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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Ash-H Depression and loneliness
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So my psychiatrist diagnosed me with major depressive disorder (going through a major depressive episode post multiple stressors including a divorce)So much of the ‘treatment’ recommendations you find for MDD and dealing with a divorce and friendship... View more

So my psychiatrist diagnosed me with major depressive disorder (going through a major depressive episode post multiple stressors including a divorce)So much of the ‘treatment’ recommendations you find for MDD and dealing with a divorce and friendship breakdowns suggest leaning on friends and family and forging strong social connections. What that doesn’t take into account is:- it’s hard enough being social being neurodivergent- your friends and family don’t want to be around you when you’re severely depressed- it’s really hard to make new friends when you’re severely depressedIt just feels impossible

Daniel12 Help. I don’t know who I am supposed to be and feel lost
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Hello there I don’t usually do anything like this but I wanted to see if anyone has any advice for me. I am a 25 yr old who on the surface should have everything under control as I have a good job, good family yet I increasingly feel like I don’t kno... View more

Hello there I don’t usually do anything like this but I wanted to see if anyone has any advice for me. I am a 25 yr old who on the surface should have everything under control as I have a good job, good family yet I increasingly feel like I don’t know what makes me who I am and often feel down and flat when trying to find answers. I know people have much more reason to be depressed than someone like myself but I just constantly felt flat and lost searching for how I am supposed to be and what makes me who I am. I have been trying to find a partner which has been the source of countless rejection which is all part of it I know but often I’m left feeling like I’m quite a boring person with nothing really that interesting to tell anyone and I am confused as to how to act I’m usually a quiet natured person but I feel this incredible pressure that I can’t be like that and I am confused as to where I am at with my life it is difficult for me to put into words I guess it’s just a lost type of feeling of what my place is and who I am and I thought at 25 I might have an idea of this I know my post hasn’t given a great deal to go off but if anyone has experienced similar at my age I’d be glad to hear what approach you took thanks

Alel Ashamed of having chemical imbalance
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I got diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression. I'm also dealing with agoraphobia and emetophobia. Everytime I think about it I feel broken. I know when the medication works and I learn coping skills, everything is going to get better. But I can'... View more

I got diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression. I'm also dealing with agoraphobia and emetophobia. Everytime I think about it I feel broken. I know when the medication works and I learn coping skills, everything is going to get better. But I can't stop feeling ashamed of what I went through and having to take medication. The fact that I have a broken brain and need to do more to make sure I don't break compared to normal people is the worst. I feel so different and tired.

Speechless Feeling extremely distressed
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I can’t stop it feeling so extremely upset crying and with constant anxiety attacks. I feel so so depressed and lost. Every few days I’m just okay and slightly able to function and then the other days I’m in so much emotional pain I cry all day and c... View more

I can’t stop it feeling so extremely upset crying and with constant anxiety attacks. I feel so so depressed and lost. Every few days I’m just okay and slightly able to function and then the other days I’m in so much emotional pain I cry all day and can’t function at all with anxiety attacks and it’s quite extreme. i will go to have a shower and end up not even being able to do that because I have crying attacks in the pit of my stomach and have to let it out with the anxiety attacks. It’s happens all day and even in the night when I’m not asleep or I have nightmares. I’ve been under so much pressure lately and we’ve sold my sanctuary, my home of 5 acres I’ve lived for 26 years which has a view and all the wild birds I feed. It’s always been my space, my grounding thru my illness since I was 14. My dad came and said he wanted to sell 3 months ago as fast as he could to invest in shares so he could get my sister a house(she’s a single mum). There was no negotiation or planning , just hurry up all winter trying to find a house to live. None had backyards and we’re all so close to people I was not used to and it gave me severe anxiety. We were under so much pressure from dad to find a place mum and I and him, there was only one place we looked at that was okay and I felt relaxed in and mum liked and it was a big block, a 70s house with a sea view and filled with lots of sheds and rainwater tanks.When your being forced to look at places that freak you out, and there isn’t much else you go with what is okay. So we’ve sold our acres but still living here just yet. It’s extremely hard, grieving this place with all it has and the apprehension of going to something not so great. This home has always helped my mental health and the one thing I had left that made me happy and content and now it’s going to be gone. It’s been my identity. Now I spiral out of control in my thinking. The backyard is so horrible there. It’s cement paths everywhere and sheds. It’s small and the soil is compacted clay. there’s no lawn.I will need to house my chickens there. I dreamt of making it a lawn and cottage garden with lots of native plants to attract native birds but it’s so much work and my parents prob wouldn’t help. I’d need a jackhammer to just get out all the hard concrete and to pull down sheds etc.And it’s all 70s make you want to throw up out the back and inside somewhat.And the unfamiliar feelings of this rundown 70s urban place.I feel heartbroken I’m used to open spaces and lawns

Alel Self improvement feels like a chore
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So I have to overcome anxiety, depression, agoraphobia, emetophobia and just learning to be resilient. I am on medication for two weeks now. I know it doesn't work straight away. I find myself just sitting on my phone the whole day. I have managed to... View more

