Anxiety

In the middle of moving house. LOTS of anxiety. Just need to talk through my fears.

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My name is Courtney, diagnosed over 20 years ago with severe GAD and depression. Right now I'm in the middle of moving house. I decided to move from my 1 bed to a 2 bed so I can get a doggie companion! It's been an insanely stressful month going to i... View more

My name is Courtney, diagnosed over 20 years ago with severe GAD and depression. Right now I'm in the middle of moving house. I decided to move from my 1 bed to a 2 bed so I can get a doggie companion! It's been an insanely stressful month going to inspections every day, finding the right place and packing up my life to move to a brand new place. Right now I'm at my parents house for 4 days until I can move into my new home. It's so scary moving to a completely new environment! My anxiety is off the charts and I'm worried about EVERYTHING. How much did I spend on this move? Was it the right decision to move? Did i pick the right place? What if I hate it? Will I be able to sleep there? And on and on on on... Now I knew these feelings were coming. I've moved before and hated it so much I didn't do it again for another 8 years. The uncertainty of a new environment is all consuming. I also know it's the right time for me to move forward with my life. I've been "stuck" for a really long time and it's time for me to step out into the world and live my life. But it doesn't mean I'm not scared that I'm not doing the right thing. I just wanted to talk through my feelings. Write them down and work through them. If you have any words of encouragement, I would love to hear them! I have alot of trouble being kind to myself, and sometimes I need help from others to tell me I'm doing a good job. Thank you for listening.

Worry, worry worry

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I've often said in these forums "worry is non productive". It doesnt produce a thing for your positivity. You can worry that you have an appointment the next day. Then you dont sleep because you are worried you will sleep in or forget your CV documen... View more

I've often said in these forums "worry is non productive". It doesnt produce a thing for your positivity. You can worry that you have an appointment the next day. Then you dont sleep because you are worried you will sleep in or forget your CV documents or not be dressed up well enough. All 3 things in this example is worry for zero benefit. You can have 2 alarm clocks to prevent you sleeping in, you can place your CV in the car so you dont forget it and you can select your clothing the night before....so off you go and have a good night sleep...bet you dont!! That's because 'worry' is inground, it's part of you, like a limb. So it's extremely difficult to rid yourself of this burden. The first and most important step is separating reality with unrealistic thoughts. When we allow out thought patterns to trod along without challenge then we have a problem. Discipline to attack unrealistic thoughts has to be there for many reasons like - the less you think unrealistically the more time you have for real thoughts. And unrealistic thoughts can cause other issues to- Fear! In 1987 I had a big dispute at my workplace. A pain in my chest and an abnormal heart beat led to a diagnosis of heart attack. This was incorrect and after a few months it was found to be a panic attack. My therapist asked me weekly what happened during the week and I'd tell him I thought my boss would knock on my door, or my doctor wouldnt believe my fear was real or I really did have a heart attack and they got the diagnosis wrong again. Can you the reader see where I'm coming from? The next step is relaxation. Learn it. Go to relaxation classes. Learn muscle tensioning exercises. They really work. What you would be doing is learning a task that some do naturally but for some reason you missed out. It isnt your fault but if you dont attack the issue it will be your fault. You wont find a relaxing life and that is not good. Take it from someone who knows. The last step is prioritising. Placing things in priority allows you to tackle the hard things first then as you tackle less important things you begin to relax more. Finances is a good example. Low on funds you should be shopping for food instead you decide to get that truck load of manure for the garden. For the rest of the week until pay day you struggle with coins only in your pocket. = worry. Worry is non productive.It doesnt produce a thing except hurt, anxiety, depression or at least assists these things. Remove it from your life. Tony WK

Anxiety

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HiIve experienced anxiety at certain times throughout my life but in the last few years it has been pretty full on. I have some very strange sensations/intrusive/doom like thoughts. Thankfully I am seeing someone to talk it over but at times it is so... View more

HiIve experienced anxiety at certain times throughout my life but in the last few years it has been pretty full on. I have some very strange sensations/intrusive/doom like thoughts. Thankfully I am seeing someone to talk it over but at times it is so hard. Does anyone else have these experiences sensations, I find them very very distressing and I'm not sure how to handle them some days.Does anyone have any ideas.Thanks

Severe paranoia and anxiety

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Hi all, I'm quite new to this so forgive me if I'm not approaching it right but... I don't know what to do anymore. I have overly severe paranoia issues and its become that bad that its running my friendships and causing tension within my family.. I ... View more

Hi all, I'm quite new to this so forgive me if I'm not approaching it right but... I don't know what to do anymore. I have overly severe paranoia issues and its become that bad that its running my friendships and causing tension within my family.. I constantly believe negative thoughts with situations and can't seem to block them out. I find it hard to communicate with people face to face with my problems and have mild form of social anxiety. I want to join social groups around town but I'm too scared that people will judge me negatively so I just stay home and avoid people altogether.. I guess all I'd like to know is if anyone else is going through the same thing at the moment and how they're dealing with it? Would really appreciate some support.. Thank you. - Bes

Anxiety Burnout and Depression Episode Going on 1 year Now

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Hi All, doing it tough. Run a creative business and have been high functioning all my life. Last year work started drying up and with mortgage pressure and business pressure I went into full fear mode and am now thoroughly burnt out. Not high functio... View more

Hi All, doing it tough. Run a creative business and have been high functioning all my life. Last year work started drying up and with mortgage pressure and business pressure I went into full fear mode and am now thoroughly burnt out. Not high functioning anymore although coping on the work front when I need to. Cant socialise, seeing a psychiatrist, had a tough time getting on an off various meds. The hardest thing is it just feels like it's never going to end. I keep reading/hearing things get better and you'll grow from all this but Im just feeling stuck and overwhelmed.

