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Chris_B Forums etiquette: give support to receive support
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Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newb... View more

Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newbies are welcomed when they first post, and we understand that it’s a big step to post for the first time on a forum like this, especially if you aren’t feeling great. It’s important to remember, though, that these forums are a community of real people, just like you, not a one-on-one support environment like going to see your psychologist. To get the best out of being here, one of the best tips we can offer is give support to receive support. Being a good community member means: participating in different threads (not just your own), replying to people who have taken the time to reply to you (even if it’s just to say thank you), and... posting words of emotional support and encouragement when you see others who are hurting and reaching out. You don’t have to feel obliged to solve the problems of others: that’s not what we’re here for. But you can offer empathy and what you’ve learned from your own life experiences, even if it’s just a line or two, eg. “I don't know what to say, but I want to give you my support and tell you I care about what is happening to you and hope life will get better soon.” Try to develop an interest in the journeys of others here on the forums. You may be surprised at how good being an active, caring member here can make you feel. For those of you who have had good experiences giving support here on the forums, please post in this thread here and let us know how it has helped you on your journey.

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Guest_07474344 Fear of driving
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I want to know if anyone has successfully overcome a fear of driving. I have limited places I can drive to and cannot to motorways, large duel carriageways or any news places. I have convinced myself I can’t read maps or signs and find even the idea ... View more

I want to know if anyone has successfully overcome a fear of driving. I have limited places I can drive to and cannot to motorways, large duel carriageways or any news places. I have convinced myself I can’t read maps or signs and find even the idea of driving to new places completely overwhelming. I’ve tried many times since passing g my test 29 years ago and the panic attacks are getting worse. There are even places I used to drive to that I now can’t. It limits me in so many ways.

Guest_25694560 My anxiety is too hard
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I have recently been diagnosed with anxiety and it is really hard. I’m usually really outgoing and it’s made me into a person that never wants to leave the house. I haven’t been able to go to work without having panick attacks and i will loose my job... View more

I have recently been diagnosed with anxiety and it is really hard. I’m usually really outgoing and it’s made me into a person that never wants to leave the house. I haven’t been able to go to work without having panick attacks and i will loose my job if i keep calling in sick because i have anxiety. How do i get through a shift at work?

Guest_45750852 Daily Living
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Hey Guys, looking to hear some real world stories about how you are able to navigate your anxiety with an ex while coparenting.

Hey Guys, looking to hear some real world stories about how you are able to navigate your anxiety with an ex while coparenting.

Rosie Anxiety, OCD, paranoia and depression
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I am a 63 years old spinster who has a few mental health problems to say the least. They include anxiety, OCD, paranoia, depression, agoraphobia, social phobia, hyper-sensitivity and suicidal thoughts to begin with. I have been isolated for decades w... View more

I am a 63 years old spinster who has a few mental health problems to say the least. They include anxiety, OCD, paranoia, depression, agoraphobia, social phobia, hyper-sensitivity and suicidal thoughts to begin with. I have been isolated for decades with no friends or contact with my family, which is my fault as I have isolated myself and I don't want to be a burden. They once told me I'm very depressing and negative which is probably true. I find it very difficult to connect with people because I mistrust them and over think everything they say to the point I am left exhausted. I'm on medication and it helps with my OCD but nothing else, and like many others, cannot afford counselling. I retired in 2019 as I had a breakdown at work due to bullying. I have no self confidence, and see myself as repulsive. I only leave my house once a week to food shop and I cover my face with a large hat and wear sunglasses and have headphones on to try and hide. I wish I knew how to enjoy life on my own but have been made to feel such shame and guilt. I'm also being bullied by my neighbours who play cruel jokes on me so I often ring Lifeline when it gets really bad. In Feburary they set off fireworks right outside my house which terrified me as the sparks landed in my front yard and roof also they like to tip my wheelie bins over. I've never bothered any of them but they are a small gang of four roughly the same age as me but unlike me they are very social. I can't remember the last time I felt safe and happy. Sorry but I'm feeling very overwhelmed with life.

Jeanie1 Anxious days
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Hello, I am new to these forums so I hope you might be able to help me. I am constantly in Fight or Flight mode. My son is going through a very nasty custody battle with his partner who is a Narcissist, though I think she is bordering on Psycotic. Th... View more

Hello, I am new to these forums so I hope you might be able to help me. I am constantly in Fight or Flight mode. My son is going through a very nasty custody battle with his partner who is a Narcissist, though I think she is bordering on Psycotic. There are constant lies told by her, false accusations to Police and instances trying to 'frame' our family to stop us having any access to our grandchildren as well as keeping our son away from his children. I am always on standby waiting for the next lie told, the next time my son has to make a statement to Police regarding her false accusations , it never ends. I can find no one to help us. I feel my anxiety is out of control, headaches, panic, bitten fingernails and unable to relax due to fear of this person. I'm hoping someone might be able to help control my anxiety, so I am better to cope with the next allegation. Thankyou.

