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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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CoffeeCake24 How do I breakup with my seemingly emotionally abusive partner?
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Hello there, Just recently I met this guy and when we first started dating, like most relationships in the beginning, it was just amazing. He was everything I had wanted in a man. And I felt appreciated and wanted. However, lately things have seem to... View more

Hello there, Just recently I met this guy and when we first started dating, like most relationships in the beginning, it was just amazing. He was everything I had wanted in a man. And I felt appreciated and wanted. However, lately things have seem to deteriorate between us. He seems to put zero effort into our relationship. For instance, he lives quite far away from me and he doesn't drive me home anymore when I come to stay. And when I do catch public transportation home he doesn't even walk me to my train and make sure I get on my train, safely. He doesn't come to visit me anymore. We either meet in the city, at a mutual friend for him but families' house for me. Or even at his house. I feel very unloved, unappreciated and very much unwanted. I feel like I am also being emotionally abused because when I speak up about my feelings and my concerns he gets very frustrated and angry with me. Knowing, perfectly well that I suffer enormously from anxiety I try to act brave and speak my concerns. I have tried wording things differently. And now I feel very nervous and frightened to tell him my concerns as usually he says that 'I hurt him when I need reassurance about our relationship.' or he tells me I am 'too sensitive' when he calls me a name, jokingly. And usually when I speak up about the issues that occur throughout our relationship he tells me that he 'isn't in the mood' to talk about it or he needs alone time and then he leaves me feeling very confused and upset. And he tells me sometimes issues I bring up 'are not fair on his behalf because he does a lot for me.' Recently, I tried to break it off with him because I told him I felt within myself that I wasn't fully prepared nor ready to move in with him even though a week prior I thought the idea was wonderful and practical. I told him I needed to think about it and he told me that we didn't have long to think about it because he wanted to get the ball rolling as quickly as possibly. I was so stressed because he suddenly was making me feel horrible and worried about where he was going to live. I was panicking because he seem to be placing the blame on me. Saying things like 'oh you have really seem to of f*cked things up for me now.' I feel scared to talk to him about my feelings and concerns because I don't like us having arguments. I know deep down this man isn't good for me and even others can see that by the way he treats me. How do I leave him?

Ghostnet My Girlfreind has anxiety and recently imploded
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Hey there my girlfriend suffers from anxiety. recently we had a trip planned for March going Queensland to Sydney-I had bought tickets to the an opera. She had an anxiety attack one night about COVID and what happens if lockdown hits while we are the... View more

Hey there my girlfriend suffers from anxiety. recently we had a trip planned for March going Queensland to Sydney-I had bought tickets to the an opera. She had an anxiety attack one night about COVID and what happens if lockdown hits while we are there and text me at 4am in the morning to say she wanted to cancel. I visited her that morning-no arguments and I said lets just wait until closer to the event. I mentioned alternative like flying out , driving out and such if something happened. I went to work-that was a Wednesday and by Friday had not heard from her so I text as we were supposed to go out that night and she said she was going out by herself and would call-no call but a goodbye its been a good two years text and its over. I went to see her and I have never seen her in this state. Angry and rude and basically how dare i not be concerned about her anxiety and then unloaded on every little inconsequential and trivial thing that and ever happened in two years that I had done (even having a 2 hour swim at the beach-crazy stuff)-it was a side of her i had never seen and she was in a high state of aggression and abuse? I left shattered as nothing had every indicated this level of uncharacteristically hate and insults. All this a month after Christmas where her card red 'our second christmas and many more to come." I have been shattered for the last two weeks and di not see any of this comings as it was basically bliss. can anxiety make a person lose control and take it out on someone close to them-I am quite confused and at this point in time I am of limits for any conversation or explanation? All this because in her head I wasn't compassionate enough about her anxiety attack? Is this something that high anxiety may cause a person to do? lash out.

