Separation Anxiety and Pregnancy

[Mjm94]

Hi.

Im wanting to know whether anyone has experienced something similar.

Im currently 11 weeks pregnant with my second child. I suffered HG (severe morning sickness) with my first and now again with my second.

My husband works away 7/7.

When he has been home I am typically okay, still feel very ill etc but I can manage when he is around. He went to work at the start of the week for the first time since me being sick. He was only away one day/night and my son was at daycare most of that day. I was so sick. I then hit a brick wall and became instantly emotional, sobbing and crying for him. I would call him and beg him to come home, I would call my mum who suggested other people to come over and look after me but I just kept begging for my husband to come home. To the point that he finally made the hr trip home for me. Pretty much as soon as he got home, I was fine. I wasn’t emotionally crying and sobbing, I felt better, not as sick. I honestly feel like I had severe anxiety because he was away from me.

I am chasing ways to cope with this feeling. As I can’t keep dragging my husband home. We’re losing out on income every time he has to miss a day at work.

Thanks.

[Jackson85]

Hi Mjm,

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Though I'm sorry to hear you're so sick; if you're 11 weeks, there hopefully isn't too much more of that.

I think what you describe is totally understandable, and while I don't know much about separation anxiety, it certainly sounds like a really tough situation. I think it's entirely normal to want to be with whoever your support is when you're so sick, in fact, sometimes thats how we find out who we really connect with, by seeing who we want to be around when things go wrong! I'd be interested to know, do you feel less anxious and stressed once he tells you he's coming home, or is it only when he gets there? When I used to get homesick as a kid, as soon as my mum said she was going to pick me up that night, and I didn't have to sleep over, then I felt great, because I knew that my support would be here, and it didn't matter if it was now or later, but I knew it was coming. I'm just wondering if that feeling is familiar to you.

Are you guys in a position where you can afford for him to take a day off every now and then? If you don't desperately need the money, perhaps it could be worth just having a little extra time with him while you get through these last weeks morning sickness. Of course if money then becomes the main stress it might not be the best idea, but if you can make it work, having some support at the moment might be just what you need, and why you call him asking for it.

Feel free to keep the chat going 🙂

Jackson85