Inner chatter - Wish it would go away

Bella_____ · ‎21-08-2015

I'm very new to this. But l have reached a point where my anxiety is determining my quality of life or rather my enjoyment of it. I am typically a very positive person and l don't believe in thinking otherwise. But it's like l have something inside of me that is determined to think otherwise. I have so much internal dialogue. Usually all crammed in my head before l go to work.Thought's of too much to do. That l'm not got enough. That l'm not a good person. My mind goes off on so many tangents is just not funny. It's gotten to the point if l don't write lists. I can't get through a work day. And l forget easily on things l need to do. I get so caught up in these thoughts l waste time doing nothing and thus achieving nothing. Which sets me further behind. Then the snowball effect follows. I put things off that are so simple. For what reason l do not know. Then that just feeds me anxiety. I find it incredibly easy to help others and see what they need and l am able to give quite helpful advice. But l'm finding a disconnect when it comes to myself. It's like l set myself up for my own road blocks.

Anyway this is just a little on how l'm feeling at the moment. Looking forward to reading what others are experiencing and finding a little comfort that l can move past this in a productive manner.

geoff · ‎22-08-2015

dear Bella, great to be able to talk to you.

There is a site that I hope you can google 'Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Plagued by Doubt', as well as 'anxiety and OCD exposed', and I'm not saying that you have OCD but what is said you maybe able to relate to.

What you have to remember is that the reason why we can help other people is because it doesn't involve ourselves, and the other big reason is because we have been through the same circumstances and come out the other end and have learnt a great deal.

This is an experience which along the way you will have tried many different options, some will be successful while other times will be a failure, and at the moment you are struggling on how you will be able to cope, your heart will be broken, disappointed and angry, but I would like to know what you think of those sites I have sent to you, and even the smallest bit of information maybe of some help. L Geoff. x

joeljoel · ‎23-08-2015

Hey Bella,

I think it is a fairly common thing for people with anxiety to often seek to help others more so than themselves, at least that is what I have experienced a great deal. Perhaps you might be doing as subconsciously it might make you feel better about yourself as was the case with me. Anxiety can make someone very unproductive and stuck in a seemingly endless rut. However, sometimes it is good for the mind to do something and be preoccupied, so whenever you get caught up in these thoughts that waste your time and prevent you from doing anything do something relaxing, something that you enjoy. It could be something like playing music, exercising, reading a book, writing or whatever it is you enjoy. This can cleanse the brain and reinvigorate you, act as an outlet to get out any possible frustrations. This works for me, hopefully it might help you.

Best. Joel

Kyl3 · ‎23-08-2015

Hi Bella

I hear what you are saying. It is just a thought, but it sounds like you may have too much on your plate. My suggestion would be to perhaps make a list of what is most important in your life in order of priority. Concentrate on those things. Up the top of the list could be taking care of you. Also jot down what things you can stop doing, to alleviate some of the pressure. I understand the negative thoughts. It can take deliberate effort to change these into positive thoughts until it becomes part of your normal thought process - pushing the negative thoughts away.:)

CMF · ‎23-08-2015

Hi Bella,

anxiety can be debilitating. I know exactly where you're coming from with the endless thoughts that take over your mind so much that you can't get anything done. Depression is living in the past, anxiety is living in the future. Both stop us enjoying the now. We need to try and stay in the present, focus on this point in time. I know easier said than done. Writing is great for this. Just write down whatever is on your mind, how you're feeling. It's ok if it's random, the point us when you write it down you transfer it from your mind to the paper. It helps clear the mind because your taking it out and putting it somewhere else. You can then keep it or throw it out. It works because your putting those thoughts elsewhere.I make lists all the time of things I need to do. I do what I can, when I can and cross it off it's an achievement and one less thing to do. Look into a product called inositol it's a natural sugar vitamin b6. It also works very quickly.

Tux1971 · ‎25-08-2015

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I'm in a permanent state of self sabotage. Even thought I'm very popular and come across as bubbly and carefree, the constant chatter in my head drives me insane. It's exhausting. I'm always telling myself I'm useless, silly, loud, annoying, and that my friends will all suddenly stop liking me. Even though this hasn't happened in the past, I'm convinced my friends are all just going to decide one day that I'm a loser. My husband is constantly reassuring me that this is just a crazy thought, but it's MY crazy thought and for some reason my mind has decided that it's most likely going to come to fruition. My mind is driving me insane and it's almost impossible to turn the chatter down. So yes, I know exactly how you're feeling. You're not alone!

CMF · ‎25-08-2015

Hi tux1971,

you make an interesting point when you say "...it's MY crazy thought" people who haven't experienced or don't understand anxiety don't realise that although the thoughts seem irrational to them, they are very real to you. My ex husband used to say to people that there was need for me to have anxiety, that it was silly but a friend pointed out that how I felt, the fear I felt, was real to me. I think only someone who has experienced these feelings and thoughts can understand this . Anxiety is thinking in the future, things that COULD happen. Try and focus on the present, on each day, each moment. It's hard when your mind is Sousa with the "what if's" but it's important to try. Look into "inositol" it's natural and it works.

take care

CMF · ‎04-04-2018

Ah , I knew there was a thread somewhere about 'inner chatter'. Mine has been going ALL DAY. It just won't shut up.

Anyone else have this issue (ok, maybe a silly question).

Any ideas how to stop it?

cmf

acacia100 · ‎04-04-2018

Hi CMF,

I saw this post and couldn't not reply. Inner chatter irritates me so much and is such a struggle to control and deal with and yep most people don't understand it at all, the lucky ones who manage to have calm mindsets!!

I thought i was going ok the last few weeks but have been having a bad run at the moment which is disappointing! The only thing that sometimes helps me is when i jot down my thoughts and burn them but sometimes thats too hard and its just easier to curl up in a ball with a blanket and hide from the world !

CMF · ‎05-04-2018

Hi acacia,

yes, I used to write things down a lot. What I try now is to just yell at it to stop. This morning I could feel some anxiety creeping in and the chatter going so in my mind I yelled 'STOP, STOP, STOP'. I find it annoying when I'm trying to keep busy and do something enjoyable and it just keeps going, on and on, over and over.

wishing you the best. I hope you can find ways to overcome it.

cmf x