The Transcendent Rainbow Cafe - social space for LGBTI members

[Paul]

It would be so great to have a thread here where we can chat about almost anything. We can have fun, tell jokes, share stories, you name it!

There's a "BB Cafe" thread in the general area where lots of people chat daily and have established some nice light hearted conversations, it's treated as if it's a real cafe, there's even virtual baked goods and coffee!

Let's create a chat here for anyone to join, in particular the GLBTIQ community to let their collective hair down and chill out. It's a safe space to be yourself.

We just need a name 🙂

[MsPurple]

Hi Inner Strength and Raynor

I do think same sex couples should be able to marry. I do not understand why it is not legal in Australia yet. I am so dissapointed in the government not allowing it yet. I do also see why I think it may have been considered a sin back in the bible is very flawed, I don't think it is fact but I don't know why it would ever be considered a sin any other way.

Raynor I'm sorry you have to see a new psychologist regarding gender assessment. It must be very frustrating. I am not sure if they have to do a course or test regarding this area to determine if they can play a part in the team or whatever. But I do see how frustrating it is. It can take time to feel comfortable talking to someone then having to see someone else (even if it is just for gender stuff and you continue to see your current one) can be really annoying. I also think it sucks that it is gonna cost money without medicare. It is one thing I find sad about mental health care in Australia. My psych costs me $75 out of pocket even with the mental health plan. I may consider finding a different psych but I dont know if I want to. I can't really afford to see her now so I am in a frustrating place cause I can't see her or see someone else as my referal was to her

Hope everyone is well. My week has been super boring. I work as a contractor and I haven't worked at all yet this week. I have 3 half days coming up. It is really hard not working. I find my anxiety and depression gets worse cause I don't have anything to preoccupy myself with. I also don't have the money to do stuff on my days off so it makes it worse again

[Raynor]

I used to work as a contractor MP. It really sucks big time. The only reason I work is for my mental health, like I could get disability but I know I'd get sicker if I did, so I stick it out - sounds like what you said. Do you have backup income at least for when you don't get work?

I don't understand this whole Medicare thing. I should probably post out on the main spaces. It's not a queer issue. If I've only used 3 sessions with this psychologist does that mean I can get another referral to someone else and use the remaining 3 with a different person?

[MsPurple]

Hi Raynor. Yeah contract work sucks. But I want to continue with this job for a while because the experience is really good. I studied at uni for 5 years to become a dietitian and this is the only job I could get in the field. The people are lovely I work with and so are the clients, I just need more clients and regular work. The stress of not getting enough money to pay rent and do more than just sit around the house. My dad can help me out for a bit but I don't wanna do that. I have been paying my own way for ages and don't wanna go backwards.

Also I could see another psych but I don't know if I want to go back to the doctor paying the gap (because i don't see a bulk billing one for my mental health stuff) to find a new one that won't dcharge. Doesn't seem worth it to me. I think my current one is ok I just haven't seen her enough to build enough rapport yet.

Ok on a queer note I went on a date with a girl on Friday. It went well. But some of the texts she sent me the next day were a bit intense. I haven't messaged her since. I don't think it would work. I'm in a different place to her. We could talk easily and got along but I wasn't sure if it was relationship material. I know that I might not have accomplished much but I'm glad I at least put myself out there and tried to get on the dating scene again. I haven't gone on a real date in ages.

[Just Sara]

Hey MsP;

It sounds as though life's getting on top of you lovely. I'm pleased to read you've been dating and are trying to balance your world. At times though, the hard stuff takes precedence and that's a shame.

You've said that contracting was the only job you could get; I have an idea I'd like to put to you if it's ok.

Diet and nutrition are fundamental to everyone, but finding a niche in the market has and will always be the best way to succeed quicker than plodding the pavement. (in general)

All it takes is an idea. You don't have to be a business expert or have 50 yrs experience, just the will and drive to provide a service that resonates with consumers. Actually, an action plan or business plan is a great way to side-track the blues.

