away from those who you know would only exacerbate your depression rather than help you through it.

Best wishes

White_Rose · ‎04-09-2015

Dear Raven

I have copied below a comment I made on another thread. This is generally how I see and experience depression, which may be different to your experience. To me it explains what how I feel and what kind words and acceptance, even without understanding, do for me.

Whenever I have tried to explain depression to people I find using analogies to work best. I ask them to imagine living at the bottom of a dark hole with sheer sides. No way out that you can see. Afraid of the dark and what might be lurking there. How the care and understanding of a significant other is like a light being shone into the darkness helping us to see the ladder attached to the walls. That this light helps us to start climbing and hold on to the rungs above. How we sometimes slip a few rungs, get bruised and can do nothing except stay there until the pain eases a little. Then we can start climbing again.

It doesn't work with everyone but it does help in some cases. Ask someone to tell you about their worst experience and build an analogy on that. Relating depression to another's actual life experience makes it more understandable.

Regards

Mary