Akiner Help please
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Hi everyone. My life has had its ups and downs. Mostly downs then ups unfortunately. My sister passed away in 2014 at 26 by an unforeseen circumstance. The moment she passed, I wanted to pass on with her and had no will to live. Somehow found my way ... View more

Hi everyone. My life has had its ups and downs. Mostly downs then ups unfortunately. My sister passed away in 2014 at 26 by an unforeseen circumstance. The moment she passed, I wanted to pass on with her and had no will to live. Somehow found my way out of the everyday struggle and started to live again, but not really, when that one person gave me everything and I gave them all I could in return. My go to person. Through out my hole life ive struggled with my anger issues. Ive faced depression without knowing it was depression in highschool and MAJOR anxiety which has impacted my person life severely till this day. I've got a bad habit with my friendships that I dont know how to control, if they confront me with something I dont like I feel like it would just end up being a fight or never talking again. There is no in-between, I can cut a person off just like that if I feel threatened in anyway (most of the time), and that's me avoiding criticism because I dont know how to respond to it. I re think and re think and re think where I JUST WONT LET IT GO, AND I won't say anything and let it eat me up inside till I get over it. Something very little can be the biggest thing to me. Overall, I just feel like a wreck, worn down, insecure, same repetitive not emotionally secured bitch. I listen to my mums advice a lot though, and although it's boring shes 65 years of age and knows a heck of a whole lot more than I do. I just feel like my soul isn't happy with me. I need help!

Maroon_Moon Maroon Moon Here
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Hello Everyone, New to posting here I've had depression and anxiety on and off for years, but in the past year and a half my anxiety has skyrocketed relating to Health Anxieties that have had no reality after talking with GP's Three ish weeks ago, st... View more

Hello Everyone, New to posting here I've had depression and anxiety on and off for years, but in the past year and a half my anxiety has skyrocketed relating to Health Anxieties that have had no reality after talking with GP's Three ish weeks ago, started having the sensation that breathing was unsatisfying. at first, I thought it was just allergies and ignored it, but when this snap lockdown kicked in, the symptom kicked into high gear. Spent a few days and nights thinking I was going to die, and yet the GP still insists there is nothing wrong. I've seen a psychiatrist and the therapist for a while now, and I managed things in relation to my ADD and ASD, but this latest one has me blunted. I focus on one of these different symptoms through the day that I fear will kill me, which I will then go days/weeks/months not worrying about, even getting checked up and confirming they are nothing before I look at the spot they are in and the cycle begins again. a few days ago I started getting tension headaches, still got one writing this out now, just on one side of my head. I've not been on medication for managing these symptoms for a long time, took some a few years back but then stopped and didn't have any problems. I've always come through these periods in the past, and I'm confident I will for this one as well, but then another part of my brain starts saying "Unless..." and i'm sure you can fill in the rest of that sentence. I guess i want to feel less alone, and talk about these experiences with people outside my direct circle, so I'm not burdoning them with something uncontrollable. it makes it easier to withdraw if that's the reason i['m' withdrawing, and i don't want to withdraw. Hope this makes sense

Ikvic Next step a hurdle
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I have fluctuating levels of anxiety that I have never talked to anyone about. I have recently been to my GP for a MHP but now I feel I may have made the questionnaire that I completed about my mental health- worse that it really is, and I'm not THAT... View more

I have fluctuating levels of anxiety that I have never talked to anyone about. I have recently been to my GP for a MHP but now I feel I may have made the questionnaire that I completed about my mental health- worse that it really is, and I'm not THAT bad, that I should just just get over how I feel, pick up my big girl pants and get on with life. It took me about 3 months maybe even 6-12 months to talk to the GP, I'm afraid it's going to take me even longer to actually make an appointment with a Pyschologist. I saw that they only have appointments in my work times, and I'm not going to take time off work to go as I dont want to tell my boss or work mates. Does anyone else feel like a fraud ? Has anyone else found it difficult to make that next step?

thomasjaja father and partner- compulsive liar- alcoholic-former drug user- depressed- anxiety filled and happy attempting to turn my life around.
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Hi, Im 31 and im a compulsive liar, except when saying that. its true. Ive lied about anything and everything since I can remember, age 4-5 id say.I have adhd, anxiety, depression, Im an alcoholic and former drug user. Ive never paid back money, make... View more

