Dear Liam~
I guess having a dream girl does have a positive, it keeps you hoping that somebody will be a companion for you when you most need it. Actually you will both want to be companions for each other otherwise it will be short lived.
I'm not sure that being so specific in what you find attractive helps all that much, as it might let you overlook the ideal companion as their looks may be different to what you had in mind.
When my wife died young I felt very alone and wanted things to be as they had been before. I had lots of fantasies, none lasted. Actually I ended up advertising, though I did not say anything about how a person should look or their circumstances.
I ended up with a new partner who was way more glamorous and brainy than I , who am pretty ordinary, thought I had any hope of meeting. My dream lady was of more modest looks and abilities.
The thing is however that this person took an immediate interest in me, and me in her, and that outweighed looks of any sort appearance, which frankly was a bonus. We could talk and understand each other and enjoyed it. We are still together many years later.
What I'm trying to say is please don't be too ridged in your desires, and instead look for the personality that leads on to your both not being alone. You are an affectionate and caring person ideally suited for a companion and I'm sure it will happen. If fantasy keeps you going in the meantime that's OK, it did for me, just keep on recognizing it is fantasy and there are good things that can happen to you in real life too.
Croix
