Don't know what is happening anymore

[White_Fox]

Hello everyone.

I don't know how to explain it but I will do the best I can. So this all started about 3 years ago and everything was going fine until the day when I got cheated on and in the space of 3 days was with someone new and crushed me for 6 months till i finally started standing on my feet again . However since this time I noticed that I am every now and then fighting my own head (sometimes on a daily basis) but I have also been struggling to sleep, have fun and struggling to hold onto friendships. This I have been battling with for 2 years and never been able to get help because I can't have any records on file about this but running out of options.....

Sorry if this doesn't make sense but I have no idea what to say or do.

[Tay100]

Hi White Fox

Thanks for posting, we know it can be a difficult thing to do when you are in a tough headspace. We appreciate you being here. It can be hard when we have felt more or less a certain (negative) wy for a long time, but please know it is valid and you are not alone. If I could gently suggest that you check out this thread here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/depression , you may be able to find people who resonate with your experience (and vice versa). They can offer solidarity and general advice if that's something you are interested in. You can also chat more in this thread too. We are here to listen.

Sending kindness,

Tay100

[Gambit87]

Hi White Fox,

Welcome to the foums and thank you for reaching out.

I'm sorry that happened to you! While I've never experienced anything like that, I can imagine how it would be hard on your mind.

Have you been able to talk to anyone about this? friends/family/psychologist?

As Tay100 mentioned, were here to listen.

Take care.

[White_Fox]

Thank you for your response.

Sadly I am not the type of person to tell my problems to, so no haven't really spoken to anyone about it

Plus was brought up that guys aren't allowed to break down or have issue, always had to be seen as the strong ones.

[Gambit87]

Neither was I, Growing up I never talked to anyone about how I felt (I have depression, anxiety and OCD), I just buried it and moved on because thats what was kinda expected. Mental health (especially mens mental health) wasn't really a thing growing up. So I just put the happy mask on and 'lived' with it.

I broke down 5 months ago in front of a doctor, It forced me to acknowledge my mental health struggles and get help. I opened up to my girlfriend/friends and family and to be honest, it was liberating. I felt a weight come off my shoulders. I've been seeing a psychologist for about 5 months now, I regularly chat to friends/family and practice self care and its been a positive move forward. I have bad days but I've learnt/learning how to deal with them.

I encourage you to check out the haka for life facebook page (especially the 25 day pushup challenge videos) and the build a brotherhood (mens group) facebook page. These pages are centered around mens mental health.

Its ok not to be ok. Its ok to seek help - even for men.

[Tay100]

Hi White Fox

Thanks for your response, just thought I'd check in and see how you were travelling. Gambit87 has some great suggestions- have any of them resonated with you? If expressing your emotions and opening up is something you struggle with (and part of that is because of the pressures being a guy) that's normal and valid, and you aren't alone in that. The depression thread has plenty of posts from men in similar positions that you might resonate with.

Take care,

Tay100