Depressed father dead end job

[Ayejay91]

Hi guys,

first time here, seeking personal experiences with child support and fatherhood. I currently work night shifts and have for 2 years and never see my child, I have recently been battling against depression and anxiety and have been spiraling down every day since.

I just want to talk to someone about it all, I use to be an extrovert but lately I barely leave the house, I recently turned 27 and I look at my life compared to others my age and wonder where I went wrong with everything, I was brought up to hide emotions cause it was a weakness, which now affects my relationship with my fiancé. I snap with anger if something small and unimportant happens, I’m frustrated all the time, I’m grinding my teeth as I write this cause I don’t like help and I’m anxious over nothing!!

i give kudos to all the people out there on child support that can manage to pick themselves up. I just needed to vent mostly but any personal experience and advice is appreciated

[MsPurple]

Hi Ayejay and welcome to the forums

Sorry to hear about your situation. I myself am not a parent, however my mum was a single parent so I do understand the struggle of child support and the stress it can bring on both ends from the childs perspective. To be honest I am not too sure about the rules around child support so I hope someone else will also pop in and give some more personal advice on this.

Have you seen someone about your stress and moods? I myself, felt shame around my stress, and struggling ability to cope with it at times. I decided I had enough and talked to my doctor about it. They refereed me to a psychologist who I found really helpful. Would this be something you would be open to? You can ask your doctor to see a bulk billing psychologist if your concern is budget (I see a bulk billing psychiatrist and he is great).

Hope this has been helpful. I know is tough but it does get better with the right support