So I have to overcome anxiety, depression, agoraphobia, emetophobia and just learning to be resilient. I am on medication for two weeks now. I know it doesn't work straight away. I find myself just sitting on my phone the whole day. I have managed to do things I never could before, like make my breakfast and go bathroom on my own. But I still find some tasks hard. To overcome my mental illness and fears, I need to learn coping skills and face them. That includes taking showers, going out and walking. But I can't get myself to do any of that. Not only because I'm terrified, but I just feel like everything that is supposed to get me better, feels so exhausting even just thinking about it. Since I want to get better, shouldn't I be eager to do these things to ger better? Or do I not want to? I feel like I have to be mentally prepared for every little thing that happens, but no matter how much I try to prepare myself, I somehow never feel prepared and the task just causes me to be anxious and tired.

vulnerable I’m just so lost and afraid
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Context, I’m nearing my 50th birthday and have nobody I can honestly say is more than a close acquaintance. From 2004 to 2020 I was in an abusive relationship with a toxically narcissist wife the ending of that of course cost me my home and half of m... View more

Context, I’m nearing my 50th birthday and have nobody I can honestly say is more than a close acquaintance. From 2004 to 2020 I was in an abusive relationship with a toxically narcissist wife the ending of that of course cost me my home and half of my life with my two kids. In trying to rebuild I met a wonderful lady whom I fell very much in love with. A strong and independent single mother who unlike me has very much got her life together. For almost 4 years she has been something of a rock for me but unfortunately it looks like my inability to make plans is now more than she is willing to deal with and it seems like this relationship too is going to end. I’m unable to express just how sad this is making me feel, at times it’s just my kids that keep me from ending it all. I’ve known I’ve got anxiety quite badly and to some extent I’m being treated for that with regular medication. Though I hate to admit it I’m now quite convinced I also have significant depression too and probably have had for many many years. I don’t know who I am anymore, I lack energy, motivation or any lasting moment of happiness. I don’t ever know what I would like to do and even former hobbies from my better days just feel like ghosts of my past. I feel trapped by myself in this endless cycle of misery, heartbreak and dreams that never come true. I don’t know what to do, where to turn to or how to break the cycle. As I said before if I didn’t love my children as much as I do I’d just wish my life over to end the misery. I was able to talk about this with my mother but unfortunately she lost her battle with cancer last year so she too is lost to me. I know I’m not a bad person I’m loyal, generous, romantic in ways and kind hearted. I just don’t seem to be able to break out of this depression and it is destroying me.

Diallo Anxious hopeless and depressed
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I have anxiety, depression, I’m angry most of the time and I feel disgust

I have anxiety, depression, I’m angry most of the time and I feel disgust

cv02 I am ok today
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Hi all, I've posted here a few times when I've felt depressed and helpless and realised that I only ever post about severe lows and never when I'm ok. So, even though I doubt anyone cares - I am ok today. Will I have an episode in the future? Maybe. ... View more

Hi all, I've posted here a few times when I've felt depressed and helpless and realised that I only ever post about severe lows and never when I'm ok. So, even though I doubt anyone cares - I am ok today. Will I have an episode in the future? Maybe. But not today. Today I feel ok. And to be honest it feels good knowing that there are times when I'm ok.

Kitty88 What to do?
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Hi, I haven't wrote in a while but I'm struggling, so much has been happening and I've just been trying to keep the brave face but it's hard now.... My health is still crap I've been in and out of hospital all year for my heart and lungs. And now my ... View more

Hi, I haven't wrote in a while but I'm struggling, so much has been happening and I've just been trying to keep the brave face but it's hard now.... My health is still crap I've been in and out of hospital all year for my heart and lungs. And now my 5year old has been told he most likely needs another operation on his kidney! I feel so defeated, I don't want him to suffer or to hate me for making him have it if he needs too! The last few weeks I have drunk myself into a lot of debt over this and alot of things and now I don't know what to do... I have failed as a parent come next week I won't have no money... how could I let myself get to this? I'm a freaking failure! My son deserves better! I don't think I can do this anymore, he deserves way better then me...

Kat555 What if you lack motivation to change ?
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I am a woman in my 30s and things have going on for a while i know. I have sought help from psychology but I feel all i get often is " do breathing exercises" and " get up and start doing what you love" etc. It's all great in theory but it just doesn... View more

I am a woman in my 30s and things have going on for a while i know. I have sought help from psychology but I feel all i get often is " do breathing exercises" and " get up and start doing what you love" etc. It's all great in theory but it just doesn't work for me, I don't understand why? I feel like its a lack of motivation on an extreme. I am quite isolated as i moved to another country 10 years ago and except for my partner and my child, I feel i have failed to make meaningful friendships or to have a support network, so I have been living in the name of him and our child and now going somewhere alone feels sort of daunting or pointless even though I know, this is needed such as going to some exercise class, to improve my self-confidence. Like i feel that i won't really need anyone else but them but I know he needs his time on the other hand i expect him to be my support in everything and I know it is exhausting for him. I constantly feel like other people out there have their friend's circles and activities they do but i feel like I don't belong. Something is holding me back from going out there and doing things by myself and making myself feel better and I don't understand what it is. I know people say "Just go do it" Well if it was that easy i would have and i feel like i am letting myself down constantly yet can not pinpoint what is holding me back. Its worth mentioning that I am working almost 60 hours a week every week and I constantly struggle with time and exhaustion. Unfortunately, this is also something that I can not change at this point of time due to financial responsibilities. I am also constantly worried that something bad might happen to our child, if I am not there, like no one else would not know how to protect him better. I do not want to take any medication unless its something on the natural side. I constantly miss my home, my family and my country and the support network i had there. Its a mess and I am not sure what to do. I was hoping that there might have been people in similar situations who could share some practical tips. Thank you kindly