Expectations

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Hi angels. On the outside I look like this positive uplifting girl. Jokes and laughs with others, has money and encourages others. Yet I feel like I'm dying on the inside. Suffocated my expectations of beauty and grades and this perfect exterior. I c... View more

Hi angels. On the outside I look like this positive uplifting girl. Jokes and laughs with others, has money and encourages others. Yet I feel like I'm dying on the inside. Suffocated my expectations of beauty and grades and this perfect exterior. I constantly feel like everyone's life is more valuable and meaningful than mine. I feel alone even when I surrounded by friends and family. Their comments constantly feel hollow and fake, as if there is no meaning. I constantly feel these great expectations towards me. My mum expects a lot from me, I expect a lot from me. I constantly compare myself to others, and feel hopeless. I try my best, staying up until late nights studying, pushing my body past it's limits. I feel this pressure crushing me underneath, unable to do or say anything to make myself feel better. I'm only 12 but I've still never felt pure joy in anything, in happiness or my accomplishments. The weight of expectations feels like it's crushing me, nobody seems to understand me. And when they act like they do it sounds shallow, meaningless, like something to fill the empty space. As if it isn't meant to mean anything but just fill the awkward quietness. To act like they care when they don't. Recently the air has just felt different, louder, looser. Words are meaningless, life feels pointless. - Dollie

Targeted and humiliated

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There is a certain type of confident extrovert that appear to go out of their way to make introverts uncomfortable. As if shining a torch on someone, as if pointing them out to force unwanted attention onto them.My most recent experience (as the intr... View more

There is a certain type of confident extrovert that appear to go out of their way to make introverts uncomfortable. As if shining a torch on someone, as if pointing them out to force unwanted attention onto them.My most recent experience (as the introvert) with this, is a situation that caused me anxiety.I am struggling to deal with a particular colleague. This character swans around his workplace like an absolute king. He is loud, highly social, fast, witty and very popular. His whole brand is to be edgy, to get a reaction, his 'teasing style' is dismissed as a bit of banter and hey, what a fun guy.For a long time, I found him to be just mildly annoying, in the way he made jokes at my expense, as he did this with many people.Recently, during one shift, I could sense that from the start of the shift this guy was really targeting me. He was staring right at me for so much time during group conversations when others spoke, totally sizing me up and ready to just take me down. He made negative comments in response to my every word and action. But framed so conveniently as just joking around - he has every comment carefully delivered to appear as a bit of fun banter. Nothing about race, religion or appearance - it was more of mocking my choice of words, my hesitation of words, the way I conduct myself.I take pride in my work, and I'm always open to feedback, but he loudly brought attention to my weaknesses during a work task. The moment felt like an eternity. I really wanted some sort of diversion. I was extremely uncomfortable. Like he just kept at me, turning his jokes and my reaction into some sort of theatre for everyone's entertainment. The laughter from my co-workers was something I just didn't need to hear. I felt humiliated publicly. Worthless. Defeated. I could sense that this guy really enjoyed this moment. His smug expression really gave me the feeling that he knew exactly what he was causing to happen, and that he knew that he wouldn't be questioned about it from anyone. He was able to shift attention away from himself so that all eyes were on me to revel in my discomfort.It really makes me feel down, not just about my own life , but down about the world. Why are there terrible people out there, why do they target the quiet and innocent people who are just trying to enjoy life? I've always aimed to be a good person and treat others with respect, so why am I the one stuck in this depressive hole, hating myself, taking a whole weekend to recover??

My son might be going to prison

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My son is in his early 30s never been in trouble with police never had fight . and struggled after him and his girlfriend split only dating 12 months they both carried on messaging she was saying wanting a break but still seeing him.His head all over... View more

My son is in his early 30s never been in trouble with police never had fight . and struggled after him and his girlfriend split only dating 12 months they both carried on messaging she was saying wanting a break but still seeing him.His head all over the place suffering with his mental health.He drove to her house to speak to her once there 5 people there including new boyfriend. Which ended in a fight other guy got a bust lip my son scraps n bumps lasted 30 secs.On returning to his car they followed he had some tools in his car got a tool waved it 4 times walked back to his car.So not great at all not taking from what he's done but now might be going to prison find out in a few weeks.On scale of crime I'd say lower end and people get off doing far worse.Prior to this he dated girl for 12 years and helped bring up her nephew since birth and supported her he's always been kind n caring guy.But struggled with this he knew once this happened he needed help and went out saw a drvand seeing psychologist. Mentally not only for him mine is suffering also my heart is broken for him as had everything .Yes I feel sorry for his ex also .

Idek what to say

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When the floor disappears

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Hi, I have been very low for the past 2 weeks and normally I lift after a few days but this time it feels like the floor has disappeared from under me.The anxiety, panic, overwhelming fear , the paranoia and dread, everything will fail and come to a ... View more

Hi, I have been very low for the past 2 weeks and normally I lift after a few days but this time it feels like the floor has disappeared from under me.The anxiety, panic, overwhelming fear , the paranoia and dread, everything will fail and come to a catastrophic end . And to think prior to this I was confident and enjoying life being the man who is on top of everything .I run a small business and its going well, I manage clients, i look after my elderly parents, etc etc if there’s an issue Im motivated to resolve it. Looking back I was oblivious to what lay ahead.Since I was young I had highs and lows , medicated then stopped and managed with excesses . This time is different and I actually reached out for helpKeep talking, messaging, communicating how you feel and we will find a way round this mess.

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