That constant pit in my stomach

[JellicoeGirl99]

Hi all,

I've posted once before about a specific issue and since then have replied to other posts, but I've been wanting to post again for a while now

I have really good stages with my anxiety and really bad, but at the moment I just feel this in between... and I hate it. I have this pit in my stomach even while just walking in the shops, like I could panic at any moment.

Sometimes I just get scared nothing will ever change. I will always be too scared to date and panic when I try to, always break down as soon as a customer is rude to me at work, always feel nervous in normal situations.

I see a psychologist and am due for an appointment, but I guess I just want to know from people who have or are experiencing similar things, if it gets better? If I'll change or find someone who understands me even though it feels so impossible right now?

Any advice, wisdom, or success stories would be greatly appreciated 🙂

JellicoeGirl

[white knight]

Hi JG

I really understand.

As long as a future partner has basic empathy you'll be ok but you cant expect him/her to understand. Google

Topic: they just wont understand why? - beyondblue

Your fears will likely pass in time. But to increase this likelihood you can fo a few things.

Topic: how I eliminated anxiety- beyondblue

There are many more similar threads in their appropriate section. Just reply to them as you please.

Tony WK

[LaurenJM]

You are definitely not alone. I understand all of it. But honestly.. i have to believe that were just not success storues... yet.

I go so long without feeling anxious and then when it hits again it feels stronger. I just posted here for the first time under 'frustrated'

I feel like if i was angry i could just get over it an move on.. but if only i t was that easy

[Poppy_Clitheroe]

Hello LaurenJM. Your post really resonated with me.

I'm not really sure what a success story is. I don't feel like one but I've been treated for similar issues since I was 13 and I'm now nearly 44 and my long-term med professionals see me as a bit of a "success story ". I wonder if a view to long-term management was my key? The old-skool approach seemed very limiting to me and I was glad when more of a management - not "recovery" - model was introduced to me. But of course this is just one idea from one middle-aged woman ☺

I aim to give no un-solicited advice. But even though each new crisis - internal, external - has brought new challenges, and I expect "easier" is hard to find, I am living proof that eventually dark mornings bring new dawns - even if it takes more time than expected or wanted (I also apologise for resort to any cliché). But, again, I don't try to own or preach about your own situation.

My 19 year old child is dealing with addressing strong adult-level anxiety now... and doing ok with love and understanding. And also is a person naturally in touch with their anger drives! So still anxious... If I can share any of that with you here, I hope you feel benefit from some of it. Life can be terrible...wonderful...strange, and...manageable. Stay strong as you can, but for you primarily - don't be afraid to express fear and hurt in a safe, caring space. All my best regards - PC xx

[cakeboss]

Hi i have somthing simlar going on .I suffer anxiety and panic attacks to .I had some major finacial issues going on which set off my anxiety and are now sorted out .I dr said its going to take few months to settle down and ill have good days and bad days.I had 3 weeks of feeling fantastic ,and then for now apparent reason i was walking up nauesea for the last week and a half.ive been having panic attacks and when im out worried one will come on to .Ive got a counciling appointment monday .I have had a whole week and a half now of i wake up and nausea is there and feel like i cant settle .Ive been to the drs 2 times this week to be told its anxiety .I am on medication but dr and i waiting to see if it subsides.Ive got myself in a state now dreading waking up and it starts again.I did however have a dr appointment well specialist yesterday which set of anxiety i worried over nothing the results of the eye dr where great .I thought i was going to have a panic attack waiting in the clinic but i did it it was a hug acheivment to get through it for me yesterday .I am worried now people will see me falling apart and the what ifs i know its my anxiety out control .I now have problems thinking ive got sicknesses that i dont have .I just want the nausea to go .I will see the counciler monday i need to talk about going way ahead of myself thinking the worst and it hasnt even happened and overcoming panic attacks out in public does anyone else get this way

[Meowface]

Hi Cakeboss I really relate to your post. I've been waking up in a panic attack mode for weeks sick and worrying - I didn't know what was happening but now I kind of understand what's happening I'm getting better at calming myself down rather than going into action mode. A bit of self-talk and positive visual imagery helps me. I started meds again about 2 months ago and it is helping as well but this is still happening for me. I'll talk to my doctor about it but I do feel I'm "managing it" better like Poppy says which takes the pressure off it needing to go away completely.

[in_anticipation]

This is a very common feeling, awful to get rid of , sometimes more so than other times. I am a retired person, and experience this a lot. I tell myself off!! Ask myself why am I doing this to me. I would not advise my best friend to treat him/her self in this way. I try to think hard about replacing the panic /anxiety with words of a lovely meaningful song, not a song that has a hard beat to it. A calm, soft feeling song. I make myself listen to these words, and I "feel" them out inside myself. I also am so cross with me for having these distorted thoughts, because this is what they are. I also try to mentally dictate a letter of how I might love someone to know how I feel about them. Or thank them for what they are putting out there for me. I am not a young person, and recently had this illness come on me , through neglect on my part, as I let the condition go far too long before getting the help I needed. Don't put yourself down, ever, ,I try to tell myself as convincingly as I can, that I am a very feeling person, I need to add up my good points, in life , that I have achieved. Talk always to as many as who will listen to you, don't hold back. I tell my family how I feel, and some of them let me ring them in the night or the day, just to talk, and it is ALWAYS better to let it out. Don't leave anything out about how you feel.. Wish you all the best.

[JellicoeGirl99]

Thank you all for your responses. I'm feeling a lot better, still not perfect but I've made an appointment with my psychologist at least.

Thank you for your suggestions White Knight, I will be sure to check those out! And I think Lauren and Poppy are right about not being success stories... and it's easier to believe on good days that it can be manageable. On really good days I'm even glad I have my anxiety because I think it makes us empathetic and open-minded, and I wouldn't be who I am without it.

Both cakeboss and Meowface, I'm sorry to hear about the extent of your anxieties and their unfortunate timing, but I definitely know the feeling at certain times in my life as I said in my original post. It's also very reassuring to know it can be managed, because right now facing it seems very daunting.

in anticipation, your use of a lovely meaningful song interests me and I think I will try it out. I try to let out my emotions as you each have suggested, it can just be hard... I always feel guilty, as thought I'm burdening others or not acting as strong as I should be...

All the best to everyone, and thanks again 🙂