Boy friend showed his true colours feel sad

[Alannah57]

My boyfriend and I were in love, but he dumped me for his ex who he was with for 20 years. He broke up with her before seeing me and he told me I made him believe in love again. He told me a lot of things: that he loved me, that he was red a future with me, that I was the only woman in the world for him now, that we were soulmates, that he wanted to have a football team of kids with me, that I was by far the most special woman he’d ever dated. I tried to help him where he needed it and I loved being with him.

Then last weekend, one day he was acting deeply in love with me, and being kind and caring, literally the next day he was back with her. I’m struggling with this, it’s broken my faith in relationships. Has anyone else experienced this?

[Guest_7403]

As sad as it is, it's probably a lot more common than you'd think.

He most likely used as his escape plan, if it didn't work with his ex.

Try not to blame yourself though, it's called "love bombing" and is a typical narcissistic trait.

He'll leave the current partner again and will either try to return to you or will love bomb another.

Take it as a life lesson, and see the red flags he gave you and look out for it in the future.

Plenty more fish in the sea....fresher ones

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

😞

So sorry this happened. I'm quite sure it hurts a lot, and I'm sorry that you have to go through it. Heartbreak is just an awful feeling.

I think the longer I'm alive, the more I don't know. People and relationships are complicated. I really hope you're able to show yourself lots of love and gentleness during this time, while you process it and move forward.

Kind thoughts, and yes, fresh fish - not everyone behaves like this. Katy

[Learn to Fly]

Hi Alannah57's,

So sorry to hear you had to go through such an experience. And it can certainly shake anybody's belief in relationships because one day he was telling you he loved you and the next he was back with his ex.

Allow yourself time to vent all the frustrated feelings you have about him and what he's done to you.

I'm here for you.

Take care there.