Work worries

Clarissa26 · ‎22-04-2019

Hi

i am moving to a new state at the end of the year and will need to find a new job. I work in education and can’t just transfer over. Where I work now I’m valued and I worry I’m not going to find that again. I doubt myself. I love what I do and just want you o keep doing it. I wake up in the night and have anxiety attacks thinking about it. I wish it was easier.

Peppermintbach · ‎22-04-2019

Hi Clarissa,

I think moving interstate is a very brave decision. No doubt, there will be a lot of change, and it sounds like you’re feeling a lot of emotions about the upcoming move. I hear your feelings of doubt, fear and anxiety, and I realise how debilitating they can be...

I think the good news is there is still some time between now and the end of the year for you to figure out your next step, try to secure interstate employment, etc. Of course I know it won’t be easy, especially as I know how much you love your current job.

I wonder if it would help if you wrote down a plan of sorts. It doesn’t meant you have to follow it exactly or that it can’t be changed or amended, but sometimes I feel planning can give us a sense of security and control when we feel anxious about upcoming change.

For example, part of your plan could involve job hunting, in particular, a strategy to help you get a job in a related field e.g. seeing if there is an online employment service that could assist, researching interstate organisations/employers that you might like to work for, etc. Of course that’s just a little suggestion to give you some ideas. You don’t have to take on board my suggestions if you feel it’s not quite right...

Kind and caring thoughts to you,

Pepper

LesDave · ‎25-04-2019

Moving would bring on anxiety for anyone, whether they suffer from anxiety or not! You are correct to worry, it's your brain telling you this is something that needs to be planned. My suggestion is you find out all you can about how you can be employed in the new state, and start creating a network NOW. Not being respected is something you will have go gauge for yourself when you get there. But from my experience, if you're moving from a regional area to a big city, the friendliness certainly disappears. I find if I plan things out, and cross things off as they're a done, and add more as I learn, I feel less anxious, and a little more excited.

Clarissa26 · ‎04-10-2019

Hi Pepper

Im in the new state now and up until this morning I have been doing great. But. This morning I had a full anxiety attack with all my old symptoms. I re read all my posts here and yours seems very helpful. Thankyou. A plan and staying busy is just what I need. I think writing stuff down is helpful. Thx for your support. Xxx Hope u are doing well too.

Peppermintbach · ‎09-10-2019

Hi Clarissa,

Congratulations on moving. What a courageous step! I think you’re very brave, and I’m glad that things had been going well for a while.

But it sounds as though you had a very rough morning the other day. I feel anxiety attacks are awful. It must have been difficult...

Although, I like that you want to try to manage your anxiety with a plan, activities/keeping busy and writing. If you find writing helpful, you’re welcome to write here any time (no pressure of course), or if you prefer, maybe you could even start a personal journal offline 🙂

Thank you for thinking of me. I have been having a rough time lately, so your lovely thoughts have made my morning.

Kindness and care,

Pepper