Posting for the first time

[Rynn]

Hi,

this is the first time I’ve ever posted on anything, to be honest I’m a little bit nervous. I found myself exploring beyond blue and it’s forums due to experiencing a lot of anxiety recently, I’ve had anxiety in the past but have been fine for a long time. Things that never used to bother me make me really nervous and upset now and it takes me a really long time to let go of them. Even if everything is fine I’ll find myself thinking about the event for hours afterwards, agonising over every little detail.

at the end of the day it’s been really difficult to “turn off” so I can go to bed and get some sleep.

right now I’m just looking for someone to talk to

[geoff]

Hello Rynn, ' at the end of the day I find my mind going over every detail of the day', can be referred to 'as chewing the cud', when you just can’t stop thinking about something that really got under your skin, maybe today, yesterday or a couple of years ago, such as no one wants to be your friend, or perhaps why you’re not in a meaningful relationship and the list goes on.

I just wonder whether you have been diagnosed by your doctor, which I'm not, but anxiety can create many types of disorders, but if you can yourself firmly in the present and be realistic about what you do and do not have control over, and ask yourself 'can I do anything about this now', the answer would most likely be no.

That's exactly what I ask myself if for any reason this happens to me, then my mind is put to rest because why worry if you can't do anything about it now.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[Guest_4643]

Hi What's it all about? , welcome to the forums. Hi to Rynn and others here too.

I go to sleep at about 2am or something because of insomnia. It sucks. Then I wake up feeling so tired.

[Rynn]

Hi Geoff,

I haven’t been to see my doctor yet, but I plan to. The last couple days though I have been trying to really question those “what if” questions, so far it feels like it’s helping. I guess it’s about finding things that help and starting and committing to new habits.

[Rynn]

Hi everyone,

it’s been a really busy couple of days. lots on the to-do list.
just wondering if anyone had tried changes to their diet to help decrease anxiety? I recently read that including more whole grains, fatty fish, and whole foods (veggies) helps not just with physical health but also with mental health.

what’s it all about?, you suggested walking. I’m not much for walking but I do enjoy swimming and I usually feel much more relaxed on days that I’ve been to the pool.

I know that tired feeling all to well mb20lover, so much coffee needed the next morning

[geoff]

Hello Rynn, in regard to food, it will help you better if you decide yourself but a little guidance from someone else can help you, but not if it's been pressured on to you, dictatorial behaviour goes against everything you've wanted.

Any 'what if' questions may have to be achievable because as soon as they become an underlying doubt in your own ability and control and impossible at that precise moment to accomplish, it then can make us doubt any other 'what if'.

Swimming is a remarkable way to help yourself and so pleased to hear back from you.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[Guest_4643]

Hey Rynn, just wanted to see how you're going?

[Rynn]

Thank you so much for checking in, that means so much to me.
I had a couple of okay days, just super hot where I am. Then tonight I found myself questioning everything again. Now I’m just trying to relax and ground myself. A lot of the time the questions in my mind are things I couldn’t change even if I wanted to; for example what if I was too loud in the library today and someone found it annoying and will be upset at me next time I go. Logically I'm sure if I was too loud someone would have told me at the time, but now that the day has slowed down this seems to be the place my mind wonders.
Thank you again for checking in, it really does mean a lot.
How have you been?

[Guest_4643]

Hey Rynn, you're more than welcome. I'm glad it means a lot to you.

I'm sorry to hear that, I have the same thoughts and anxiety. I'm sure you were fine at the library.

I'm struggling myself, thanks for checking in also.

[Ggrand]

Dear Rynn...

Our thoughts seem to constantly re live our day at night..

I start listening to music and light my candles turn my lights of and watch the little flames flickering while I’m listening to the music or sleep story....It really helps me to distract my critical mind from today’s events...

Maybe when your mind starts wandering..can you find something that you enjoy doing that takes your full concentration...Our minds can only think one thought at a time..therefore if you manage to distract it onto something pleasing....it will give your mind a short break and rest..

Hope you sleep well tonight dear Rynn...

My kindest and most caring thoughts..

Grandy..

[Rynn]

Hi mb20lover,

I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been struggling. I’m here if you want someone to talk to.

it’s been an interesting few days for me this week.
there’s been lots to do out of the house, so I’ve kept up going out and doing things. It feels like a good day while I’m out but then when I get home I’m thinking over every little detail again, feeling like everyone was judging me.
I’ve started swimming most days and then I crochet in the evenings, but I still can’t fall asleep till after 2am. So tired the next day.