feeling depressed and run down

[ashleigh87]

hi im new here and not sure how to beginning about whats going on

[Sheiknah]

Hi there,

I'm new too and just had a big ramble last night on my 1st post ! must have sounded like a #@&%  ! Been feeling really down especially since last night. I dropped 4 tablets so I could just go to sleep and feel better. My poor husband had to deal with me crying and throwing snotty tissues everywhere till I fell asleep yelling about how I hate my life ! lol There you go that's whats been going on ! What about you ?

[geoff]

dear Ashleigh, welcome aboard, what you can do is reply to your own comment where it says 'post this reply' which is under this white box that I am typing in now and when you have finished then click 'post this reply'.

The wheel will spin around until your reply has been sent and then a window will come back and say 'thankyou for your post it has to be checked by the moderators before it is put onto the site', and this will happen the next day, as it takes a day for them to check all the reply posts.

Then you can click 'online forums' where it will bring you back to a list of other comments, and then click onto any other comment that you want to reply to.

The spinning wheel at the top left spins for awhile so you have to be patient, it's not instant, and then 'All Posts' New Posts' My Posts' appears where you can click on any of these 3 boxes, to see other peoples comments.

It takes a bit to get used to be able to manoeuvre around, but practice makes it faster.

You can also type a name in the search bar at the top right and pc will come up with a list of previous comments.

Anyone can post as they say which only means putting a reply or comment onto this site, and any problems they personally have regarding depression and all the other issues and wait until the next day to be able to read any replies. Good luck. Geoff.

[SL]

hi all

im brand new to this too, im just having the worst time, i read this thread title and thought thats exactly how im feeling right now...... just so run down. 

sheiknah im with you on that front, my tissue supply is down to nothing, my eyes are sore and my partners patience is wearing thin!

[geoff]

dear SL, it's terrible illness this damn depression, and there are so many people who suffer from it, and this also includes those who are in denial, which happened to me, refusing to believe that I was depressed.

This feeling of being in denial just bounces along for any amount of time, and when we realise that we do have it, it's far too late, because we are sucked in to the void of depression.

Please if you can spend a little time to let us know why you are feeling like this. Geoff.

[SL]

hey geoff

ive only recently come to terms with the fact that i may have depression. i havent been diagnosed because im afraid to admit it to my GP or anyone else, this is the only place i feel comfortable with admitting it. my temper is worse i snap over insignificant and tiny things, ive isolated myself from friends and blamed it on everyone else but myself. i feel like the world is against me and that nothing is good enough in my life, im a failure and useless. im ruining the one thing in my life that makes me remotely happy and thats my relationship with my partner of 3 years. he's been there through thick and thin with me but recently ive been unbearable to him, i snap over nothing and because i dont have friends to talk to i take it out on him. i make him feel unappreciated and like he's a bad person all the time and as he's told me a thousand times his patience is wearing thin, he cant continue to be this horrible person i make him out to be. im sabotaging the only good thing going for me and i think its time for me to help myself before he leaves. he's trying so hard to be there for me but can only take so much. ive run myself down, crying for no reason and my thoughts are getting the best of me.

sorry for the rant but thanks for asking geoff, i appreciate it.

i know my first step is to suck it up and see my GP but unless im pushed by my partner i'll just continue on like this realisation of depression never happened.

[geoff]

dear SL, thanks for having the trust in us, and thanks for getting back to us.

It's never easy to recognise that we maybe suffering from any sort of depression, because we think that by having this illness is where all loony's are kept, and are isolated and wrapped up in straight jackets, and not only you but myself felt the same.

The stigma involved and how we believe that our 'friends' would think that we are crazy has a strong impact on whether we are game enough to mention anything to them.

But when the time comes and finally decide to do something about getting any help, because our relationship is being jeopardised and in threat of breaking up, then this is the the first step for getting help.

The rate of people seeing their doctor because of depression is enormously high, and when you go to your pharmacy you can see how many people who are actually taking antidepressants.

Doctors know that this illness is very common, so by seeing you won't be a shock what's so ever.

Because you love your boyfriend who you don't want to lose, you will be achieving two goals here, 1. to keep him and 2. to help yourself to be able to either control it or to overcome it.

Please let us know how you get on, it's important for us to get any feedback, and I hope that's is affirmative. L Geoff. x

[Dennis38]

SL I am going to chime in here and give some advice to you. First go to your GP and talk with them, second do not make your partner push you into this, because you are going to get your defences up if he does push you into it and that will not help you.

Its better if you just "suck it up" and go see your GP yourself you need to do this for YOU not for anyone else. If someone pushes you into going to counciling then the counciling will not help you as much as it would if you went yourself. Because if you go yourself you will not have put up as many walls!