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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Dadconcern Lost.
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The title of this is just how I feel...Lost. I've just turned 60 & I think that has hit me like a freight train. The lost opportunities now playing over & over in my head, like a constant reminder of how I've never taken any chances, just stayed comf... View more

The title of this is just how I feel...Lost. I've just turned 60 & I think that has hit me like a freight train. The lost opportunities now playing over & over in my head, like a constant reminder of how I've never taken any chances, just stayed comfortable & safe. I've have many hobbies that I no longer pursue. I'm long time divorced & single, I have a good family...I have 2 wonderful young grandaughters who I see regularly & adore with all that I am, & yet, here I am now, feeling lost, somewhat hopeless, definitely helpless & ready to leave. I constantly say that to myself regularly now it seems. More & more as another year passes. My heart breaks for the pain I would cause for those I love & yet, I feel unable to see any other future. It's terrible feeling so lost when I know I had so much to give. These feelings have being going on for too long now. I hope I'm just lost & all is not yet lost.

1321 I am depressed
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I feel like that when we do something we were meant to do like we don't have a choice it's our further and that I feel like that thinking doesn't make me smart because where the skills the think

I feel like that when we do something we were meant to do like we don't have a choice it's our further and that I feel like that thinking doesn't make me smart because where the skills the think

bayblue Relocation Blues
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Just looking for a little advice. I'm 62yrs old, female, no money, no home. Whilst I have a roof over my head; I am far from happy. For 8yrs, I lived on the coast of SA where there were few people. Whist I did not have a flash home, (it was a shed), ... View more

Just looking for a little advice. I'm 62yrs old, female, no money, no home. Whilst I have a roof over my head; I am far from happy. For 8yrs, I lived on the coast of SA where there were few people. Whist I did not have a flash home, (it was a shed), I had the LIFESTYLE. I had a job for a couple days a week; I had beaches to myself most days; I had nearby camping; I had wildlife - echidnas, roos, wallabies, koalas. For me, it was almost heaven. Then, due to circumstances beyond my control, I had to move. Fortunately my brother offered for me to live at his place. However. It is interstate, his home is tiny, it is not on the coast, it is too hot, it is full-on suburbia. NOTHING remotely similar to what I left behind. I've been here 6mths now and am still unhappy. My question is - how can I find happiness in a place I don't want to be? Thanks in advance....

wanttogetbetter Hanging in there
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Have been depressed and anxious for over 2 years now. I don't know what to do with myself. I am on a handful of medications and am seeing a psychiatrist, but nothing seems to be working.I am 66 years old and have been on antidepressants since my 30s.... View more

Have been depressed and anxious for over 2 years now. I don't know what to do with myself. I am on a handful of medications and am seeing a psychiatrist, but nothing seems to be working.I am 66 years old and have been on antidepressants since my 30s. This is the worst I have ever been and am considering ECT.My anxiety is such that I'm having panic attacks when I drive, so I'm not visiting friends or family as much as I would like.I'm writing this in my pyjamas as even having a shower is an effort, but I do get around to it usually before midday. Is anyone else in this situation?

movingon1970 Hanging onto the past… how do I move on?
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I held mid senior management roles in 3 of the 4 Aussie banks before leaving banking to take on a senior role with a software business. The change between roles came about due to back to back redundancies. i left my last senior role in Jan 2016 ( a f... View more

I held mid senior management roles in 3 of the 4 Aussie banks before leaving banking to take on a senior role with a software business. The change between roles came about due to back to back redundancies. i left my last senior role in Jan 2016 ( a further redundancy)and have been unable to find a role of the same standing since despite more than 400 applications. One recruiter who I knew well smiled and told be that he hadn’t placed a white middle aged male for the previous 5 years… my heart sank. for the past 6 years I have worked in a manufacturing role which is killing me inside. Over the past couple of years I’ve been told that my resume looks like it fell off a cliff…. I’ve no idea how to resolve this.The 3 redundancies have really knocked my confidence and feeling of worth/ value. the first of the 3 redundancies saw me given a box for my belongings and escorted from the premises. the last of the redundancies saw the MD back track on the package offered I think I have a lot to give, and hope that I don’t come across as done kind of victim. I feel like I’m mourning the loss of my career. My mind is racing at night, I’m lucky if I get 4-5 hrs sleep, I’m always tired, my get up and go has got up and gone and for the past week in particular I have been super emotional often crying in the car etc.

