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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remeber, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anixiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for you post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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kristine434 anybody share this experience?
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Hi everyone Ever since a major change in my life 10 years ago I've adopted a new way of living. I have started to live with chronic hypervigilance but I wouldnt say its from PTSD because I havent really had anything traumatic happen to me. But I have... View more

Hi everyone Ever since a major change in my life 10 years ago I've adopted a new way of living. I have started to live with chronic hypervigilance but I wouldnt say its from PTSD because I havent really had anything traumatic happen to me. But I have read hypervigilance can be caused by extreme anxiety not just PTSD. Ive adopted a jump response when anyone touches me without telling me prior that they will touch me. This is what I believe: as a consequence of living with this chronic hypervigilance I shut down whenever a new pressure is applied or something new comes into my life be it work or study. It makes me crash down in exhaustion like I can't tolerate the extra stress. I then withdrawal from everything and everyone. This has begun to affect my life and is only making my life worse and makes me feel so alone. Has anyone ever experienced something like this?

Smithy999 Mental health repairs
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Hi, i am 24 years old, and i have been working on trying to improve my mental health for quite some time now. Everytime i get a bit further, i get kicked in the guts. I just want to enjoy my life and have lots of fun. I believe mental health is a set... View more

Hi, i am 24 years old, and i have been working on trying to improve my mental health for quite some time now. Everytime i get a bit further, i get kicked in the guts. I just want to enjoy my life and have lots of fun. I believe mental health is a setback, not an excuse. I believe the causes of my deppression and anxiety are having career goals interupted by a teen pregnancy, followed by an extremely premature baby including a traumatic birth (i think i have undiagnosed ptsd) also a long stay in the neonatal intensive care unit. Not long after, my mum died from cancer. I am struggling to accept this. I do not like my dads new girlfriend. I have been polite and tried to not let it affect me, however this has not worked. I have learnt to control my pannick attacks, and then i was informed that she would be moving into my mums house, a couple of days after her 3rd death anniversary. Now my pannick attacks are back. Ive just been trying so hard and setting my self up tp be on track mentally and it keeps failing. I dont want to loose my jobs from having pannick attacks and having to leave work

Sweesoft Anxiety amidst COVID-19
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This pandemic has caused so much anxiety to people all over the globe. What are the things you do to fight anxiety and keep your mind off the negative impact of COVID-19?

This pandemic has caused so much anxiety to people all over the globe. What are the things you do to fight anxiety and keep your mind off the negative impact of COVID-19?

T_93 Help with Anxiety
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Hi there, im not really sure what to do ( previously wrote this in another forum but wasn’t sure I did it right) I don’t want to worry my family anymore as they know I have battled with anxiety and really bad depression in the past and feel as though... View more

Hi there, im not really sure what to do ( previously wrote this in another forum but wasn’t sure I did it right) I don’t want to worry my family anymore as they know I have battled with anxiety and really bad depression in the past and feel as though I need to work it out on my own. i just started a new job in customer service, and it is making me feel sick to my stomach...I get so scared I’m going to get into trouble or something bad will happen plus I think I hate dealing with people and how rude they can be. My anxiety is almost getting the better of me but I’m trying to fight it and remain as calm as I can possibly be! Iv started waking up weird hours of the night thinking about the new job and all I am thinking about is the job but then my thoughts start to escalate and I think about a whole bunch of other things and bad things that I have gone through and tell myself I am failing and I’m not good enough....Iv been told I put pressure on myself and I believe that I do a little bit. however, I just hate feeling this way because there are so many people out there that have much worse problems and I feel I am being selfish and not grateful for the blessing I have in my life. I am gay and my family are so supportive and incredible and same with my friends. I’m just not sure what to do and wonder if anyone has any advise. thank you for whoever is reading this and sorry for the rant! T.

