needing encouragement

clouds11 · ‎24-01-2017

Hi guys,

I'm just reaching out at the moment for some encouragement. Lately I've been struggling with some issues in my life. Without going into too much detail, my housemate has been very hostile. She said some things to me that broke my confidence, and in the last month I've been struggling through overcoming what she said to me. I'm in a situation where I can't leave till the end of the year. Luckily things have mellowed, with her just ignoring me now.

I'm finding things so hard. Each day I focus on the positive things in my life and all the people that love me and care for me. But those things are eating away at me, and I just don't know what to do. I find myself having bursts of anxiety, experiencing heavy heartbeats and a lack of sleep when I'm home. Sometimes when I'm alone I'll work myself up into a state where I'll just spend extended times crying and holding myself.

Any words of kindness are appreciated,

Much love xxxx

MsPurple · ‎24-01-2017

Hi clouds

I have had a situation where I didn't get along with my housemates. It can be an awkward situation to be in especially if you still have more than half a year left on the lease. I basically lived with my mum and stayed at my place 3 nights a week but coming home late at night. Now I do not suggest this, I was in a situation where my mum had just moved up to Melbourne so I could do that (also we couldn't get wifi and I needed it to do assignments). I wish I had a sit down with my housemates and discussed what was wrong and why the dynamic had changed for the worse. This would have been hard and I would have been full of anxiety before doing it, but maybe the once off anxiety would be better than the constant mild anxiety. Could this be the case for you?

What they said must have been really hurtful to break your spirits and I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately sometimes housemates are only acquaintance and not friends. It would be ideal to become friends with your housemate but unfortunately this isn't always the case. Maybe if you could be on speaking terms and happy to watch tv in the same room this would be a good step. Please don't take what she said to heart. Some people say things when they are made or having a bad day and they tend to take it out on people who are close to them (such as housemate). Listen to your close friends and family not someone saying hurtful and unproductive things to you.

BballJ · ‎24-01-2017

Hi clouds11,

Firstly, welcome to the forums,

Very hard when you are dealing with someone who increases you anxiety and you happen to be living with them, my first thought is there an option to move out if it is causing you this much anxiety? Also have you spoken to her about what has happened or are you both not on speaking terms.

Anxiety is tough, I have dealt with it for most of my adult life so I understand where you are coming from in that regard. Have you ever spoken to your GP about your anxiety?

My best,

Jay