Lyndis Any tips for regaining appetite?
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Hi, so, I was recently diagnosed with depression, and over the past few weeks, I've noticed my appetite is decreasing at an alarming rate. I have reason to suscept this might stem from my depression. I keep gagging while eating, although I've never t... View more

Hi, so, I was recently diagnosed with depression, and over the past few weeks, I've noticed my appetite is decreasing at an alarming rate. I have reason to suscept this might stem from my depression. I keep gagging while eating, although I've never thrown up from it, and I often don't feel hungry until the evening (in which i snack on sweets), which i want to try and stop. I very much understand its not healthy, but I was wondering if anyone else has experienced similar problems with eating and if they'd be kind enough to share some info/tips on how to combat it. Thanks in advance

Aussie.Girl Why can't I just be happy?
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Apologies for the essay...I recently quit my job because I was feeling overwhelmed with stress and it was causing RSI as well as issues with my back and knees. I thought that afterwards I would have significantly less stress and I would be able to co... View more

Apologies for the essay...I recently quit my job because I was feeling overwhelmed with stress and it was causing RSI as well as issues with my back and knees. I thought that afterwards I would have significantly less stress and I would be able to complete some tasks which have been on my to do list for months. However, external factors are still getting in the way (the weather, getting sick etc) so I have basically made no progress at all. Anyway, I have been thinking for a long time that I would like to work from home in future and with the end of year sales I was able to purchase a laptop. I live with my family and we have a desktop computer but it is a shared device so I thought it would be good to get laptop just for me. I did loads of research and spent hours at the shop testing before deciding on a mid-range HP. As soon as I got to the car I panicked about the price (even though I have savings and it wasn't crazy expensive). Now I can't bring myself to open the box because as long as its still sealed I can return it for a 100% refund (I have 2wks to decide) I don't know what to do, I thought I would be happy with this but now I just feel guilty every time I look at the box because I didn't /need/ a laptop and I've never really spent that much on something not strictly necessary. I feel broken... This isn't the first time I've tried to do something fun or buy something nice only to feel guilty and anxious instead. What should I do? I can't even tell if I want the laptop anymore, it just makes me stressed to think about it. Why can't anything in my life just be simple? I'm trying so hard to do the right thing and I always end up stressed and upset afterwards. I just want to be able to live my life without feeling guilty for every little thing... I want to feel relaxed and happy and free. I left my job and I still feel trapped, and I don't know what to do... Please share any advice you think might help, and I would appreciate opinions on whether I should keep the laptop or just return it. Thank you

Guest_0845 Feeling like a total loser
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I was hoping I wouldnt have to do this again but here I go... I feel like the biggest total loser, never good enough for anyone, never good enough at anything, im totally over trying. Im at point of giving up, no matter what i do, I end up worss off.... View more

I was hoping I wouldnt have to do this again but here I go... I feel like the biggest total loser, never good enough for anyone, never good enough at anything, im totally over trying. Im at point of giving up, no matter what i do, I end up worss off. Im of no use at all to anybody, never had been. I dont have any friends, I have the socials skills of fence post. I feel all i do is just get in useful people way. Might be time to end it all i guess.

nurse91 Partner blaming me for his suicidal thoughts
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This is going to be a long one. Partner and i have been togther nearly 7 years and they have been up and down. We did 3 years long distance for career reasons after being together for 2 years. We have now been living together for 2 years. In the begi... View more

This is going to be a long one. Partner and i have been togther nearly 7 years and they have been up and down. We did 3 years long distance for career reasons after being together for 2 years. We have now been living together for 2 years. In the begining i will openly admit i was 100% the problem. I had untreated anxiety, depression and ADHD - related to life long trauma and i was alot to handle. I have since become medicated and taken back control of my life and i think although not perfect i do strive to become a better person everyday. I thought my history is relevant as i do not want to paint the picture that my partner has not been there for me in the past. Fast forward to now. My partner is going through a lengthy and very stressful time in his life, financially, mentally and physically. I do my best to help with this however recently i tried having a gentle conversation about a few of my own insecurities and difficulties (tried having this conversation many times) and eventually it ended in an arguement where he said i dont help him at all, i make things more difficult for him and he has sucidal thought a because of the extra pressure i put on him. I am now stuck in the situation where i want to leave to give him the space he needs because i dont want to make him want to kill himself but i cant leave because i dont want him to be alone and i dont want him to feel abandoned. I dont know what to do. I have mentioned getting help and couples therapy but he just says "all you have to do is be nice". I do all the house work and i work a full time job plus help him with his career. We havent been intimate for nearly 1.5 years and when i bring it up he says the same thing- "just be nice". I am willing to take some blame becauae i am far from perfect but what he said about the suicidal part and it being my fault has really shook me. Can someone please shed some light on this for me.Thanks

TBear5879 Please help
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I have autism and ADHD and would like to get tested for depression. So, not a great start to life for me . feel so sad and energy less all the time, I just don't know what to do. Please help me.

I have autism and ADHD and would like to get tested for depression. So, not a great start to life for me . feel so sad and energy less all the time, I just don't know what to do. Please help me.