You could start with a one-page brief and go from there. It's an organic document that grows with you as time passes and situations change; it doesn't have to be perfect or be as big as Ben Hur.

There are many books and websites that teach how to create one and maintain it. I have a book, it cost me $70 but I claimed it on my tax.

I guess the point I'm making MsP, is that keeping our minds active when times are tough, can actually produce some great projects and outcomes if we're open to it.

I've got an idea that's never been done in Australia, but my MH isn't quite there yet to get it off the ground. It excites me to discuss, and the need for this type of consultant is very high. It's a gap in service provision which is where one finds a good client base.

And remember, there's govt incentives like the NEIS program that trains and financially supports new business opportunities for first timers.

I hope this has helped to encourage you in your endeavours hun.

My best as always...

Sara xo

[Lonelydan]

Hi Raynor, what an a hole of a psychologist. My profile pic is not me but could easily be. I chose that picture because where I grew up there was a reserve and a creek behind the house I would go there to be safe, stay there till dark then go home and see if it was safe to go into the house if it wasn't I would sleep under the house with the dogs. A psychologist said to me that I should go and revisit that place where i used to spend my day. This was when I realised I was dealing with a idiot a complete moron who is a danger to those who seek help. I'm so sorry you have to go through this it's so unfair. I'm all for disassociation it has kept me alive and of course you have it you're in the wrong body. Raynor go to someone else immediately and make sure they specialise in this field a doctor I saw once made a metal Health plan for me then sent me to see a psychiatrist who specialises in immigrants I arrived to be told what am I doing here. I I would also avoid seeing doctors or any health professional who is from a country that doesn't validate mental health or has a big problem with homosexuals. Danny...

[Lonelydan]

Hey ms purple & inner S,

I was upset to read your posts on how religion has made you feel about yourself. I've learnt a long time ago how strongly people really believe in this stuff. When I was in Italy I was so shocked to see so many homeless people worse than USA and even more disturbed when they all dropped to there knees when someone drove out of the Vatican in a rolls Royce covered in diamonds and gold they didn't even seem to notice the homeless. I could say so much but those are my beliefs. I just wished you didn't feel this way it hurts. Danny...

[Lonelydan]

Hi Sara, So happy you're back I hope you're feeling and looking like a billion bucks. And if you are can you give me a few million I want to start an art collection. Danny...

[Lonelydan]

Raynor, I left you a post today but it hasn't appeared it's been moderated I think don't know why. Danny...

[Just Sara]

Thanks Danny!

I don't feel quite like a billion $, but great none the less. My time off did the trick well and truly. 🙂

What would you do with a couple of mil Danny boy? I know what I'd do; take my family to Canada for a month to suck up that amazing environment and cleansing fresh air of the Rockies. I might also purchase (as a personal wtf why not) gift...metallic blue Ford Mustang to park in my new home on the range.

When do dreams stop being dreams anyway? When they become goals...

🙂

Sara xo

[MsPurple]

Hi Sara. Thanks for the advice. I do struggle to get motivation sometimes. Especially when times like this make it tough. I like to work and keep myself busy so its hard when it's quiet. My mental health also goes down too. With doing some diet programs and stuff we do offer it at work. But people do buy the celebrity stuff. But they are not approved by dietitians. We don't tend to like to do big ones outselves (unless it's in conjunction with the government such as the csiro) because it is hard to get a one size fits all and be evidenced based. Also people want a quick fix which doesn't work as the science shows us. I am looking at other jobs to also do with my current job. There is a job near the boarder part time which I'm gonna apply for because it wouldn't be horrible driving there two times a week.

Dan yes I do feel sad how religion made me feel about sexuality. It makes me sad to think that I felt that way and that I thought it was so terrible. I feel bad for all the other people in the same boat. I am not religous now but I still have some faith. But I know God is loving. And I feel bad for gay people wanting to be true to themselves and being scared it will condem them and cause someone like God to hate them. I just think that it is not true now.