Liffey01 I can't get out of this funk and it's held me back
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Hey everyone, For the majority of my 20's I have been constantly battling with myself to find that inner peace and I don't know what else I need to do to get back to being baseline happy. From the outside looking in it would appear I have the world a... View more

Hey everyone, For the majority of my 20's I have been constantly battling with myself to find that inner peace and I don't know what else I need to do to get back to being baseline happy. From the outside looking in it would appear I have the world at my feet. I come from a good family, great social life, a decent job, girlfriend, living abroad etc. But despite all these good things internally I'm a mess. I've always been able to put on a strong face but in the last few years it's getting harder and harder. I have taken many steps to try and fix the problem but nothing works. Counselling, mediation, psychology books, eating healthy, continuing to play sports and exercise, limiting social media, the list could go on but nothing works in the long term. I was once an energetic and charming person, now I pretend to be. Life never got me down and if it tried I was always able to get through and be positive. But these days the smallest of inconveniences hit me harder. I get lost in deep thought more often and it's usually something negative. I've even started whispering to myself during these deep thoughts and friends and family have noticed. I think I'm starting to lose my mind. Nothing makes me truly happy anymore. I can't tell whether I am actually laughing at something or I'm pretending to save face and to avoid questions from people. The things I tend to focus on during my far way thoughts are my job, certain relationships, my regrets (many of these), my view on the world and how I view myself. I feel like a fraud in work. I find myself in a profession that I never planned for and have no interest in. I would love to know what it is that would fulfill me career wise. I'm not looking for that passion job that influencers would have you believe is important, only something that I would be competent at and make me proud at the end of the day. I question some friendships constantly and I feel like I've become the bottom rung of the ladder with my friends. It seems every little mistake, even if it's not a mistake, I make is a big deal. And when I try pointing out something they've done I'm shot down by everyone. No one is genuine. The regrets are long and I'm ashamed of myself because of some of them. The world is a messed up place and people aren't as friendly as they use to be, including me. I don't like myself deep down. I want to again but how do I forgive myself?

Ironman247 Hii
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i am a best blloger.

i am a best blloger.

doingitforme Anxiety and renovating
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hello first time poster. Ive bee to the doc to get a mental health plan but im onto week 3 in waiting for the psychologist to ring me. We decided against medication but i didnt think id have to wait this long. Im so ready to deal with what im dealing... View more

hello first time poster. Ive bee to the doc to get a mental health plan but im onto week 3 in waiting for the psychologist to ring me. We decided against medication but i didnt think id have to wait this long. Im so ready to deal with what im dealing with but i just cant on my own anymore. We are in a very long process of renovating an old house. We have been living here 3 years now and i have got some fibro board tested for asbestos which came back positive. I have been having deliberating anxiety over how much we have been exposed to. For the past 3 years we have been living without care with fluffy raw edges of it right at our main door which gets slammed onto it, picked at, rubbed where we tuck a towel between the gaps to stop drafts. I have 3 small kids and i am petrified that we have been exposed to so many of those fibres. Since i have taken measures to seal the edges but that doesn't help the 3 years we have been exposed to it... i did some research on asbestos which has made my anxiety 10000 times worse coz no level of asbestos exposure is safe... i can't live the next 20 years worrying about getting a related disease. I cant eat properly, i cant sleep and my poor kids don't know what's wrong with me. I feel so stupid about it... any tips???

artiste9909 Headaches And Anxiety
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Hello, I am a 22 year old male. Recently after a tough time in life, I was diagnosed with GAD. Been getting headaches for a few weeks already, went to get a CT scan done and a full physical examination with the results being negative for anything ser... View more

