Extremely sad after loosing my best friend

[Guest_41275303]

Hi all, I lost my fur baby last year, which at being 36years old and unmarried with no kids. He was my baby. I also have a chronic illness which I’ve been fighting for 15 years. Lately I’ve just felt worthless and very sad. I have no time for anyone and could easily get in the car and drive away from it all. I also have huge pressure from my family with no support from them. I was diagnosed with depression 13 years ago. And I thought I was doing well, but now that I’ve lost my baby it’s showing its ugly face again. Does anyone feel like the world is just sitting on them and there is no escape from all the pressure and sadness. My friend is urging me to see a Dr to get some help. But I’m just scared that they will reject my issues and say it’s all in my head. 

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

Thankyou for writing in, it takes courage on such topics.

Grief is an individual thing and it could take some time before you'll recover. Of course after such time since your baby passed it could be time to fill your heart with another pet?

I'm concerned with the pressure you are getting from family. With a mental health issue one of the best things I've ever mastered is not to answer the phone if I'm not 100% willing to risk an upset. Use the phone to your advantage not theirs. If they dont leave a message its isnt important enough to follow up with, if they leave an important message you can text them and say when you'll ring them back. You dont need to give a reason why.'

Managing toxic people is an art that is worth the effort to find new ways to counter them. That could include removing them from your life if their toxicity rubs against you too much. Protecting yourself is important for those with depression and other mental health issues.

I think your friend is right - see a GP and I hope you feel better soon. Repost if you like.

TonyWK