Feeling Scared Again.

[Beaser]

Hi and best wishes to everyone.  I know that there are people doing it so much harder than me. But i just feel defeated at the moment.  Im just so lonely and i miss my ex partner so much and i know i have to move on .I started a new job that i was going well at but i couldnt go in on Wednesday and i feel really bad about it. Im sick of fighting this battle and im tired from it. Just how much do i have to go through . Im sorry to be on such a downer but i dont know where to turn to at the moment.    If i break it down im lonely and scared.

I wish every one a good day .   Brett.

[Beaser]

Hi Ham.

Thanks for your kind reply.    

Well i have to be honest in saying that i cant really give advice as such but just share some of my thoughts and experiences.  

Im not sure if you see any professionals' but dont settle for anyone i found it important to find one that im confident in.

Also dont be scared to open up to friends or family {that you feel comfortable with} .   Its interesting some of the people i have been honest with were originally people who i thought least of opening up too.

A big thing ive realized is not to feel as though people are judgemental of me , the majority out there are busy whith there own things and arent taking too much notice of me.  

At your age please try and get around people even its just for a short time its not only good for you but if you show an interest in how they are you may well be just giving them a lift too.       

Happy to talk more         Beaser.

[HamSolo01]

Hey beaser and cheers for your post

Yeah tbh I think many guys my age are struggling - career, relationships, dating, money, status......

My approach these days is to just take the p***

I reckon we are at a stage now where we can be open about things amongst each other.

I think your advice is spot on mate. Get around people. So true. I find myself having learned some of life's biggest lessons from people just being around them. I have travelled a bit too and have learned this from others. 

I can tell you're a good bloke mate

Hope to speak more with you

[Beaser]

Hey H.

Always happy to chat with you.  

Im interested in you saying that  your approach is to just take the pi** .  Just wondering how you go about that .    Might be something good for me.

Beaser.

[sarahconor17]

Dear friend, whatever happened in the past do not exist anymore. You have to create a new life and reach new achievements. It is necessary to focus on present life, cause in the future this time will be the past. I usually think about the past when I am working, so I started to relax more. It is very important to relax effectively to get rid of anxiety overload.

[Beaser]

Hi Sarah'

Thank you for your reply . I know that you are right about the past.   Its just hard at times.  Brett

[HamSolo01]

Gday Beaser 

Good to hear from you again. Apologies for the slight delay in getting back to you - between last time we chatted and now I have been in another state. 

Back home now and back into the swing of work

In terms of taking the pi$$ i don't quite know how to explain it. 
I guess it's a way of pointing out the absurd in a humorous way. To point out the stupid or insane that just goes by in everyday life with none of us point out. 

To give you an example: Not too long ago I was at the train station and there was a long queue from the platform to the exit. There were stairs there and everyone was going down them at snail's pace. One commuter had a bag with them and was dragging it along (it had wheels of course). But when they hit the stairs, rather than carry it they just dragged it down behind them so every 2 seconds there was a loud THUD every time it hit the ground. It was actually quite noticeable and annoying and I couldn't help myself and said under my breath "just pick the damn thing up". One old lady nearby laughed and agreed. 

Another example was actually a few years ago. I parked at the beach and I had actually managed to push the wooden fence at the end of the parking space forward. I had overshot the margin basically. Anyway as I was getting out this old scotsman made some passing remark "you couldn't have parked any closer if you tried" and pointed out my error. This irked me a bit. I was a bit put off by this man just commenting on it. I happened to notice that he had done the same with his car - whereby he overparked the line. I made some flippant comment "neither could you it seems"

My point isn't to pick on people's mistakes. but to point out the absurdity of it all. You might like a philosopher by the name of Albert Camus actually. Check him out. 

I think it's also good to watch comedy shows, watch comedians doing stand up or similar. These are the types of characters we need in life. Those who can articulate the funny side of things in other words. 

Not too sure if this helps. 

My best as always

H

[HamSolo01]

Howdy there Beaser

I do hope you're well. 

Hows things?

[Beaser]

Hi H

Thanks for checking in buddy. 

I havent been at my best.     I made a silly mistake on Friday when i was going away for the weekend.  I accidently put 14 ltrs of petrol in my diesel ute.  It has been ok so far but im stressing if ive damaged it as i dont have the money to get it repaired. Im also not enjoying work and am looking for something else.   

Sorry to be on a bit of a downer but i just need to vent i guess.   

How have you been?  I hope your well its great to be in touch with you.

Beaser

[Moonstruck]

Hello Beaser.....you may regret my posting this..I probably will to..sorry if it upsets you.  I had to vent too. I am on a downer too.....I am feeling an emotion, a condition I can't recognise in having for decades.    I have been "alone" a lot and like my own space....I don't get bored.  I like my own company....this emotion I am feeling I realise now is "lonely".    My man , my partner, the one on this earth who loved me died a couple of years ago now..and I am so Lonely I cannot bear it!   Nothing fills the empty hole inside me..nothing.   Nothing gives me joy. My smiles and interaction and laughs with others do not touch my heart or anything within me...they are just social expressions.  I don't mope around.   so no one can see the huge empty hole leaving hardly any room left for "me".      No one knows.    To be face to face with the relentless Loneliness is a new and horrible experience for me.   I don't know what to do with it...where to send it, what to say to it, how to incorporate it into my life, friends and family.     It is becoming stronger than I am.    I hope you are better than I am Beaser....I am sure you are.  You will be OK.

[Beaser]

Hi Moonstruck.

Its nice to hear from you even in such tough times for you. 

Im really sorry for what you go through and i certainly dont regret hearing from you as you may think.  

I dont know if either of us are any better than the other  i think our own battles are just that and they hurt like hell. 

I want to send you my love and best wishes and im always here to talk       Beaser