Hello, I am a 22 year old male. Recently after a tough time in life, I was diagnosed with GAD. Been getting headaches for a few weeks already, went to get a CT scan done and a full physical examination with the results being negative for anything serious. I am aware that anxiety can cause headaches, but is it normal to feel them even on days that you don't feel anxious? And is it normal to get them so often daily? Recently these headaches has been causing me even more anxiety, because I am pretty worried that what if the Doctor missed something, or what if the tumours somehow grew after I had the CT etc and other thoughts like these. The headaches themselves are not terrible, definitely not ass bad as what I make them out to be, but they have been causing me a huge inconvenience in my daily life with how annoying and frequent they are. Cannot really think or do much except worry if it is something serious. Been adjusting my whole schedule and activity based on how bad the headaches could possibly get. Tried to exercise and lead a healthier life, but the discomfort still doesn't seem to go away. Been also feeling pretty down because my appointment with the psychologist won't be until a month later, and any further tests like MRI would need to be ordered, take more time to find an appoint and would cost a lot of money too. Im sorry if my structure is all over the place, but its been so frustrating. I know deep inside that I could probably undergo every single test under the sun, and nothing would come up, but I cannot seem to convince myself that everything is okay and fine with me. It is like the headaches are demanding to be felt. Anyone has any experience with this? Thank you very much.

Nimi Feeling Guilty for Standing Up
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Hi guys, I have been thinking about writing about this for a while and I am still very nervous to write it, but I figure I should at least give it a try. Maybe someone has experienced something similar. A few weeks ago I had to do a very difficult th... View more

Hi guys, I have been thinking about writing about this for a while and I am still very nervous to write it, but I figure I should at least give it a try. Maybe someone has experienced something similar. A few weeks ago I had to do a very difficult thing. I had been feeling for a while that I was being treated without respect by a group of people whom I considered my friends. I really cared about them, and I still do, so it was incredibly hard to realise that I just felt so... uncomfortable. I am afraid of talking about this because I am scared of being harassed online by them if I am found, so I am going to be vague, I hope that's okay and not too confusing. I have had moments of severe depression and occasional anxiety attacks throughout my life, where I cannot cope and needed to speak to my friends for support. I always did my best to offer an ear in return to support them as well, because I have many other friends that have been through some intensely difficult times and really needed an ear, or a shoulder and were occasionally a bit blunt or negative because they were sad. I can completely relate to that position and I have always tried my best to put myself in other people's shoes. For at least a year though, I felt that something was terribly wrong. Like a gut feeling. I now see in hindsight that there were red flags everywhere, I was spoken to repeatedly in a passive-aggressive manner, blamed for things that were beyond my control and for not doing enough, insulted in front of friends (and my own family!) at a major event and when I asked numerous times what was happening, telling them that our friendship mattered to me and that I was lost... I was accused of being aggressive or confrontational. I felt like I was going crazy and I still feel like I am. I could not support them when I was feeling attacked like this, which they then continued to blame me for. I am so confused and hurt even now. Did I deserve that because I had moments of weakness and needed help? I was constantly apologising, and if they had told me that I was annoying then I would have listened and taken it seriously because they really mattered to me. It's really awful that as soon as I stood up and left I began to receive harassing texts accusing me of being passive-aggressive and a liar. I just felt so crazy hearing that. I stopped to think... did all the times I was trying to be genuine not matter? Was I not doing my best? Had I been making it up? Thank you for reading.

Not_Batman Triggers *Warning themes of abuse*
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Hello BB community. So im posting to try and understand myself a bit more. I get very anxious and saddened when i hear about the abuse or exploitation of children. To the point where i feel almost uncontrollably edgy, and depressed. most cases its wa... View more

Hello BB community. So im posting to try and understand myself a bit more. I get very anxious and saddened when i hear about the abuse or exploitation of children. To the point where i feel almost uncontrollably edgy, and depressed. most cases its watching movies. In artificial intelligence the robot child is Deliberately left behind in the forrest by his ‘family’. i cannot even bring myself to watch one of my kids movies - Onward. most recently was a thriller called ‘True Story’ which is based on a guy that murders his 3 children. I cried a bit, well maybe more than i care to admit. other times its watching the news. I remember a segment that was presented by nuala hafner, where she broke into tears as i did about the segment. Just horrifying. just today i learned of a person, that i have never met, that was sexually abused Almost daily from the age of 5 to her mid teens. I felt an instant pain in my chest and a sickening feeling in my stomach. Having not been a victim of abuse or exploitation, where does the feeling come from, and how is it best to deal with this? Not_Batman