Dunno if I'm depressed

[Whenwillitgetbetta]

Hi
I'm new to this but I'm a mum of 4 recently had twins since having the twins I'm miserable alot of the time I dread everyday because of how hard they are. I've given up breastfeeding them as it was so stressful and exhausting. But I find I'm having days where I honestly think to myself can I really go on it's so hard.

[Soberlicious96]

Dear Whenwillitgetbetter,

I would like to suggest that you talk to your doctor about what is going on for you.

I'm not a Mum, so I wouldn't like to comment on what it could or could not be, but I certainly get that being a Mum of 4 would most definitely be exhausting.

Also, you haven't mentioned whether or not you have a partner there to help out? If not, perhaps there is a parenting support group you could join?

Anyway, just wanted to reach out and let you know that you have been heard.

Please feel free to keep posting here. Hopefully some others on here will be able to offer more insight than me.

Take care. I'll keep an eye out for more posts from you, if you want to keep talking here. xo

[Nurse_Jenn]

Hi there Whenwillitgetbetter,

Welcome to the beyondblue forum. Congratulations on the arrival of your twins. What you're going through sounds really hard. I am sorry that you are struggling. As a fairly new mum myself, I can appreciate the rollar coaster of emotions of having a new baby, the struggles of breastfeeding and the endless sleep deprivation.. Having four children with newborn twins would be a huge handful to say the least. There are definitely resources out there for you to get some support. First, I wonder if you have reached out to your local Child Health Clinic or GP where you could go and talk to them about how your feeling and possibly do an assessment of your mood? I am also curious to know if you have any support at home?

It is hard to know if you are depressed or just plain overwhelmed. This should be checked and determined by a health professional. If you are unable to get to a clinic soon, you could visit the PeriNatal Anxiety and Depression Australia (PANDA) website https://www.panda.org.au/ and reach out to their support line by contacting 1300 726 306

It is so hard trying multitask through the exhaustion and first few months are so tough. Please be kind to yourself. If you ever need to reach out in the middle of the night as the PANDA support line only operates between 9am - 730pm, you can call the beyondblue support line on 1300 22 4636.

You are not alone and there is help around you. I am glad you have found your way to the beyondblue as you will find other mums on here and I do hope to hear that you have made an appointment with you GP or Child Health Nurse and found some extra support.

Wishing you the best possible outcome,

Nurse Jenn

[geoff]

Hello Whenwillitgetbetter, thanks for coming to the forums.

I'm sorry for how you are feeling and from what I've been told by my siblings is that when Mum had my twin and myself she had to get them to feed us as well as look after us because at that time she had 5 children.

I agree with Nurse Jenn that it would be wise to contact Panda, APNI 0207 386 0868 or you can chat online.

I don't have the qualified experience that Nurse Jenn has, only from what I've had to suffer through myself, but it's terrific to hear from her.

I can't say whether or not Mum had any counselling but as Dad was a GP it was likely she did, but back in those days MI was kept quiet.

Geoff.