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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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freshies Uncontrollable shakes when confronted
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For as long as i can remember i have always stuggled with these pesky shakes when faced with physical or even verbal confrontations. They often get so bad that the only way to handle them is by sitting down. For example, i was recently at a party and... View more

For as long as i can remember i have always stuggled with these pesky shakes when faced with physical or even verbal confrontations. They often get so bad that the only way to handle them is by sitting down. For example, i was recently at a party and my mate said that someone had just threatened them (it was over a stupid misunderstaning which was later resolved) so i went over to the person (who i had known for pretty much my whole life though we were not that close) and told him not to talk to my mate like that, immediately he was fired up and pushed me so i pushed him back and we had a very mild tussle which was quickly broken up. Straight after i was pulled away i began shaking intensely, people were saying things to me which i couldn't really understand, my face started twitching a bit and my voice went all trembly. i couldn't understand why it had happened and i was forced to sit down because my legs were shaking so severely. In situations following this with other poeple i have tried techniques like deep breathing and postitive self talk but neither reall seemed to help. If anyone has any tips on how to deal with ordeals such as this one so that i can stay level headed and confident, i would really appreciate hearing them. Sorry for rambling

FrancisB Anxiety and Me.
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Hello everyone. I have anxiety. I ran out of meds some months back and thought I could manage..and did ok for a while...but over the last month or so..it is really spiraling out of control. Sadly for me and those around me I get really angry when my ... View more

Hello everyone. I have anxiety. I ran out of meds some months back and thought I could manage..and did ok for a while...but over the last month or so..it is really spiraling out of control. Sadly for me and those around me I get really angry when my anxiety gets unbearable. I say horrible things. Well I mostly text horrible things. (coward that I am). I Damage relationships. I have an appointment with my gp this coming Friday....so thought I might hang out here to keep me grounded. I like to pretend that I’m fine most of the time.....but that doesn’t seem to be working too well for me. It is hard to find understanding in others who don’t get how horrible this feeling is...and I get that they don’t understand....but I feel a bit lonely and isolated right now. I know it will get better.....just not instantly. I need to not only take my meds but make some changes...

anxietycontrol99 Starting Full Time Work- Anxiety pulls me back
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Hi guys, I just wanted to post on here to see if anyone feels the same way, or has gone through this. I have had anxiety since a young age and I still really struggle with it to this day (I’m 19) I’m going to interviews at the moment to start a full ... View more

Hi guys, I just wanted to post on here to see if anyone feels the same way, or has gone through this. I have had anxiety since a young age and I still really struggle with it to this day (I’m 19) I’m going to interviews at the moment to start a full time traineeship for business administration. It’s something I want and should do, so I can be earning enough and completed some sort of study at the same time. However I get really anxious right before interviews and I don’t show up half of the time because I convince myself I don’t want to work full time. im worried about losing all of my spare time to work, and not having enough time to myself, with my partner and with my dog. I really value that spare time and it makes me anxious that I’m losing so much of it. has anyone gone through something similar to this? thank you x

gloria10 Anxiety from disagreements
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Hi, So I'm dealing with an issue at the moment and it has affected my anxiety. A consultant I spoke with recently was rude and a little hurtful to me the other day when I was trying to explain a situation at work. Even though I gave honest answers sh... View more

Hi, So I'm dealing with an issue at the moment and it has affected my anxiety. A consultant I spoke with recently was rude and a little hurtful to me the other day when I was trying to explain a situation at work. Even though I gave honest answers she got angry each time and I felt intimidated by her. The thing is I have to see her tomorrow and it is causing me anxiety. I guess it doesn't help I see her in a private room. It is to do with Centrelink so I know I have to go I'm just wondering if there is some advice of how to get through it, what has worked for you? I would give more detail I'm just a bit hesitant to put too much online. Gloria10

kned Eye contact issues
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I was wondering if others experience an inability to look people in the eye/make eye contact when in a conversation? Ive struggled with this all my life! While working, I learnt some ways to manage it better (so I didn't look like a complete weirdo) ... View more

I was wondering if others experience an inability to look people in the eye/make eye contact when in a conversation? Ive struggled with this all my life! While working, I learnt some ways to manage it better (so I didn't look like a complete weirdo) such as looking at a person's nose or forehead. However I still have so much trouble looking people in the eye when we are having a conversation (or at all). I can look my small children in the eye, but can't even look at my own parents or my husband when we are talking. I look everywhere but at the person's face, often looking at my fingers, or down, or all around. My husband and dad have both made comments about it recently. It's made me quite aware of it again. I feel so rude but the discomfort I feel with making eye contact, means I still struggle to change my ways. Im curious to know whether this is normal? Has anyone found a way to overcome this issue or at least improve it?

