Bipolar - desperate to support a loved one

[Supporting_Partner]

Hi,
I’m posting here because I don’t know where else to turn. I love my partner very much. My partner was diagnosed with bipolar and although there have been many ups and downs, my partner’s current depression has me so worried than ever. She’s locked up in her room and won’t allow me to talk to her in any way. She sometimes gets violent when I try. My phone has been blocked so there’s no way to contact her when she’s not home. Our child is being so strong but is very sad because my partner won’t even acknowledge her unless she’s yelling at her to get out of the room.

I want her to know that I’m there for her and I’m so desperate to help but I’m so lost and afraid she’ll hurt herself.

I’m afraid if I ask friends to check in on her it’ll get worse. Is it in any way inappropriate to ask her psychologist to check in on her?

Any advice would be appreciated

Thank you

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

Being a carer of someone with a mental illness is a difficult role.. having a child compounds that.

I'm bipolar. But different people do react differently even with the same illness.

In short, even though someone has a disorder, there are responsibilities they have to carry out. Also carers need to know how to approach that person in the best way, to achieve the best result.

Many of these illnesses have cycles. In the case of her blocking you from calling and locking herself in a room, it is likely better to allow that excessively emotional cycle to run its course than approach her if it is a minor tiff. However, if you believe she could self harm or worse then an ambulance should be called. There is also numbers at the bottom of this page. If she claims you over reacted stick to the fact she refused to communicate which is one of her responsibilities.

I'm sensing that neither of you know boundaries so relationship counseling is highly recommended.

Here are some threads I've chosen that will help if you and your partner commit. Use google

Beyondblue topic who cares for the carer?

Beyondblue topic relationship strife? The peace pipe

Beyondblue topic the timing of motivation

I hope they help. Update anytime

TonyWK