Hi, Im 31 and im a compulsive liar, except when saying that. its true. Ive lied about anything and everything since I can remember, age 4-5 id say.I have adhd, anxiety, depression, Im an alcoholic and former drug user. Ive never paid back money, make excuses and lose friends over it. i have no relationship with any family except my dad. Ive isolated from my friends, My partner is amazing and has stuck with me for 2 years now, we have a son and another due in 2 weeks. Shes never judged me and supports me endlessly. I havent been diagnosed bipolar but it seems im two people- The Liar and The one that hates seeing people hurt and dealing with the liars mistakes. Always had anger issues though episodes are further apart these days. I never got help, it was only after an accident at 30 I flipped out getting a ct scan and was met by a top psych when the benzodiazepine kicked in back in my ward bed when it all came out. Day after discharge I had a formal appointment, diagnosed with clinical depression andadhd (at 30) my life then made sense. I got my prescription. I never went back. I dropped out of high school thinking i was stupid unable to concentrate and always anxious. Ive just enrolled into uni at 31. Im freaking out but want to really turn my life around and be someone for myself and kids. Thats not a lie. Im genuinely scared of failing and not concentrating and lying to get through knowing that makes it worse. Im not on medication, Ive gone 6 days with no alcohol after 12 years of a minimum 10 standard drinks a day with maybe 10 sober days in that time. 9 months no drugs aswell. I know i have to see a professional but the aniexty of them not believing me is overwhelming full well knowing thats not the case. None of this is even making sense, I just want to know if anyone is the same and I want to start changing my life and who ive acted to be and be true from now.

Ocdiff Job Hopping
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Good afternoon everyone, hope we are all doing well! I have a habit of "job hopping" due to my high anxiety. I'll start a job, get overwhelmed with anxiety/stress and hate it, and then quit. Seeing if anyone shares this issue and what you have done t... View more

Good afternoon everyone, hope we are all doing well! I have a habit of "job hopping" due to my high anxiety. I'll start a job, get overwhelmed with anxiety/stress and hate it, and then quit. Seeing if anyone shares this issue and what you have done to better deal with it? thank you!

Trans_boi LGBTQ+ and social anxiety
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im trans, and pan(for those who know) and i also have anxiety. i just want to know what kinds of things that could help overcome the homophobes and transphobes? And i also want to know some wys to come out to homo-trans-phobic parents... IT IS DRIVIN... View more

im trans, and pan(for those who know) and i also have anxiety. i just want to know what kinds of things that could help overcome the homophobes and transphobes? And i also want to know some wys to come out to homo-trans-phobic parents... IT IS DRIVING ME INSANE!!!having to pretend to be a girl, and not liking them... so if you have a good coming out story, please share...

Lipson4 Newbie....
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Hi Everyone ... New kid on the block here.... Suffering from lot of head wooziness Drs say is BP issues but I have it when blood pressure is ok.. sometimes hangs around all day. So I am assuming the worse... I have never slept well but now waking aft... View more

Hi Everyone ... New kid on the block here.... Suffering from lot of head wooziness Drs say is BP issues but I have it when blood pressure is ok.. sometimes hangs around all day. So I am assuming the worse... I have never slept well but now waking after 4 hours rather anxious and taking a while to get back to sleep. Been taking medication for almost two weeks.... so could be from bad sleep.... who knows.. does anyone else suffer from anything like this?

AnonymousTeen11 am I making it all up and looking for attention??? help.
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Hi, I am feeling quite conflicted and would like some outside input. I am diagnosed with anxiety and depression, and while at the start I believed it really 'explained' how I was feeling, I am now concerned I am making it up. See, I feel like I put a... View more

Hi, I am feeling quite conflicted and would like some outside input. I am diagnosed with anxiety and depression, and while at the start I believed it really 'explained' how I was feeling, I am now concerned I am making it up. See, I feel like I put a lot of my identity in my diagnosis, like it is a major part of who I am. I'm not directly proud of my diagnoses, but at the same time sometimes my mind tells me it is 'cool' and makes me 'interesting'. Like I want something vaguely not boring about myself. I know I shouldn't think like that, and on my really low days I cringe at myself ever thinking that. I don't know if those are just intrusive thoughts or if I am not actually anxious and depressed, and am making it up for attention. I feel like sometimes I can put myself out there for sympathy, so very confusing. Honestly I am hyper aware of how I am feeling in the moment and I feel like while on the outside I am acting somewhat normal, that on the inside I am constantly constantly constantly checking myself and the intensity of my symptoms. That might not be inherently bad, but I worry because like I said I put a lot of my identity in my illnesses. And that almost makes me not want to get better because I would lose a huge chunk of who I am. Help please! I am feeling quite conflicted and don't know what's going on, any input would be really appreciated. If you read this far, thank you.

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