Busylife Newbie needs advice please
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Hi all. I'm unsure if this is the correct forum to place this? I was not able to find a forum specifically suited to my situation. Basically I have had a pretty rough 2 years within my government job which is a highly stressful role! Approx mid 2018 ... View more

Hi all. I'm unsure if this is the correct forum to place this? I was not able to find a forum specifically suited to my situation. Basically I have had a pretty rough 2 years within my government job which is a highly stressful role! Approx mid 2018 it all came to a head and I had three months off work on compensation diagnosed with an adjustment disorder. Anyhow moving forward I returned to work feeling A ok with clearance from my GP. Iv been back in my role since October 2018 and for the past couple of weeks iv felt myself declining back to how I felt when I went on work compo; emotional, sleep deprived, anxious, depressed etc etc. Now I'm thinking and feeling I no longer can perform my work duties as I once did and that this area of work is no longer for me. This hurts as Iv dedicated 10 years to my "dream job" and now I feel totally broken. My primary concern is how do I best manage this? I feel I cant go back to my GP or my manager after returning to work "fixed" and say oh I'm losing my shit again and need to leave etc. I feel I may have returned to early but it was because I thought I felt ok and was in a better place. Advice?

Hayley_M Anorexia bulimia struggles
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Hi my name is Hayley and I'm 14yrs old I'm currently struggling with anorexia/bulimia, depression, osteopenia, social anxiety and PTSD. I'm new to the beyond blue forum just looking for someone to talk to who does not work with CAMHS. I recently got ... View more

Hi my name is Hayley and I'm 14yrs old I'm currently struggling with anorexia/bulimia, depression, osteopenia, social anxiety and PTSD. I'm new to the beyond blue forum just looking for someone to talk to who does not work with CAMHS. I recently got out of hospital and I have a medical review on Tuesday which I most likely will be re-admitted because of my weight but I'm trying to stay positive if you guys have any advice I'm all ears.

Ovenmitt Please help, anxiety out of control
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Hi, for the last month I’ve been really sick and no doctor can tell me what it is and I’ve been shaking uncontrollably as well. It just never stops, even when I’m resting or trying to sleep and it bothers me so much. Does anyone else have this shakin... View more

Hi, for the last month I’ve been really sick and no doctor can tell me what it is and I’ve been shaking uncontrollably as well. It just never stops, even when I’m resting or trying to sleep and it bothers me so much. Does anyone else have this shaking? I just don’t know what to do about it to make it stop. If you have any advice please let me know.

sera Anxiety has ruined my life
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Hello, I was diagnosed primarily with social anxiety and secondarily, with depression, in my early twenties; and they've had an negative impact in every part of my life - friends, family, work, relationships, etc. I take medication for these conditio... View more

Hello, I was diagnosed primarily with social anxiety and secondarily, with depression, in my early twenties; and they've had an negative impact in every part of my life - friends, family, work, relationships, etc. I take medication for these conditions daily; and visit a psychiatrist every 3-4 weeks, and will starting seeing a psychologist as well. I work infrequently - less than 5 hours a week and not even that at times - do not socialise with anyone, apart from my parents and one person who I met through a mental health organisation. I have a lot of spare time, most days, unless I have a work shift or an appointment I need to go to; and tend to sleep late and wake up early afternoon, go on computer, eat junk food, and not a lot else. A lot of years have passed since mental illness entered the picture and I don't see that things, or more specifically, that I will change. I've become used to a sedentary and isolated routine and can't see that a girl would want to be with me, especially someone who is unemployed, no friends, and doesn't do anything. The idea of someone liking me is a bit overwhelming. Actually, I tend to avoid social or intimate situations and deny the possibility that someone could be interested in me, as a friend or partner. Anxiety amplifies the possibility of making friends and getting a girlfriend, in fact, I think I'd rather have a tooth pulled without anaesthetic than ask someone out. I sometimes literally flee to avoid such a situation. In social situations - this includes work as quite social - I get anxious before the event (in the past I just wouldn't turn up to work and find myself being terminated) and also, after the fact, I berate myself internally about what I've said and how I think I was perceived. I have joined clubs/volunteer positions in the past, but often drop out, shortly after starting, finding excuses. It is not easy trying to find people who you can relate to in a capital city - Melbourne - when you don't socialise and have groups of friends, e.g. work, university, etc. I have started babbling, so I will stop now and thank you for reading this post. thanks, n. btw, my moniker sounds female, but i'm a guy.

TheatreGal Feeling low starting new medication- normal?
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I am on day 3 of taking a new SSRI to manage anxiety, more than depression. I know they take quite some time to work, but is it relatively normal to feel quite low the first few days/weeks? Also experiencing a lack of appetite and insomnia, which are... View more

I am on day 3 of taking a new SSRI to manage anxiety, more than depression. I know they take quite some time to work, but is it relatively normal to feel quite low the first few days/weeks? Also experiencing a lack of appetite and insomnia, which are probably contributing, but I just wonder at what point should I be more concerned about the low mood?