Loneliness

[Frogsong]

Is it just me or are there others out there who have trouble making friends. I've lived in the area for such a long time but can't seem to find my niche. I've tried on several occasions to participate in different things but for one reason or another, my anxiety and fear of being rejected takes over. I know it's something l have to try and overcome but it's really hard and I am 60. I'm very kind and tolerant, married to a man who l know loves me, but he isn't social which doesn't help.
If it wasn't for my kids, l think l would just pack up and go.
So if there's any one who is going through similar things I'd love to hear from you.

[Guest_4643]

Hey Frogsong.

It's ok to not have everything figured out despite your age, some people are less fortunate than others, which is sad. Nobody's perfect, we all have our faults, etc.

Hey Kris_G, I'll be your friend. I have trouble making new friends also. I don't even have friends from primary or high school. I'm sure you're a cool person, and funny. Welcome by the way.

[Amanda2000]

Hi Frogsong,

I'm exactly the same - can't seem to find my niche!

I've had some short-term acquaintances at various stages in life but not close friends. My high school years were the worst. I was never important enough for anyone to mind me a seat next to them. Also I felt invisible in a group situation. This improved after I started uni. But then I was back at the beginning again when I started working as the age-groups can be quite diverse in the work-environment.

I need alone-time to recharge my energy so not having friends is actually not so bad for me nowadays.

We all change/evolve as we grow/age so what felt right for us 10 years ago may not be the same as today. I don't think there's any age that we can have everything all figured out. It's ok, a lovely surprise may be waiting for you sometime in the future but you just can't see it yet.

[Frogsong]

Hello thank you for your reply. Sorry you have also had a hard time, its not easy is it. I'm happy to say I enquired about volunteering today and have made the first steps to making it happen. I did actually start volunteering at the beginning of last year and then covid hit, I hope it works out this time. It's funny when you make steps to change things, if it wasn't for this forum I don't think I would be pushing myself so much, I think I've realised that there are so many people out there craving for acceptance and friendship. So thankyou to every single one of you.

[Frogsong]

Hello, so sorry you are feeling like this, just know, everyone is unique in their own way, I really hope you find your way.

[Frogsong]

Thank you, I hope you find your niche soon.

[Ggrand]

Dear Frogsong...

I was excited for you when I read that you put in an application for volunteer work....fingers crossed...I hope the people you with are kind and friendly....maybe a good friend may come from it...

I joined the forums I think 1997...very broken and confused about how to live without being told what to do, how to do etc....I received and still do receive beautiful support from the community members here...I connected with someone on these forums and now consider her my bbff....

I hope you find these forums as helpful as I have..

Sending you my love and a warm caring hug...(if you like hugs)...

Hope to hear from you again lovely lady..only when your ready..there’s no pressure here at all to post..

Grandy..

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[Frogsong]

Hello everyone, well since my last visit here I am starting orientation for a volunteer position next week, both excited and nervous about it. I know I'll have to work really hard at sticking it out as l tend to start things and give up because my anxiety kicks in. Reading everyone's posts has really helped as l realise I'm not alone, so thankyou everyone.

[Ggrand]

Congratulations Frogsong....you will do very good...Starting something new with anxiety is hard....Thoughts are only thoughts lovely Frogsong....I believe in you and know you will excel at your new volunteering position...

Wishing you all the wishes for your new journey...Please keep us updated if you like sharing...I would love to know how your getting on...

My kind thoughts always..

Grandy...

[Frogsong]

Thankyou, even though this is all online l don't feel as isolated as l did when l first wrote on this site. Everyone has been so kind suggesting ways to ease my loneliness. It made me realise I'm not alone, and it has pushed me out of my comfort zone.
Hoping for friendships not only here but out there too.

[Ggrand]

Hi Frogsong ..The community members here are really beautiful and caring people....and are now a huge part of my life....I couldn’t imagine not coming here daily to chat to people and try to support them as much as I can...

You are definitely amongst friends dear Frogsong...and never alone...

I hope so much that you will find some wonderful friends and friendships in your new volunteer role....

Warm hugs lovely Frogsong.... 🐸 🎶..

Grandy..