Guest_11534278 Stress
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I’ve getting stress headaches I assume, just need to talk to someone out of it

I’ve getting stress headaches I assume, just need to talk to someone out of it

Guest_53871251 Severe anxiety depression
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Hi all first time poster on forum. Ive been experiencing severe depression for 20yrs now and everyday im exhausted to the point i sleep everyday im so frustrated i cant get motivated i stay in the house hate going out in public i like the peace and q... View more

Hi all first time poster on forum. Ive been experiencing severe depression for 20yrs now and everyday im exhausted to the point i sleep everyday im so frustrated i cant get motivated i stay in the house hate going out in public i like the peace and quiet of living on my own though but just want to know from others how they broke the cycle of these daily struggles

sparrowhawk Getting married and not sure how to cope
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Hi everyone! Little backstory to me - I’m in my 30s, have a fair bit of childhood trauma (was born with a physical condition and went through a lot of misunderstanding, discrimination and bullying, though my family is awesome). In my twenties I lived... View more

Hi everyone! Little backstory to me - I’m in my 30s, have a fair bit of childhood trauma (was born with a physical condition and went through a lot of misunderstanding, discrimination and bullying, though my family is awesome). In my twenties I lived in a religious community where I experienced emotional and psychological abuse. I left that community two years ago, very unwell with anorexia (which I now know was triggered by trauma). Since then I’ve had a lot of PTSD issues. Flashbacks, irritability, nightmares, heightened anxiety, self-blame for what happened, and social/situational avoidance. I’ve not really been treated consistently for the PTSD. I met my fiancé last year and we are getting married in October. My fiancé is wonderful, honestly the kindest person I’ve ever met, and he has been so accepting of me and my issues. I really want to marry him and I know we are meant to be together. But I just can’t cope. I can’t cope with the fact that someone wants to be with me because all I hear are the messages from my trauma. I don’t feel good enough, I don’t feel deserving of goodness, and being loved and wanted just feels like too much. I’ve been having a lot more crying episodes (picture full-on sobbing) and triggers lately and I wonder if it’s connected to that. Talking about this makes me feel a bit dumb, because who would be upset or anxious about being loved??? My natural instinct tells me it’s much better for me to be alone, because then I can’t be hurt and I can’t hurt other people, but I can’t really do that in this instance. I think the crux of it is that I feel so incredibly undeserving of all the good things I have, I just can’t cope with goodness, and it just feels like way too much. I’ve talked to my fiancé about this a little and he always tells me I am deserving and he loves me, but I don’t want to overwhelm him with this. I’ve felt very happy planning our wedding day, but now thinking about it makes me feel a little apprehensive - not that I don’t want to marry him, just that having such a day celebrating us feels like way too much for my brain, because I don’t deserve it.

Guest_31823482 Feeling lost
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I am really struggling right now.... My mum has metastatic lung cancer, terminal cancer. I'm devastated. I have a small business and have a large tax bill coming up, as well as BAS bills for the next financial year... I am trying to work out how to p... View more

I am really struggling right now.... My mum has metastatic lung cancer, terminal cancer. I'm devastated. I have a small business and have a large tax bill coming up, as well as BAS bills for the next financial year... I am trying to work out how to pay this but reduce my earnings so I don't qualify for BAS which will reduce my bills.... I suffer from chronic migraines, and have fainted 2x times... and saw mt doxtor today, and have just been told I may not be able to drive for 6 months... which means I cant pay my bills!!!!! I am so lost, I dont know how to get through this ....

Fzyy Health anxiety!
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Hello, Im sure other people suffer from health anxiety and I do too, and it’s really bad. Considering my age, I’m very young but even the tiniest throb, headache, cough worries me and it’s draining me faster and worse than my own health can. It’s ext... View more

Hello, Im sure other people suffer from health anxiety and I do too, and it’s really bad. Considering my age, I’m very young but even the tiniest throb, headache, cough worries me and it’s draining me faster and worse than my own health can. It’s extremely scary and I can’t seem to find people with similar constant Symptoms that come with their anxiety, no matter how much research I do so I’m convinced it’s something bad. Which makes me feel unmotivated to do absolutely anything, I leave things to the very last minute and I can’t even keep up with basic hygiene because I feel like there’s no use, also makes me feel awful. When I do get random boosts of motivation (rarely) or feel like I can calm down, I immediately can’t anymore, I tense up or get even slightly anxious that something bad will happen after that and that’s the only reason I was allowed to be “normal” for a bit, so I leave that and force myself to feel more down and empty, But in general everything feels meaningless at the same time. If anyone feels similar I’d love for a reply!