Feeling unmotivated

[Zetta]

Today is the mark of my seventh day on my AD's and i'm not motivated at all to clean the house and feel really tired. It's not even 7pm yet and i'm ready for bed.  It's been a rough couple of weeks and my sleep pattern has been up and down lately. Thinking of watching a movie in bed and trying to go to sleep earlier. Just not feeling myself lately. 

[briem89]

hi zetta,
i feel the same way, i wish i had someone to talk to. i have been through so much in my 26 years of life! i have 2 kids i dont want to clean which i used to enjoy doing, i hate cooking, and i sit in my room and sob. whats there to this life. going back on ads cause i just cant continue my miserable life like this its not fair on my kids. hope you start to feel better soon. x

[White_Rose]

Hello Zetta

Welcome to the forum. Congratulations on starting to take ADs. They typically take 4-6 weeks to fully kick in so don't look for miracles just yet. I recently restarted taking an AD. I think I am feeling better but I have only taken the full amount for a week. Crept up on it because of my history of horrid side effects.

I found these pills can make you tired but it will pass and motivation will return. For various reasons I tried to manage without medication but now I realise I just can't do it. So ADs for the rest of my life. But I also take meds for arthritis so what does one more pill matter?

If I can suggest, try to stay awake until your usual bedtime to get a normal sleep pattern going. TV in the bedroom? How decadent! I used to do this but found it actually kept me awake, even when switched off. No doubt someone can explain why this is so.

Lovely to meet you. Keep writing in.

Mary

[Zetta]

I hope we both get to feel better soon. 

[Zetta]

Hi Mary, 

 thank you for your great advice. I found that if I watch a movie in bed it helps me sleep. But I guess we're all different. I suppose it early days. And i'm not known to be a very patient person. And I guess I just want to feel better for my boys and my husbands sake.

I just find it hard that i'm the one who needs help and i'm usually the one doing the caring and not the other way around. 

[Neil_1]

Dear Zetta,

I too would like to welcome you to Beyond Blue and to thank you for providing your post.   As Mary has responded, it does take a while before the A-D’s start to get to work … just need some time in the system to infiltrate things to set our mind mechanisms hopefully on the right path.

But having done this, meds aren’t the ‘be all and end all’ of this illness.  They are just one thing that we need to put into place;  ie:  we can’t just rely on meds to make things turn around and change for us.

Did your GP advise other things for you to try?   As in, did they suggest for you to see a psych or for the need for some counselling?

Other things to help us along are to, if possible, try some exercise or some kind of activity – possibly a hobby or a sport?   Music, movies (as you’ve written), books and another biggie that I find are animals – namely, pets.

Work is another thing – but if you’ve got little ones at home, then there is a job there isn’t it – and the pay for that isn’t that flash either is it?

You also mentioned something that I’ve read so often on this site, about how you’re the one who is really needing help and to be looked after, yet you’re the one who is expected to do that for others.  At this time, Zetta I hope you can continue to try and find some support and help  -  I hear that you want to get better for your boys and your husband, but hopefully your husband might be able to rally some support for you as well.  To help lighten your load a bit.

Hope some of this was helpful.

Kind regards

Neil

[Zetta]

Hi Niel, 

I have seen my GP and he has suggested a Pshyc and to go and see him if i need to talk to someone. Because I homeschool its not always possible to go and see someone when I need it as School takes priority. 

I do love running and boxing. I just need to find the time for it when someone can watch the boys for me. I get up at 5:30 and do bible study and my husband works alternate shift so he's not always home in the mornings. 

Yes the pay for my job isn't that flash but the rewards of seeing my boys achieve soo much more than in school and them being happy out weights the fact that I don't get paid like anyone else!! I get paid in lots of love. 

 I hope so too. I have given him some information about depression and he has not read it yet. I thought he would be more interested to help me. Or am I expecting too much too soon from him? 

Thanks for your advice. I think I need to go and talk to my GP today or tomorrow.

[Neil_1]

Dear Zetta,

Great to hear back from you.

I think getting back to your GP is a very good move and to chat about different alternatives that you might be able to incorporate.

Getting paid in love can never be underestimated … and seeing how they enjoy things, pick things up and if they’re open enough to talk about their day is just sensational.  I’ve got a 17yo and a 15yo and we are finding the older they get, the better they are to be with.  Have been having wonderful chats and talks for many years now and it’s a really awesome thing to see them develop and become their own person.  You’ve got all these wonderful things to look forward too.

I know we have so much more ahead of us too, as there’ll be so many other things to feature and develop amazing memories.

Running and boxing are great things … now it’s just the matter of trying to incorporate one or both of them into your week.  I’m sure you should be able to find a spare window of opportunity where you can get your husband to be there for the kids, even for half an hour, so you can get out and exercise a couple of times a week.  Even small bits of this, I’m sure would have an amazing positive effect for you.

What you’ve done with getting him some information to read is a great thing … but it can be sometimes like leading a horse to water, but will it actually take a drink.  Another option, if you feel comfortable in doing so, could be to get him to go along with you to a GP appointment;  that way he can get the low-down direct from your GP.  I guess that’s also if your GP would be ok to do so, just so your husband can be a lot more aware of what this is all about and how with him knowing more about it, will be a massive boost for you.

Would love for you to keep in touch.

Kind regards

Neil

[Zetta]

Hey Niel, my husband has already had a chat with the GP last week at my last appointment. So i'm a little lost as what I should. 

 Zetta

[Neil_1]

Hi Zetta

Ok, that is good … is it not?  That your husband has been … do you think he maybe learnt something that he wasn’t aware of prior?  Afterwards did he ask or enquire about how you are?   And has he been any different since this appointment?  Ie:  is he helping more about the house or with the kids, etc?

If none of those, I’d be inclined to ask him if it’s possible for you to get some ‘me time’ in the future … so you can do some things that you might enjoy?  Like, possibly going out for a run or a session of boxing;  perhaps off to the hair dresser or book yourself in for a massage or some kind of pampering.

Do you think this could be something that might happen or work?

Neil