Frustrated

Rusty

I am just wondering if anyone gets frustrated and tired of the endless effort of dealing with anxiety, depression and loneliness and even though I’m putting in a great effort I just don’t feel like I’m achieving anything.
I know I’m doing the right things but I can’t help but think it’s just not worth the effort. What do people do to push through.

Alikiwi

Hi Rusty,

I admit the only thing I have in common, more or less, is the loneliness, and even that gets frustrating especially at this moment. I too am wondering what the point of it all is and unfortunately I don't have an answer. This also leads to boredom which I suspect you might find as well. What to do to push through? Eat a bit too much seems to be true, for me at least, but fortnightly bush walks help with that and the boredom.

Mind you, I do wonder what the point of doing anything is, if you do it alone. Walking the beach (not an easy option for me) does seem pointless on you own, so one may as well stay at home, more boredom! Logically it is all worth the effort, but logic and emotions are rather opposites, so we seem to go in a circle. Maybe just going in circles is enough, and just maybe something good will eventually turn up if we keep trying. On some level, I'm sure I'm a very trying person, at least some people may think so 😉

Rusty

Hi Alikiwi

Thanks for your reply, it does feel like I’m going around in circles. I think I am a trying person, although when I feel like I’m going around in circles it doesn’t feel like anything good will happen. I end up thinking how long I can keep trying before I end up giving up

Illbeok

Hi Rusty,

It can be incredibly frustrating to put so much work into something and see no clear, observable results. It sounds like you might be experiencing burnout—you are exhausted because you’ve been fighting so hard for such a long time. That tells me you are a truly tenacious and strong person.

Have you tried being kind to yourself and acknowledging that it is okay to feel this way? Try reminding yourself: 'It is totally okay to be frustrated because I am doing my absolute best to become the person I want to be. This process matters.'

I used to train for different sports, and I often felt so disappointed when I didn't win. Looking back, I’m proud that I tried, even when I failed. Those experiences taught me how to cope, how to accept my limits, and how to be kind to myself. I didn't realize it at the time, but that process was building my character. Resilience isn't something we’re born with; it’s a skill we learn through the effort of trying (and sometimes failing) and by nurturing our vulnerable selves.

You are on the right path, and your breakthrough might be just around the corner. I am cheering you on—you are not alone, and I hope you keep posting.

Rusty

Thanks for the encouragement. I do tend to be hard on myself and don’t really give myself the credit I deserve. Being kind to myself is something I haven’t really done, I’m not sure if I really know how. Possibly I think it’s hard to be kind to myself because it means I’ve haven’t achieved what I’ve wanted.
Hopefully I can just keep learning and keep developing resilience to be able to keep going